Boyfriend of two years deleted me from Facebook!

[allison33]

My best friend is also friends with my boyfriend on Facebook. The other night my best friend showed me some comments he had made to another girl on her page that I'm not friends with. He was commenting on how he liked her hair long and that she looked good. I'm lucky if I can get a compliment out of him. I got upset and brought it up to him and then he blocked me and deleted me from his Facebook. It really pisses me off especially since we live together. I don't know what to do or how to handle this situation. Any advice?

[ObscuredBeyond]

This is one of the many reasons that I don't believe in couples living together before marriage. I realize I will probably be crucified for saying that. But seriously...move out. Any man who can't be faithful to you and respectful, and not block you for petty reasons, and will save up to marry you, doesn't deserve to move in with you.

I sure hope you haven't been giving him a whole lot of sex, because he certainly hasn't earned it.

A gal I once knew was a real user. So that's my frame of reference. If he's gonna act like her with her numerous exes, then he doesn't really deserve anyone - least of all you.

And yes, NeighborGuy has a point. Facebook is one of the most abused social tools ever invented.

[Yellowsmurf]

I agree with most of what you said but, you know, this is exactly the reason why people should live together before marriage. If he's like this, he would be like this - married or not. This way she's tried what it's like and moving out is just that, if she had married him before it wouldn't have changed who he is and now she'd be looking at a divorce on top of everything else.

[ObscuredBeyond]

Communication is the key, not living together. When you live together, you're already over-invested. Which means, you try harder to not respond correctly to warning signs. You want to make it work, because moving back out would be so much trouble.

Plus, living together tends to hamper proper communication. When you have to actually reach out to communicate, you're less inclined to take the date for granted. You don't indulge as much what you haven't earned.

[ObscuredBeyond]

And the statistics are not in your favor, Yellowsmurf. Cohabitation statistically leads to MORE, not fewer, divorces. And uglier ones at that. And if a woman who already has children moves in with a boyfriend who is not the father of those children? The children are statistically 5000% more likely to be murdered by him. If you chose to live like lions, you start behaving like lions.

[Yellowsmurf]

If you think that's a statistic not in my favor then you really don't understand what I said in the first place. There's no such thing as a divorce if there wasn't a marriage. I'm assuming you've never lived together while in a relationship because most of what you said sounds like magazine text and not actual experience. Getting married after is a major mistake. Moving out is trouble? How about divorcing then moving out?

[Yellowsmurf]

As for the pre-children thing...If the guy's a kiddie murderer and you can't tell before moving in together, how does marrying the guy stop him from killing her kids, exactly? Your last metaphor makes no sense.

[ObscuredBeyond]

Marrying him won't. But if you allow cohabiting at all, many women will use it as a substitute for marriage. And at that point, objectivity flies out the window. If a woman has to marry before moving in, she'll have incentive to do more research than just "oh, he makes me feel warm and fuzzy on a date" before putting him where her children can be in danger.

Subjective thinking about objective moral concerns is the apathy that killed the cat.

[AshiefVonell]

My assessment of this would be that he is that he is flirting with girls and doesn't want you to see. If it was nothing he wouldn't make such a big deal about it. Especially if you are living together. Its definitely not a good sign.

I say you should talk to him about it again. I don't know how serious you two are but if you are living together this kind of behavior is far beneath you.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like he's mad because he got caught flirting with another girl.

It is just Facebook, but here's the thing - hiding ANYTHING from your partner is fishy. Honestly, if it were me, I'd assume he's cheating or at least trying to cheat. If he was completely innocent, he wouldn't want to or even feel the need to block you from seeing what he's doing and saying.

It's a bad sign, it may be time to get out of this relationship.

Ugh, Facebook. I've never had it and never will.

[blondiedancer94]

Make him move out. You shouldn't have to bear the torture of him toying with your emotions and be forced to move out. He brought it upon himself. The relationship is headed no where after that and he's obviously very immature. You'd be better off with any other man and deserve someone who treats you right and cares about you and compliments you. But after that, you definitely deserve the apartment as well. Good luck and I hope everything turns out right for you.

[beerY33]

You're not dating him anymore. He can say what he wants to other girls, and he shouldn't have to justify it to you. I have deleted exes and people I'm no longer friends with because if they're not a part of my life anymore, there is really no reason to be looking at their Facebook or for them to have access to mine.

[beerY33]

oh, not an ex. oops. well, what was his response when you brought it up to him? jealousy is never attractive, but you're justified in being a little upset over this. don't let it get to you too much, though, Facebook isn't real life. blocking you is a little suspicious, though, if you're still dating.

[Mrcdinis]

request your friend to see it for you and find out for your self.

if needed, take some screenshots of it and show that to him and see his reaction. If he becomes defensive about it saying "you're steeling my privacy" responde by "you're steeling my life by doing this" cause that's what's happening

although... don't be obsessive about that

[PhilaPenn]

You did it to yourself...he complimented a girl...big dea. If he

d been caught making plans to meet up with her or making real comments that were over the line...then that would be a different story. But this is small and petty, and he was probably right to delete you. It doesn't do anyone any good to be on their significant others' Facebook. Let it go, or he might let you go.

[AnonGuy]

Bad relationship. Move out. The sooner the better.

Or go ahead an suffer a few more years until you learn to move out on your own. (This is far more likely.)

[Niceguy97]

F*** that f***** if he's gonna compliment a girl and block you ... Your suppose to keep on with it? , honestly I would be a boyfriend every girl would want I'm nice and never lie steal nor cheat ... Tell him it's either you leave or that bitch should stop complementing girls when he doesn't complement his own

[why-makoto-kun]

Omg. He is a big baby. Seriously, you caught him flirting with another girl (inappropriate) and he didn't like that the power balance was messed up. I would leave.

[Anonymous]

He's cheating or trying too. Been there done that exact same thing. Delete the girlfriend so she don't see the comments. Trust me If he's not it's the start of it.

[guitar903]

Facebook message the girl who he is hitting on and tell her what the guy did. Then he won't be able to have either of you. He doesn't deserve a girl at all

[Lyinglowchicago]

Yes that will work unless she's a prick like him.

[Zekalonley]

My boyfriend of two years deleted Facebook , deleted me and created a new page with no face but under his own name. Won't add me to his new page then lied and said he doesn't talk on messenger deleted me off that as well
And I have confronted him that led to a fight.
We live together

[MRGQ12]

Well first if you live together, you should know more about him then what he does on Facebook. second he sounds like an immature idiot! Find someone more worthy of you

[emzy-89]

You can either cut your losses and move out now and break it off or wait for him to cheat on you. He's clearly dishonest and wants to have his cake and eat it too.

[Anonymous]

The only advice worth giving - stop trying to control what he does on social media.

It's that simple.

If you're going to break up with guy, at least have the decency to find a real reason. And not flippin Facebook.

[NeighbourGuy]

Don't let this Facebook sh*t ruin your life,this stupid thing called Facebook does more bad than good,it was meant to connect people with each other but it became more like annoying sh*t and attention whoring tool

[Anonymous]

dump him disappear from his life so he suffers wondering how he lost a great girl like you...

move out don't even tell him where your going tell your friends not to talk to him

[Anonymous]

what's a two year old doing with a Facebook account and a 25 year old girlfriend?

[RedSmartie]

Well, since you live together he can't very well avoid you. Corner him and demand an explanation.

[ColtsFanForever]

sounds to me he's trying to cheat with another girl. If you live with each other then you have a problem. Just move out and dump him asap

[Anonymous]

you live with him... just talk to him... like in real life...

[Anonymous]

It's just Facebook. Who cares if he deleted you? You're still in a relationship with him and you live with him.

[Koldhearted]

Good god the problems Facebook causes.

[Marrryyyyy]

lol..made me laugh :)