In the past, the only notion I ever had that a guy was breaking up with me was him just stopping talking to me. So now, with anyone really, if I don't hear from someone, or I don't get a reply I will automatically assume he's going to break up with me, he's not as interested, etc.
Its not like I don't know how irrational it is, I recognize that. I've been through therapy, and at some point, therapy doesn't help anymore. Its as if I have conditioned myself to be abandoned, to expect it, to the point that even if it wouldn't make any sense for someone to leave, I can be so convinced they will.
My point is, my man and I have been dating almost 5 months, and its going really well, but I still have these insecurities. I'm afraid to lose him. I've thought of talking to him about it, and basically telling him why I may act the way I act sometimes. I don't expect him to reassure me every second of the day. This is not his problem- its mine. Its MY insecurity, but I feel as though he should know why I may overreact to some things that don't warrant it (ie embarrassment, asking how he liked something that I did) so that he doesn't think I'm being dramatic or crazy, but that I have these moments, and then they go away.
I don't need constant reassurance, but every now and then, It would be nice to be reminded how much you care, how pretty you think I am, etc.
How would this make you feel? too much?
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