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I took a girl like that out a few times after knowing her for a while. I had met her online and we ended up doing some writing and research together for months before we ever even spoke on the phone, and we eventually met and spent some time together.
I knew she came from a wealthy family, but I didn't know for months that she came from a WEALTHY family - as in, her family owned several European banks that had been in the family for more than 250 years. We're talking OLD money.
As a lower-middle-class guy, it became clear that, while SHE probably would have been okay with it, her family never would have accepted me and would have caused problems for her. Plus, by then I had had experience dating non-American women who had to be out of the country for months/years at a time. I suspect she'd have had ways around that, but I broke it off before it got very serious. There's just no way I could have lived her lifestyle, and even though she never made a big deal about it at all (you'd know by meeting her that she was well-educated, but you'd have no idea about her financial situation), she was used to traveling the world and not being limited. I could barely afford my starter home at the time and a trip to Vegas (from California) would have required saving up for a couple of months. I would have either held her back or had to have her pay for everything, and neither would have been okay with me (and would have confirmed her family's worst fears).
While I think a lot of people DO make "leagues" a bigger deal than they are, they DO exist, and large differences are almost impossible to deal with.
The qualities are not stable in respect to time, some qualities are now important for someone to have conventional beauty, but they were not in the past and others may replace them in the future. Anyway, you find the sum of all the attributes that make you conventionally beautiful (SB) and the sum of your conventional flaws (SF), then find your conventional beauty (CB), by taking the difference SB-SF. Proceed, by using the same methodology for the potential partner. Now to find the league case (LC), take the difference CB (a)-CB (b), where CB (a) is for you and CB (b) is for your potential partner. If LC>0 then your potential partner plays in a lower league than yours. If LC=0 you are equals (the best case). If LC<0 then your potential partner is out of your league, or in other words you are screwed..! Ta Daaa !
Cause we live in a society that promotes impossible beauty standards ONLY we think they are possible. And after a while, it's all we see.
Do you have any idea how many times I've gotten :"Wow, you could do so much better" in relation to my husband?
Just cause he's not the most attractive man in the world to them, doesn't mean that he can't be one to me.
It doesn't even matter that he is smart, kind, funny, hard working, loving, that he cared for me when my parents hurt me the most, that he is an amazing father to our baby.
It all boils down to "You are hotter and prettier than him"
And as far as I'm concerned, there are no leagues cause you're basing this strictly on looks.
Beauty will fade, you won't be young and pretty forever.
But what I have with my husband, who they think isn't worthy of me, that? That's not going anywhere.
Nothing because I don't put people in leagues, it's complicated and it doesn't do anything to make anyone feel good. If I like someone, I put myself out there regardless of how attractive or smart they might seem because I don't know them yet so I can't really judge them. Things might work out or a guy might ignore me or say they aren't interested but because I don't know them yet, I'm not invested in them so their opinion of me doesn't matter
I'm old enough to realize no one is out of my league. I am older now and my body isn't great. So I thought a young good looking guy or even an older good looking guy was out of my league. But they aren't. I've dated some really good looking and younger guys in the past until I snagged my current sexy af guy that is absolutely in love with me despite all my flaws. So don't let your flaws stop you from trying.
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They are famous
They are very rich
They are very handsome
They are very outgoing and confident and dominant
If they are really attractive and get a lot of attention from others
Any sane person is apparently out of my league.
Reading women is easy. If a women likes you she will in no order,... Square her body with yours, she will play wil her hair, laugh at what ever you say, she will touch you, her pupils will be big mean she likes what she see, so she will take you all in, her eyes may look sharp meaning the flirt eyes, may be shy, or soft spoken. The number one bomb a women will do if she likes you is drop something turn around to pick it up so you can see her butt.
Simply if they are doin great things in their life or simply movin fast into a well functionin adulthood.. Like I felt that my unofficial girlfriend was outta my league cause I'm at a sort of stand still in my life, and she comes from an upper class family, and she already got a guaranteed job when she get outta college..
Mostly I was intimidated by people who seemed to have their lives together -- people with goals who were working effectively to reach them, fashionably dressed, well groomed, like that line in a song "You're where you should be all the time". Later in life I learned that many people who appear totally secure and in control of their lives, enjoying a successful career, may also have crushing insecurities. So I'm not so intimidated anymore.
it´s as simple as that: if the person is smarter, more successful and better looking than you, you are probably done for unless she is willing to settle for someone far inferior to her/him, and let´s be honest only a minority is willing to put up with that nowadays
Usually when theyre super active. Its one thing to be cute and not so sporty in my mind I can see that sort of person possibly liking me but when they are super into working out and what not it feels like they probably wouldn't touch me with a ten foot pole anyway
Realistically i rate myself around a 4, slightly below the median average for attractiveness. If she's above a 6 I'd say she's out of my league. Aside from looks, I'd say if she talks to successful guys or already has other people interested she's probably out of my league just based on the premise that she has options and I don't.
I know guys have told me I was out of their league because I didn’t like to smoke/drink every night like they did. They just hadn't come across a friend that was like that. And I also had morals that didn’t align with theirs but made them even more interested in me.
I was in college, and got approached by the girl I had a crush on. It totally depends on what you mean by approached - for me it was - she came (out of her way), said hi, wished me luck for my results later that day-I replied with a blush and so on- but I had (/have) such low self esteem, that I always thought, what will the other guys & girls of the class think if we (me and her) were going out together.
Obviously, nothing happened in those 4 years, she must have forgotten me as well (although she occasionally likes some of my instagram pics still)
I don't necessarily believe in "leagues" but I do definitely get turned off if they look like family material.
There are way too many women in my age bracket who are looking like they'd love to get married ideally the next year because their clock is already ticking.
I don't believe I would be compatible with that kind of women.
Isn't it funny how 111 guys think you're talking about them and only 16 girls think that. Hmmm... but here's the only answer you'll need...
For women... It depends on how Young, Fit and Attractive you are. The younger (keep it legal people) and the more attractive you are the higher you league. If you're 25 and HOT... no man is out of our league.
For guys it depends on how Rich, Powerful, or Famous you are. You're looks have very little to do with this. He doesn't need all three but definitely needs at least one. The more of one, or a combo of them the higher his league.
Personality, Humor, etc.. these are nice to haves... but not deal breakers. Women do tend to use theses and others as "signs" of wealth, power and fame. For example... women love a guy who's confident... of course they do. Unknown poor guys with no power have 0 confidence. If a guy is confident., we usually has something to be confident about.
If someone THINKS they are out of my league, hey that's a self fulfilling prophecy. I wouldn't have anything to do with someone who conducts themselves and their lives according to what 'league' they have been assigned!!!
Intelligence, and presence. Not like Regina George full of herself but like if she's very smart and graceful I feel inferior. I work fairly hard for my education and brain so intelligence matters a lot to me as well as how a person carries themselves.
I can easily tell, not assume, by how they act, carry themselves, what kind of friends they have, or the people they associate with, and what direction they are going in life. Looks have 0 to do with it. Unless it is how they chose to dress.
Someone from money, or pelf. Of wealth... i am not proper all the time, not out of my league, she would be out of my league... i don't choose to play phony for anyone, so i guess in that situation it would apply.
For me sometimes you just get a vibe/feeling like they don’t even notice you/ want nothing to do with you. They never make eye contact or look at you. They almost seem foreign even if u are in the same room
I suppose if I hit my head on something really hard and it affected my thinking, I might assume someone was out of my league. It's not something I'd normally do, though.
Being out of her league is all about attitude. If she acts superior to others, especially me, then yeah, she has put herself in another league, one that I would rather not be in anyways.
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