Are you nicer to your partner than you are to friends/acquaintances, or are the advantages to being in a relationship (ex to be taken care of) a myth?

[Bethany22]

The other day someone basically implied that a good reason to be in a relationship with someone is that they will respond to your needs more quickly than if they weren't in a relationship with you (i. e., just friends). Do you believe that as well, or is having that mentality doom everyone to failure? It basically makes one not appreciate just having friends, or not expecting much from your friends, yet at the same time making you feel guilty for not bending over backwards for your friends in hopes that they will realize that you're worth being extra nice to in the form of being a couple.

Context: someone said to me that now that my ex boyfriend and I aren't a couple anymore, he's probably not going to respond to texts as quickly as he used to. But we left the relationship amicably, so why can't we just assume that his not responding quickly could be due to some health issues, or other events that came up in his life that have nothing to do with me, and that by not assuming his slow response to texts has anything to do with me, I could ironically have more mental space/energy to be an even better friend to him by making more of an effort to see if he's okay (as opposed to just assuming he's ignoring me and just ignore him in return). Honestly, it felt like she was accusing ME for his recent late texting.

[dustybiker]

I think this depends on the person/people.

I have friends from childhood. Their parents will still drop everything to help. They always have. Due to this, (among direct family which does the same) they are firmly in that slot of returning the need when they have it. They can call me 24/7 and I will be there for people like that.

That aside I dislike bothering people, much rather handle an issue myself. When I ask it tends to be for good reason.

[dustybiker]

Thanks for mho

[Dinklex3]

I'm not nicer, lol.

They are just two different types relationships.

My friends know i hate texting and to just call me, but if my boyfriend texts me I respond as soon as I can. Because he's a priority.

He may not respond as fast since you're not in a relationship and no longer one of his top priorities, but he's still responding and being present.

[Stoner710]

if i had one yes i would treat her nicer. what i have to offer if knowledge and wisdom. unfortunately there not paying the bills right now given i'm kinda fresh out of college where i studied history and philosophy and get my sociology form school and Jorden Paterson. but where im living your chances of getting a job is impossible unless you know cars and farm work. so trying to figure out a better income

[NathanDavis]

I am nicer and kind in general, to everyone...

but yes, I am moreso with friends and family

and then of course... the most, with my partner, and that just comes naturally and it comes from genuine caring, you just care a whole lot more for your PARTNER

[DizzyDesii]

I do a lot in a relationship that I dont do outside of one. I’ll miss my shows to spend time with the guy. I won't do that for others lol. The only thing i wouldn't do for him is share my food. Get your own plate man

[Tracker1958]

Most women want a boyfriend to act like a husband but she doesn't want to act like a wife.

[DizzyDesii]

@Tracker1958 and you’re telling me this because i won't share my food?

[Tracker1958]

Just stating a fact. Women want more than they are willing to give in a relationship.

[DizzyDesii]

@Tracker1958 well i’ve always given more than i received so i guess it doesn't go for all women but ok

[Stevefiveo]

@Tracker1958 completely untrue. You are just dating the wrong women then.

[Tracker1958]

@Stevefiveo I don't date, I just rent one and then kick her out when I get done with her.

[DizzyDesii]

you gotta pay for sex and you proud of that? You posed to jus have hoes rollin in for free mate

[Tracker1958]

Paying for sex is cheaper than a feeding a girlfriend or a wife. Hookers don't come with drama, don't have to make her happy. really, I don't have to talk to her. It's a lot better deal. Hookers can't cheat on you because your not in a relationship with them. I can get a different woman any time I want a change. hookers are a all around better deal.

[Tracker1958]

Women that are friends with their ex boyfriend will most likely cheat with their ex boyfriend when they get married. Half the time, the ex boyfriend is the father to the married woman kids, not her husband. Guys should never marry a woman with an ex boyfriend.

[RavVid]

Well when in a relationship there can transactional message i. e. can your get milk on way home. Or mate guarding ones. Or maybe genuinely loving ones.

I would give priority to those messages and would reply to those from friends in slower time.

[Blackmoonsns]

You shouldn't treat your partner just the same as you would treat your friends the only difference between your friends and your lover is sexual tension chemistry and physical intimacy as well as the emotional bonding of intimacy. Other than that your personality should be consistent with whoever you interact with.

[FilmGuy93]

I try to be nicer to my romantic partners. I know a lot of people don't, though. The last girl I was with was someone who, for whatever reason, thought that the way to treat a man she's dating is to be cold and aloof, and do whatever she wants to do.

She saw her boyfriends as possessions and toys. Her friends were people she held in extremely high esteem, however.

[Stevefiveo]

I think you should treat you significant other with priority over other people. So, if two people are texting you at the same time. You are going to answer your significant other's texts first. Or if they both want you to meet for lunch at the same time, you should pick your significant other.

[Adam1978]

In general yes. But that has to go both ways. And exes has lower priority than normal since they clearly has failed to maintain the relationship. They can be completely cut out of your life.

[MrOracle]

I've always prioritized my relationship partner over my friends and family, with occasional exceptions that anyone would understand. I don't understand anyone who wouldn't do this.

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

I just try to be nice to everyone you never know what they’ve been going through 😃 🤗

[AdithyaR]

I guess the only difference would be that my behaviour with a partner is naturally gonna be a bit more emotionally intimate and flirty.
Beyond that it'd be the same as with a family or friend.

[shortster]

Of course. The order of importance is Wife, Mom, kids, girlfriend, immediate family, friends, distant relatives, coworkers, acquaintances, everyone else, plants, animals, spiders, politicians, and then snakes.

[melanieeeB]

I would agree, not that I'm not nice to friends but I'm a little nicer to a partner

[Jamie05rhs]

Oh, hell yeah! I would definitely treat her better than anyone else in my life. Absolutely. 100%.

(But I'm a nice person anyway, so I feel like this would be easy.)

[Mansearching]

Same here. My significant other would come first. Hate to put friends second but hopefully they would understand.

[alice55]

I never had a partner but I respond quickly to close family while the rest not so much

[FunkyMonkee]

Well, I don't kiss, sleep with or fuck my friends so, yes.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I like to treat them all the same

[pizzalovershouse]

Just regular nice no less not well when in a relationship then if not well need rest an sleep

[AsaKyo]

I don't treat one any different than I do the other

[thegooglepixelfan]

It cand deponds but more effort to work has partner. Friends can come and go.