Do you believe in 'out of your league'?

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Brando · Accepted Answer

To an extent. I think there are dating leagues, but not in the same way that most people see it.

"She's really pretty, she's out of my league" isn't valid.

Being in two separate worlds socially, a girl clearly stating preferences/standards that you don't fit into, and various other social issues I think are valid reasons why dating leagues exist.

I happened to find this article talking about Hooters girls (or "Hooters girl material") and what it takes to get with one, and basically the message from both girls and guys (including a few Hooters girls themselves) say that unless the guy is a real smooth talker, then there's not much of a chance that one of those types of girls will stray too far out of her norm- which would be the fit, attractive, obviously confident guys. I don't think it's an insecurity as long as it's not said in self-pity. It's more of an observation. Most beautiful and extremely attractive girls go for ones that are also at the top. I've seen this countless times and I'm sure you have too. It's just reality.

And things that aren't looks related would be if you are in two separate social circles or environments. An example could be me. I liked this one girl back in high school, but I wasn't at all in the "popular scene" while this girl was. I was sort of a quiet loner and was only an acquaintance to many. Circumstances that put people in different situations like that are where I think it's also tough to really make something happen. I never tried to make anything out of it because she hardly knew who I was anyway. Yes that was my fault and doesn't really fit with what I'm saying here. But what I mean is that if people are in vastly different social circles/statuses/etc., then it's not only unlikely that they'd ever meet or be close to each other, but their is that tension or apprehension. Plus, when you are used to a certain type of lifestyle and people in it, then it's odd and uncomfortable for many to stray outside of that. People are tribal and stick with what they can deal with.

As much as I don't like sounding like a downer, I don't see the Cinderella story happening too often in real life. So with that, I'll end this ridiculously long, geeky answer :)

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

yes definitely. I am only attracted to girls I find attractive...i wouldn't waste my time on other girls. I used to use uglier ones for sex but eventually I realized it wasn't nearly as satisfying as getting with a girl who is worth getting with. I would not waste my time anymore on a girl who I consider less than a 7. I just lose interest if they're not physically appealing to me.

at the same time though there are hot girls out there who would reject me in a relationship, most likely because I am a slacker/unmotivated which makes me a "loser" through their eyes. I can't even complain. so before you say I am shallow or an asshole I already know I am out of girls' league too.

so yes "leagues" definitely do exist.

Standingpretty · Accepted Answer

Hmmm this is hard question to answer. I believe there are people who won't date me because they think they are "hotter" than me when in reality they are not as attractive as they think they are or I don't find them attractive.In high school, some many popular guys just thought they were so hot when in reality they were ugly as sh*t and only got girls because they were popular and rich. A lot of people think they are in some high league when in reality, most of us fall in the middle. For someone to be "out of my league" I think people would have to unanismously vote someone who I find attractive to be hotter than me for that to happen. Take for example, Brad Pitt. If Brad Pitt wasn't famous and he was just some regular dude that I was dating it would probably go something like this:. A lot of women see me with him, A lot of women deem him super-mega-hot, a lot of people would question why he is with an average girl and claim that I got someone "out of my league" when in reality, I just see him as a normal dude. I don't think there are really leagues unless you are super hot or ugly then pretty much anyone who you would date would fall in the middle therefore not in the same league as you.

oneforthetruth · Accepted Answer

In theory yes, in practice no. My reason is that you get many people from different walks of life, and Not every muscular man with great body and perfect looks, wants to be with a blond big titted, air head.

Not every intellectual Girl wants to be with someone who is matching in her intelligence. I do believe birds of a feather tend to flock together, but that there will be ones who will always spread their wings and go for something 'different' (think of the example if the film HAPPY FEET)

We've all seen that couple right, where we've gone, 'How did they manage to get together he/she is WAY out of her/his league.

What's more I think as human beings we individually create our own leagues. Like I might see a guy who I think is gorgeous, but feel that there is no point because there's no way in hell he'd like me, and I'd be wasting my time, I'm not good enough for him and way out of his league. While he actually may like me and decide I am completely in his league.

SectumSemprae · Accepted Answer

Yeah, I think my guy's out of my league.  There's a reason why he checks out other women instead of looking at me, and why all the girls choose to hit on him.  I mean like, leaning up on him, asking him what cologne he uses.  Other guys check me out, but they don't go that far!  Heh, maybe I should date one of them instead.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends.

I dated a guy last year who was such a brain that I felt like a clueless idiot around him. He wanted to talk about this most obscure stuff that I had absolutely no knowledge of. And he would always bring up random tidbits in conversation out of sheer nervousness, not to be arrogant. He was a nice friend but too brainy and not street smart enough for me. So that dating experience was a bit uncomfortable and discerning for me and left me feeling like I was "out of his league."

But no, I don't think I'm out of anyone's league and I don't think anyone's out of mine. But I also believe in never settling. I do wish guys would approach me because I'm friendly and sweet, for the most part. And I'm not overly judgmental in the looks or smarts department.

Anonymous · Answer

Logically?  No, I don't.  Personally?  Yeah, but only because of self-esteem issues.  The idea of someone being 'out of your league' is false; the concept exists only in our heads, because we have low opinions of ourselves, or we believe the other person is better than us in some way.  However, we're all human, we all screw-up, and nobody's perfect...we just have to get that through our heads first!   ;D

JennyInLove · Answer

yeah. someone extremely outgoing would be out of my league, or a guy who has too many girls following her, since I don't really enjoy all the drama that fallows. But I don't really think it's looks that are out of the league. plenty of ugly people end up with the best looking, it's a matter of personality.

HidingMyHeart · Answer

Yes & No

Yes maybe by assumptions, popularity & anything like that but overall no because nobody's perfect. So what if two people come from completely different worlds, it doesn't make one person better than the other

Dylan1989 · Answer

Yeah. I've never asked out a girl who I have actually really liked and taken a real genuine interest in because I felt all of them were too good for me.

OzzoNOH8 · Answer

no. it really only depends on the personality of a person... Like the most beautiful girl in the world may be a total ass bitch and everyone may not like ehr and stuff you get me anywho if you're a total bitch and the person you ? is like sooooooo amazing then they could still like you? bithces need love too lol YAY Bon Jovi just came on, anywho, no one is ever out of any ones league were all people and we all deserve a chance at everything 

alex01 · Answer

Yes and no, people normally feel more comfortable around people that are similar to them ie, rich, good looking smart ect, tend to group together. However, I have seen people that are for an example super good fall for some one who is not.

Anonymous · Answer

Women are willing to date men who are less attractive then them, but men are not.  Men are obsessed with looks, & women look at the inside.  So there is a league, but men are the only ones who care about it.

gummybear888 · Answer

I do believe I'm out other guys' league and some guys are out of my league. But I guess anything is possible..

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. some people aren't meant to be because they're not on the same page in life

examples

1. Someone with an ivy league education, 6 figure job and someone who dropped out of hs

2. A supermodel with the world's ugliest man

Toxic · Answer

Only in the sense that I'm out of most people's leagues. I'm aware of how conceited that sounds, I've got high standards.

Anonymous · Answer

For chicks, yes.  Guys won't date down or even date even.  For guys, no.  They can land someone attractive with nearly any other trait. Looks are female's only desirable trait.

probabilist · Answer

I dont.. but all the girls seem to think theyre out of my league.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope! We all have qualities and we were all put on this earth for a grand purpose. Only a shallow person would believe this. In my opinion, people who believe this expression have low self-esteem and use expressions like this against others to feel better about themselves by making others feel bad.

Lamnad · Answer

No one is out of my league, just people who don't get me.

ArtyGirl · Answer

Stupid. How can you have a ranking system of personalities?

Shiner4 · Answer

Definitely I mean I'm pretty sure Ryan Gosling is wayyy outta my league.

Anonymous · Answer

NO! Everybody has qualities, it's a shame that these qualities are only noticed as we become more mature. Looks aren't everything

aikidy · Answer

I like the Movie ,  No I don't Believe in it , There's No such Thing..

Tropicsballer1 · Answer

No, if you believe that you'll never be able to get anyone 'out of your league'.

cyrus7 · Answer

I completely believe it, sadly in my eyes most girls are out of my league lol

Anonymous · Answer

I never met someone who was in my range so yes. Never met a person I felt was dateable.

AmazingParkour · Answer

She's not good enough to be in my league.

Marciano1 · Answer

No I don't think anyone is out of anyone's league.

juaN073 · Answer

Yeah, I'm on a league of my own ;)

Arwens-Fire · Answer

Hmmm...not that much.

TheGodEmperorLeto · Answer

Pfft, everyone's outta mine :D

palek · Answer

No, and neither should you!  ; - )

will12345 · Answer

After being in an appropriate situation...Yes

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. For guys and girls.

darkknight1x · Answer

Yes.

smokahontas · Answer

I do,but rarely

-StillWater- · Answer

No.

thunder828 · Answer

Nope that saying is bullsh*t. Opposites attract.

jap88 · Answer

Yes.

dx021 · Answer

nope I don't.

Jesterface195 · Answer

Of course!

InMyHeart · Answer

yeah.

barkmoon · Answer

Yes.

sweet_18 · Answer

yeah

lily85462155 · Answer

nahhhhhhh (:

Dom163 · Answer

Nope

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