After about 4 months of being apart (she broke up with me for her ex)...moved back home out of state with him. She wanted to be friends and said she loved me when she broke up, I agreed. We just haven't contacted each other in over a month. I wasn't ready to just be friends, so I was waiting. But today I notice that she deleted me and my friends/family off of facebook. Except for one of my good friends (they don't have any emotional connection). She lives out of state now...why would she leave him as a friend, but delete all of me and my family? I don't get it.
As soon as I was feeling a little better, and moving on this happens...she is the sweetest girl, and after talking over a month ago, she mentioned her ex and how he might propose and everything. I said I still wanna be friends and I really mean it. I didn't get emotional, as I promised I wouldn't bring us up in that kind of way anymore. What are the possible reasons for her to do that, without even an explanation...now I am all messed up again..ahhh. lol
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Let me explain this to you. She used the "friendship" card to ease off of you slowly until she was over you and done with you. It wouldn't mattered if you would have tried to stay in touch with her, it wouldn't have happened. You should have moved on as soon as she suggested to be "friends". You fell for it and now you are experiencing the consequences that many men go through. Now you might be thinking, "no she is not like that, she is nice sweet and caring". STOP defending her and see things the way they are. She is your EX because she went to ANOTHER GUY when she was done with you. Lets think about friends for a minute. Friends go out, talk at least weekly, do things together, have fun, and try to hook friends up with someone. Guess what, she wasn't going to do any of that with you for long or not at all reguardless of any distance. You boosted her ego by agreeing to that friendship crap. She KNOWS how you feel about her. So not only was it going to be on her terms, you have basically told her that you will always wait for her. Now you are swimming to shore, alone. The last time you were drowning in your feelings you helped her swim to shore, but look at your situation. Loving and missing a girl that has moved on from you completely without remorse, haven't moved on from her totally, fell for the "friendship" line to try to get her back someday or just keep her in your life, and all you can do now is move on. That's what you should have done in the first place when she told you that crap, move on and move forward to other girls. NEVER communicate with her again, even when she tries to talk to you or else you will be back at square 1 as far as being confused, especially if you have a new girl. Block her from facebook and all other social sites, don't text, don't call, and move on. She will try to talk to you when she has problems and thinks you are the only one that will be there for her, but ignore her when she does. Why? It's simple, you would become the emotional tampon and who needs that crap? You don't need an explanation. She left you, totally. She is done with you. The other guy filled in all the gaps. Cry your rivers, build your bridges, and get over it. There are many women out there, but you won't find them if you keep putting your life on hold for someone that doesn't want you. Move on, and remember this experience.1