In other words, you wouldn't have (much of) a chance to date them even if you tried.
I started wondering this when Tinder make me play the "Super like game". They selected 4 girls, and I could superlike one of them. One of those girls had great pictures, she looked amazing. But instead of wanting to superlike her, I felt as though she was out of my league.
"She probably gets 10 matches a day, why would she care about just another super like?" I thought.
I now realize that's a rather silly way to think, since I'm assuming a lot of things about her based on only her pictures. I wondered if other people have had similar experiences, where they felt as though someone was out of their league.
- Yes, definitely
- Yes, but only in a few/extreme cases
- No, not for me at least
- No, not at all
- Not sure/maybe/other/answers
Most Helpful Girls
The problem with Tinder is that you are deciding which way to swipe based purely on looks and that's just not realistic.
I do think that the feeling of "leagues" exist in the real world and I have been through that feeling and come out the other side winning.
My guy and I had worked together for 2 and a half years and in that time he was known as the "good looking" one. He had a lot of attention off the ladies and I know he had plenty of matches on Tinder. He liked a lot of bikini clad girls on Instagram, pretty standard for a good looking guy in his twenties. I'm pretty average, I'm not the slimmest and to be honest I can't be bothered to wear make up most of the time. But after 2 and a half years of knowing each other I started showing an interest in him and he started showing interest in me, and now we are super happy, not interested in anyone else and I didn't have to wear a lot of make up or put on a bikini to win him over.
That's the thing to remember, when you look at someone for the first time, you do judge them based on how they look. But for both sexes, that doesn't last for longer than about 5 seconds, because nobody actually cares that much if you're not the best looking one, as long as you have a decent personality and can make them happy.3
Most Helpful Guys
It is not so much about leagues, as it is about compatibility--a fulfillment of wants and needs. If the other person has enough of the things you need and want to justofy them not having some othet things then you are good. That is why a man who is infertile, who is also hilarious and wealthy can get a woman who is an attorney, but has no interest in having children. Or how a really dumb, but attractive man can end up with an average looking, super smart and successful lady.2
You have to remember that most other people will think she is out of their league, too. At the end of the day, a no is just not getting a yes, and not giving her a chance will not give you a yes, so the most assured rejection is when you reject yourself without bothering to let her answer.1