This guy always visits me at work... how do I tell him I'm not available?

[Anonymous]

OK guys, there is this cute, mysterious guy who always comes to visit me at work. I have a feeling he likes me. We haven't really spoken yet expect the usual customer talk when he orders something. I think he is shy and doesn't really know how to make a move and that's okay.

I don't mind him visiting me every day but on the other hand I don't want him to think that he has a chance with me. The thing is I have a boyfriend and he doesn't know. What should I do? Should I do nothing and just let him visit me, keep it as it is, or should I hint him that I'm not available?

I was thinking of leaving him a small note attached to a cup as he usually orders hot chocolate milk saying something along these lines: "I've noticed you come here a lot. You're cute and seem like a genuinely nice guy, but I think you should know that I have a boyfriend." - Or is this over the top?

What do you think I should do? Should I even bother?

[prettypersuasion]

What makes you assume he likes you? Because he eats there everyday? Maybe he really likes the food? If you haven't even spoken outside of taking his order I have no idea how you've come to your conclusion. Either way, yes it would be way too over the top to put a note like that on his cup. If he comes on to you, tell him you have a boyfriend. Otherwise leave him alone and let him drink his hot chocolate in peace.

[Asker]

You have a point here, but my instincts are usually right. It's just the way he looks at me and smiles at me. Even after he has ordered he kinda hangs around for a minute and checks me out. I don't know. I could be wrong, though I don't think I am. I usually sense pretty quickly when a guy likes me. Maybe you're right and leaving a note is a little over the top. I'll wait till he makes a move and tell him I'm not available...that of course IF he'll ever make a move. :P