Do you get along better with the same or opposite gender?

[blahblahblah12]

Honestly, the opposite gender. I don't know why, doesn't mean I don't have good female friends, but I feel as if though generally in my experience, a friendship with a male is more honest and genuine. GENERALLY. Yet, at the same time, there's always the fear of either party getting the wrong impression.

[jrose]

Opposite for sure. I've had groups of girl friends, and I still have a few close female friends, but for the most part I have mostly guy friends and am more comfortable in the company of guys. Friendships with guys just seem so much easier for me, and with far less drama. I can only think of one girl friend of mine who I haven't had drama with and really, who needs it? I find that my best guy friends are awesome listeners and I love that they'll help me snap out of something that's bothering me by taking me out for some fun. And, as much as it can be nice to have a girl to commiserate with, I found that my guy friends' hugs are the most comforting thing in the world during the toughest experiences of my life (death of friends & family).

I think it's kind of funny that a lot of the guys are saying there's stuff they can't do with girls because I have to say my guy friends have taken me along mailboxing, to the strip clubs, playing pool or poker etc, without any real awkwardness on either side. I don't always tag along on boys' nights because I know sometimes guys just want to be with "the boys" just like girls sometimes want a girls' night, but generally speaking I'm along for the ride and we're all pretty comfortable with each other. Nobody watches their language around me- swearing, details of their exploits are all fair game- and I'm not adverse to helping them pick out girls in a bar, every once in awhile they even return the favour and help me find a cute guy.

As for the potential misinterpretation of the friendship- I won't lie and say there's never been sexual tension between me and any of my guy friends- two in particular. But, after addressing the issue (and deciding NOT to take that road) we were able to just get past it, and our friendships have been no worse for it.

Don't get me wrong- I'm not saying every once in awhile I don't need a girl to rant to, I do- because there are some things, no matter how awesome the guy, that you just need a girl for. Guys tend to have less patience for anything you need to obsess over- be it ex, crush, guilt over a fight you had with your mother etc. But, if you asked me to choose just one person as a friend, it would definitely be a guy.

[blahblahblah12]

I definitely agree with your answer! It's true that even though girls are much more comfortable to rant to, some of them tend to rant "your rants" to their other friends, and that's where the whole drama and backstabbing can commence. Honestly, it's not only girls who do that of course, it's anyone immature in general, but it's not easy to find a genuine "girl friend" who isn't prone to starting problems or engaging in jealousy and bad-mouthing. I think that the only times that guys would have a

[blahblahblah12]

-- false or "non" genuine friendship with a girl is if he's just trying to get into her pants. I mean sometimes there's emoitions you can't control but I think it's pretty fake to get start a friendship with someone soley based on the fact that you'd like to have sex with them. Sometimes they'll even go as far as to try and break you and boyfriend up. Jealous girls might try to do the same though. Either way, there seems to be less malice on the guy's part, just because he doesn't mean you harm.

[collegegrl18]

Guys omg guys I can't stand chicks no offense but I just talk more easily to boys but like strictly platonic. If I know he has a crush on me and I'm attracted to him too then it's awkward but if were just hanging out I like talking to guys better. They don't hold onto stupid grudges, and talk behind you're back at least most don't they tell you to you're face and I like that. I would rather someone curse me out to my face then whisper behind my back like a coward. Boys are hilarious too and so much fun to hang out with and get in trouble with haha. I'm a bit of a football jock myself so boys dig me ha ha lmao. But seriously I've just always gotten along with boys more than girls.

[helpingjessie]

opposite. a lot of my friends are 1-50 years older than me and most are male just because they happen to be more laid back and open with me when talking about personal and serious topics, unlike a lot of girls I know who only talk about gossip and the latest outfit. bleh! :p

btw I do know there are nice women out there that are not like that but I'm just saying a lot in my area are. I find myself able to relate to guys better and more occouringly than females, I do have some female friends like me tho. :)

[GoodManDave]

Same gender.

I get along better with guys, generally speaking. I think that there's not that tension of "someday possibly liking them in a romantic kind of way" so I can talk about a ton of stuff. Plus, girls aren't as much into the things I'm interested in, so there's less to talk about with a girl.

Honestly, girls just don't seem to give a darn about who I am or what I do. I mean, out of 30 girls, perhaps one will actually ask me questions about myself without me having to find something in common, then volunteer that information. They don't ask questions back most of the time.

In the last six months, I've had ONE girl ask me my name, my favorite color, what I did for a living, give me a compliment (outside of being related to work) - stuff like that. The conversation flowed. It actually flowed fairly naturally.

It was almost... well, it was very nice to have a great 2 way conversation with a woman, and not feel like I was pulling teeth to ask them about themselves. I usually get the response of bored sounding, one word answers, which, frankly, isn't much of a response.

This seems to happen, especially when girls get boyfriends. They just seem to drop off the face of the planet when before, at least it'd be a basic response. With guys, even if they get girlfriends, they usually won't drop and not bother talking to you. t may be a heck of a lot less that you'll hang out, but except for moving or sudden life changes, the guys I've spoken to will still talk to me.

[jrose]

Actually, I find that when my best guy friend gets a new girlfriend he drops off the earth for about a month. I never take offense because, well, it's just how he is,and usually after I meet the new girl things are back to normal.I miss him during the time he's AWOL,but I know he's there if I ever really need him, he's just busy being wrapped up in his new love interest.I think it happens to all of us, but I agree it's important to stay in contact with your friends no matter what.

[jlee549]

Me too, except that girls don't even have an interest to talk to me, or do anything with me, at all, no matter how hard I try.

[PartyMarty47]

i grew up with two older sisters. Both are unbelievably strong women. not necessarily strong as in physical, although one is an iron man triathlete, but strong mentally as well. When I talk to women who aren't strong mentally I get a little annoyed and disinterested because I can't relate to them as well. As well I have no interest in girlie girls, the girls that go eeeh at pop stars and all that.

Most of my friends are male, simply because I find it easier. Its much easier to be offensive and aggressive and that is more appreciated by guys imo.

But when I make a female friend, I am friends with them for a really long time and connect with them in a much more profound way. I find I can understand them a lot more then guys and that they can understand me a lot more as well.

As well its harder to approach women and only be friends with them because they immediately think I'm hitting on them. Or at least they hope I am, (yes I'm hot sh*t) And yes sometimes I am hitting on them and sometimes I'm not. The girlfriends of my friends' I get along with very well, and one of my best friends is also the girlfriend of one of my best friends.

Anyway hopefully what you can get from this is that the fact that my siblings were both female can be a reason why I prefer female friends.

Good Day.

[reyz_05]

both.

[MichelleFox]

I get along more with males, because they tend to be less judgmental and I can't stand doing "girl talk" for hours at a time because I feel like girls just love to lay down their emotional problems on me. I sort of withdrew from all my old girl friends because they love getting involved with drama.

[blahblahblah12]

Me too! It's hard to try and not be the "comfort" friend girls go to whenever they need to spill the beans about something or have someone to vent with. Really, there's nothing wrong with that, but when it starts getting heavily loaded with drama they seem to want to involve you in it. And sometimes, they ruin the friendship because it seems that all they have to talk about is "me, me, me". And sure, I care what you have to say, but I'm not obsessed with you O__O

[bprox]

lol that prf. pic is awesome!

[SkyBlossom]

I think the reason you find it easier to hang with the opposite gender is because there isn't the cattiness and jealousy that can happen with girl friends. On the other hand, hanging with the guys can be a challenge because it can be like "a fish out of water", except if you really have a lot in common.

Personally I enjoy hanging with the guys because there is nothing I have to worry about, except if they want to get involved romantically with me, or if they turn out to be a psychostalker. Otherwise, it's very gratifying being in that chill environment. However it is crucial to have a couple of best girl friends, because like a mom or sister, you need the female perspective and the female connection because you can't relate to guys on certain levels and they can't help you with delicate matters.

[smbcomix]

I get along better with the opposite gender than I do my own. There's no competition, no lid being put on emotions, we're free to be honest and open. AND, whatever misconceptions I might have about the opposite gender are happily corrected. At the same time, it allows her to simply chill out and not have to "perform" in a conversation. She can relax and just be herself around me. All in all, it's a win-win.

Now, I wish I could say I was even remotely comfortable around my fellow guys, but honestly I'm not.

[cakelin]

opposite, BY FAR.

even if I wanted to get along with other girls, most don't give me the time of day. it's like I have BITCH tatted on my forehead, I must most because girls are mean to me with 1 look. despite the fact that I'm one of the nicest people I know.

but yeah I don't care because girl's interests don't interest mee anyways lol. I relate a lot more to guys and feel more normal with them; like I actually fit in.

who cares what other people think? if you honestly do just prefer chillin with guys vs. girls, and have good intentions for it, people will eventually realize your just a guy's girl :) take it from me bby girl. but be warned, people might start calling you a dyke even if you are clearly the farthest thing from

[rdr005]

I get along with everyone... though I'd have to say I generally get along with women more so than men. Probably because I've been known to be a "good guy friend." Having never dated and all that, and just overall being a comedic guy without having to get all sexual with women. On the same token though, I get along with guys too, but I'm more selective about the guys I hangout with. I prefer to hangout with a crowd that shares the same dark morbid sense of humor that I have, while not being a big ass party animal either. Women... I can get along with if they're the ditsy dumb type, or the party animals that ... I don't know why are even in college, but again, I'm selective and generally avoid them. I suppose I enjoy being around people that at least have (or act like they have) some class. I avoid the tool shed.

[beautyofbella]

yeah I know what you mean I have more guy friends than girls and same thing not that I don't like to have my girl time but guys seem to be easier to get along with? And I don't mind it at all but when I get in a relationship my current boyfriend gets jealous of the relationship I have with my guy friends. It gets really annoying and has caused many arguements. I've had to always be up front with my guy friends and say that .. that is all we are and will be .. usually that works. Most guys don't like to play games so if your up front in my experience it works out better :)

[jlee549]

I will be honest about this, but my answer is the same sex gender. I'm a 21-year-old guy, and I have only MALE friends; I have no female friends. This is because I always have trouble befriending girls, and whenever I (even try to) talk to them, they just end the conversations quickly, never smiled at me, and talked to other people. I feel like women just don't want to be my friend, at all, and I have decided to give up befriending them. Men, on the other hand, are the complete opposite, and it was very easy befriending them, and we have been friends ever since.

[bprox]

lol I was honestly getting ready to ask this question, to be really honest I get along 1,000,000,000,000 times better with guys. I can relate to them, have same humor as them, fight with them, talk about sports with them etc. girls I have to make stuff up or pretend to be interested, it sucks. trust me if I could be gay I would but I'm just not attracted to men soo, yeah I guess that sucks for me =P

oh but girls who I can do all that stuff with (except for fight) are super awesome

[blahblahblah12]

hmm... total misconception that girls pretend to be interested o__O I can't really recall when I pretended to be interested in a topic I wouldn't normally engage in, or an event I wouldn't go to, etc. This has more to do with the personality of the individual person rather than gender I think.

I love make-up, to me it's a form of expression (maybe cause I'm artsy and I study esthetics since I got a passion for anything skin-related), but I don't wear it everyday, and it's all in moderation.

[bprox]

wear I come from, all girls are christian, drugs (just to avoid the debate of what drugs are) are stupid, sex before marriage is stupid, sports are OK but we won't get to know them, make-up everywhere, long dresses. at least that's my school. not to much for me to relate to, at least not anything that can be a normal topic of discussion. so like I said I get along with guys better because more of them are accepting of this stuff

[blahblahblah12]

sounds like the girls where you live are mormon lmao. I guess they just don't know better, very few people are actual individuals, and most people just do and follow what everyone else is doing. I guess in some places acting all amish is a trend lol, but really, most of those girls just need to grow into their own character. I don't have anything against drugs though, pills are a problem for me, last time I've done that crap was in freshman year, too addictive at least in my case.

[bprox]

haha, yeah I'm not a pill popper just some mary and hardcore liqor. but yeah its really funny because every once in a while one of them will say something like how stupid it is to do pot, and then I just blast em. "why is it wrong? the bible doesn't say so." "well its terrible for your health" "thats only if you smoke it you can eat it vaporize it or drink it as well." and so on till eventually their like WTF?

[blahblahblah12]

ahh I'm kind of guilty with the hard liq too -__- lmao. I don't really smoke anymore, last time I did was the 5th of this month, and I had a really bad trip. I guess it was the people I was with, or maybe I just think too much. it's all up to the person though. I don't judge religious people, but I have a problem with the fact that they swear they're in the position to judge anybody else. And there are many things that are bad for your health, pot is nothing compared to other factors.

[bprox]

yeah I drank to much this sumer and passed out BAC=.32 ='( wasn't my best experience. lol but yeah I understand I especially hate when christians do it because I'm just like? really we worship the same God? how is that?

[blahblahblah12]

I've had alcohol poisoning before, it wasn't the best experience I can tell you that O__O vomitting everywhere I couldn't even stand up I was just crawling around the bathroom floor. And honestly, most religions are filled with ignorant, judgmental people who label everything "heaven" or "hell". There's more than the concept of right and wrong, and ethics is just up to the individual. But if you try explaining it to them they'll just doom you to the lake of fire O__O lol

[bprox]

haha, either that or they'll just pick one thing out and stick to it no matter how irrational it is (biblical, like obey the law of the land) I'll say but do you really think God would make a law that's so loose I mean if I was a christian in another country I could smoke pot but I'm not a christian if I smoke pot in america? lol so on and so forth but they just say... unbiblical

[blahblahblah12]

Ahh this is why I say that anything that ties you down to one belief or thought is ignorant (I don't want to say only religion, but you get the drift). I just think that most people advocating those "beliefs" are just hypocrites. It's like mind control in a way, doesn't let you think outside the box -__- it's really frustrating trying to even have a decent convo with people like that, it's like you have to be prepared to be wrong at any turn lol which is why I rather be agnostic and open minded.

[bprox]

ehh, I mean I agree with them on stuff like Christianity is the only way or whatever (sorry) but I mena every religion does that. do I like that the Bible says that to be honest no, do I dislike a bit of waht the Bible says yes, but I believe it is true so I should follow it either way, I think in general people are ignorant you know? I mean they refuse to think for themselves whether christian or atheist or whatever they just base their opinions off of what others tell them... which sucks

[blahblahblah12]

it's true that ignorance isn't only found in religions. I think that in today's society, ignorance is everywhere, especially in the media. We have so many ways of receiving information now in days, that ignorance isn't really exclusive to just one frame of thought. And it's true that people do refuse to think for themselves which is sad -_- I think that it's much more brave to make the CHOICE of following a belief than just being born into it or to be "nothing" because it's a trend.

[bprox]

definitley, valid point

[aly-marie]

I'm with "neither", I'm not very sociable in general lol.

But I do find that guys are usually easier to talk to, probably for numerous reasons. They don't take things as personally, aren't very interested in drama, and (often) have some sort of romantic interest that makes them act much more friendly.

I can't really imagine having a DEEP friendship with a guy though, as a girl - something feels lacking in my life if I don't have a girl to be.. well, girlie with.

[blahblahblah12]

it's true that sometimes you just need to be a girl with well, another girl. It's kind of awkward telling guy friends extremely intimate things about you that most girls will just automatically "get". There is always some sort of romantic interest when you're friends with a guy though, and sometimes when they're "non-judgemental" they can just be telling you what you want to hear, but then again some girls wil tell you things out of spite or jealousy. It's all in the individual though.

[Kamilah]

Opposite sex all the time for me. Its not that I don't have female friends but just not a lot & even the ones I have are at least like 8 years older than me. I've been around guys all my life & all my best friends have been guys. I also have a very blunt personality so lotta girls don't like it when I say it like it is lol & and guys & I think alike so yeah I always get along better with guys than girls.

[Anonymouseo]

Depends on the situation but I have friends from both genders and I do well with both. If I need relationship advice, I find that female friends tend to be the one of more help compare to the guys. But if I need help getting out of a funk or something male friends are better to cheer you up.

[rory520]

Guys! I have 3 best friends 2 guy 1 girl. Guys are more genuine, more fun, and more honest. And I love that older brother proactive thing. Like girls will say they like your boyfriend in till he dumps you then they tell you he hit on them. WTF! But guys will straight up to the guys face say "hey I saw you looking at that other girls ass! You better not even be looking at her ass like that!" They';re more loyal I guess

[LoveIsLouder]

I have generally more girl friends, but I have a better friendship with my guy friends. It mostly just boils down to the different personalities they all have. I can have emotional convos with guys, and play tackle football with girls, the gender doesn't matter much X3

[hollywood2013]

Well, I say the opposite Gender, only because their so much nicer to me. . . About every girl friend that I've had have all hurt me, or treated me terribly at times, Guys seem to care about my feeling and do everything they can to cheer me up when a girl hurts me.

[brookeh09]

I get along with the opposite gender better. I think this is because a lot of the girls in the world surround themselves with drama and I try to stay away from that as much as I possibly can. Guys are more laid back and tend to gossip much less than females.

[lacy192]

i get on with males better, but the down fall this with me I've had male friend that tell me a few months later they have feelings for me and want more which really does my head in cos we can't be friends as they will not except that and it makes things awkward.

[Cassie_09]

I feel like I get a long better with guys. I grew up with two younger brothers, so I was pretty much always around guys. And besides, they're funny! I guess I just get their humor. I do have friends that are girls though, I guess I just chose them more wisely? Girls seem to bring a lot of un-needed drama.

But it's weird, because I'm really nervous around a guy I like...but obviously not one that's just a friend.

[Anonymous]

Im kind of a "tomboy" and enjoy male "hobbies" such as playing sports, watching sports, fantasy sports, cars, etc. I tend to have the same type of emotional thinking as guys, I'm not emotional, I don't show my feeligs well, etc.. I get along great with guys and have lots of close guy friends. I have my select few girl friends, but they are not the "girly/prissy" type. So I would say I get along in general with both, but tend to get along with guys better.

[toulouse]

Obviously you like all the things you mentioned and you are a girl . Why do you consider yourself a tom boy? Why can't those just be pat of who you as a girl are? Why do you need a special category? Clearly since you are into those things, they are things girls are into as well. Why feed a stereotype with yet another stereotype?

[Opinion Owner]

yes your right..i guess because my "girl" friends are not into these things..so I automatically say guy things..ive been called a "tomboy" all my life...i understand what your saying tho =)

[Elisha22]

I get along with guys the best. There isn't drama or jealousy with a straight guy friend.

[lerato]

i find it easier with guys, they're more fun..though, I do have a couple of nyc galfriends too.. :) but, guyfriends are more in number as compared to d gurlz..maybe due to the population ratio more biased to males in my surroundings..lolz.. ;D ;) :)