The concept of "she/he is out of your league", does it exist in the real world? (Page 2)

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I am talking about the idea that a girl or guy can be so pretty/handsome, smart and fun that they are simply out of someone's league.  In other words, you wouldn't have (much of) a chance to date them even if you tried. I started wondering this when Tinder make me play the "Super like game". They selected 4 girls, and I could superlike one of them. One of those girls had great pictures, she looked amazing. But instead of wanting to superlike her, I felt as though she was out of my league.  "She probably gets 10 matches a day, why would she care about just another super like?" I thought.  I now realize that's a rather silly way to think, since I'm assuming a lot of things about her based on only her pictures. I wondered if other people have had similar experiences, where they felt as though someone was out of their league.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Yes but to me it is more about lifestyle compatibility than looks.

bcc99 · Answer

Just read a study that analyzed online dating messages. It rated people based on how many DMs you got and found that people tend to message people 25% more popular than them. Keep striving champ

Prof_Don · Answer

I voted B. The idea of “leagues” is slightly overblown.

MAVERICK-AB · Answer

Mentally two people can be in two different places

Physically there is always one more attractive than the other (the more attractive person needs you want the other for a different and better reason)

Frankenstein99 · Answer

No but i'll add an asterisk to it. If there weren't "leagues" in our society there wouldn't be male and female models. However beauty is subjective on an individual basis.

AuroraRoseat · Answer

I do. I think it's realistic. If you're not getting those individuals, then I think it's clear that they are not within your realm of attractiveness.

RonJon20 · Answer

I'm in a league of my own... lol. By that I mean, I'm no better than anyone and I don't consider anyone to be better than me.

Memphischicago83 · Answer

Yep, people dont want to admit butit's true , trust me, I'm an ugly, lame and unattractive guy that has no hope

poolistu · Answer

Sure it exists, if one is dumb enough to overlook on you, than that someone is out of your league.

ChgzDaniel · Answer

You should only be in a relationship with someone you love. And love is love, it has no boundaries

JimRSmith · Answer

It's a state of mind, not a reality, although people bring it to life by believing it.

jimyee · Answer

Of course it does, but just because someone is put of someone elses league doesn't mean that those two can't or won't be together.

jacquesvol · Answer

Sure, it's a social fact.  Trump's daughter is out of your league. So is Steve Job's daughter and Bill Gate's daughter and many more.

Jonny317 · Answer

Yes, for example, Amal Clooney is out of George Clooney's league, in looks, brains, success and positive impact on the world. My wife is way out of my league but i have balls so i made it work.

TallJamaican1991 · Answer

If this "league" system is real, then I am out of everybody's league. I'm that free agent that no one wants to sign 😂

weysally · Answer

at the beginning no, but some always think they are better than the one they are with,

ShesAmerican · Answer

It does yes, but I don’t think it’s bad to try making a move. You can somehow create attraction

Anonymous · Answer

No, not if you’re doing everything possible to be the best version of yourself. People tend to take it in the wrong context sometimes and think that being lazy still applies with this, it doesn’t.

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

No! Not at all. Those who limit and doubt them selves will say it's true.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

''Out of my league'' to me is mostly a life style or basic way of life that does not match mine. I could neither live in a palace, nor in a mud-hut.

slumplord · Answer

If you have enough confidence, you can go after anyone. Celebrities are the only people I think are difficult

DamnMan · Answer

The league thing is BS.  I like the saying, "if you think you can or think you can't, you are correct." I don't think any woman is in a league unless it's a actual league. lol

zagor · Answer

Somewhat, but not as much as some people here think. Let's put it this way; if you're 70, look like Donald Trump, but have no money, you're not going to get a 20 year old Ivanka Trump look-alike.

Anonymous · Answer

its a thing but not 100% serious. If you wanna know Why it's a thing, go to a party on a Friday night and approach the hottest girl there. odds are you won't succeed if you're an average joe

Eternallylucky · Answer

I really think it does in terms of socio economic backgrounds and cultural mindset.

Mexicoman101 · Answer

.. Fuck yeah that's the real world where you come from, antarctica?

Anonymous · Answer

if the person doesn't change and learn from mistakes.. so ofc she or he would stay out of the 'league' until they learn to be more open minded instead of being rigid and stagnant

genericname85 · Answer

it does exist but there's no reason to tell if you're in someones league or not. you don't know what others like xD

JKEYS77 · Answer

I feel like it usually has more to do with the person who is "out of your league" thinking they are too good for you... or they are just out of your league😂

marilynmansonssextoy · Answer

I don't think so, no, it's just people being insecure. xx ~ Mrs Manson

Anonymous · Answer

It exists for sure. Most boys are not anywhere near my league. Have to be more then 6.5” and last at leaset 30 min.

Bandit74 · Answer

Definitely. I don't understand how people don't think it exists.

curiousheikh · Answer

It doesn't exist in the real world. You can get any guy or any girl simply by having good conversations, and every now and then subtly play the ignoring game, it must be subtle enough for him or her to not think of it as an intentional thing

dontgofalling · Answer

No, for the reason we're all humans and beautiful to some people more than others, and they only way for you to be out of someone's league, is to get out of it by yourself

LuWe22 · Answer

Not really. I saw celebs with normal avarage guys/girls.

54newstar · Answer

Had one girl get mad because I didn't ask her out, she said I wasn't in her league. But the fact that I didn't give her 2 seconds annoyed her. I filter out a lot of girls and she didn't make my cut.

ChiragDahiya · Answer

Totally depends on pair , couples must suit each other in public profile as well. Extremities on either side makes a unsuitable couple and people talk shit bout it.

NothingCanExplainMe · Answer

I can't say I thought someone was out of my league really, but I questioned if I was good enough for them. I think the main thing I realized was that my worth to them wasn't for me to decide.

Thegrapesodaguy · Answer

Not at all, the only place the leagues of people exist is in our own minds. She or he either wants you or they don't, Beautiful is so subjective that a league wouldn't make sense anyway.

lezarafe · Answer

if that person is snob and pretty of a like "i am the best so i need the better ones" there are out of leagues in an other mean... avoid them... the other type of people are better

clampfan101 · Answer

Have you never felt that way? I feel it all the time.

red324 · Answer

Not really cause the girls way below my league stick their nose up at me also.

sp33d · Answer

This again? Insecurities are a bitch. Work out your problems and the leagues are gone.

Lance1965 · Answer

No, not for me at least. I will approach any woman if I like them enough.

StickStickity13 · Answer

Holy shit, the percentages are nearly identical.

Guanfei · Answer

Honestly, almost any girl is out of my league, so that concept it quite real for me.

JesseTheMan · Answer

No. You can always buy what you can't get for free. Lol

dJackson21 · Answer

Usually the girls that are a little too out of my league are the ones that want a guy to buy her a lot of things more or less

Starlord789 · Answer

He is masculine and she is feminine. And both are equally very important and they are not the same. That's y it exists.

Countderfeo · Answer

Out of your league? More like.. take risk.. fail.. then sucseed.. or fail sum more.. the fact thT you even try.. puts us in a leauge of our own

Jegvitikke · Answer

General leagues exist but you can break them by being funny or something instead of just being goos looking

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah definitely, when they look that good they have so much to choose from that they only look at the best

Smegskull · Answer

Yes, hypergamy and shallowness both exist and play a major part in mate selection.

TheUglyMan · Answer

It does remember women only want the top 20% of guys

Pamina · Answer

It's definitely not a rule set in stone.

Anonymous · Answer

of course attractive people get with attractive people MOST OF THE TIME there are exceptions to the rule

Chillybeary · Answer

I think a lot of people are out my league cause I'm too scared to talk to them

iSpace · Answer

If your confidant you can get someone of the upper league. But not always.

nickybdc · Answer

Any woman who wants to fuck a real man is out of my league 😳😥

Organization · Answer

Not at all you love her she loves you it's all good

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