What Kind Of Behavior Do People Exhibit That Gives You Bad Vibes Or Sets Off Your "Warning Bells'?

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MCheetah · Accepted Answer

Going off of a major douchebag co-worker I know who's a self--admitted "total narcissist"...

People who clearly don't listen to others and just "wait for their turn to speak."
People who are always trying to frame something only in how it benefits/hurts them.
People who have major personality flaws, and don't bother to work on fixing them, and in some cases, actually celebrate them.
People who refuse to admit they're wrong or ever apologize (if it warrants an apology).
People who focus more on others flaws' and failures than their own life and fixing their own flaws and failures.
People who hide behind personal responsibility and accountability by blaming others and/or playing the victim.
People who always believe they're right and can never make mistakes; even if you point the mistakes out to them.

There's probably more I could say here, but those are the top ones I can think of.

ecfresh · Accepted Answer

Salespeople and liars. I see them as one in the same. Usually this behavior is manifested by people who offer too many compliments early, laugh too much at a joke, and use fake behavior to try and get my approval of them. That kind of feedback is not an alarm bell after time when the behavior comes from a genuine place. But when they lie up front, offer fake compliments, and try too hard in the beginning that’s a turn off. I know I have a big heart; I’ve just learned how to better protect it and limit my generosity to those who deserve it and not those looking to cheat me and my family.

ineedatan · Accepted Answer

- those that enjoy cracking jokes or pulling pranks which put others down, and when a person points this out to them, they have the inability to feel remorse for their actions
- those that only call you up and need you for their own benifits and will manipulate you. They don't care to actually form and build a friendship with you
- those that are deceitful and dishonest and are actually comfortable with lying to get their way or get out of issues/confrontation.
- those who are just vulgar with their words and are openly violent/aggressive
- those that are chained to risky behavior/addictions - may it be excessive drinking, drug abuse, compulsive spending and gambling, unsafe sex, being involved in criminal behaviors...

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

-Talking about other people behind their backs. Because if they do it to them, you KNOW they're probably doing the same to you when you're not around
-They always know exactly what to say. A smooth talker if you will. I don't trust those types at all
-They're too happy or trying to make others happy all the time. People who come off as too happy or cheerful are usually the main ones putting on a front or hiding something from others. Not everyone, but most of them are.

Based off me dealing with idiots like that at work. Once I see someone's true colors come out, I try my best to avoid them or talk to them as little as possible.

cheapshotbob · Answer

well its rare i suppose but for me it would have to be a girl wh start off romantic then some how it goes down this odd road of abusive boy/husband and ends up with you having a stroke from the stress if it and then find out it was all just too see how much you really care for her there was no real bad situation or danger.

i knew something was off but i ignored it and well i am where i am now , i know love women who are dangerous but i know how far i can goo before i just say stop or just walk away. i had no limit before that but now i do. some women are just dark XD
i can laugh at it now because i survived.

but i learned never ignore the red flags even if they seem like little storys to grab your attention , most women are like that but this girl was a pro. she would have gave Stephen king a run for his money XD

AndrewMG · Answer

I may talk a lot of bollocks but I do actually adhere to one rule in life, and that is when confronted with an issue (and especially an issue where you don't have all the facts) then address it initially with compassion rather than condemnation. I've spent my whole life thinking I was in the majority with that approach but the older I get the more I realise I'm in the minority. Ignorance and fear make people condemn things they don't understand rather than begin from a compassionate point of view, and it's that behaviour that the older I get makes me feel more of an outsider and give's me bad vibes when I hear people attacking views/opinions/lifestyles that may differ from there own.

ThiccBoai · Answer

If I find manipulatieve behavior. I have a bit of a nose for it and see it usually before others. I do have an outside perspective usually, which helps a lot. But whenever I notice some paterns and tricks my alarm bells go off. People I know or people others know, who I know.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Not sure because for example a guy could be coming across as a dick cause he had a bad day might be the nicest guy in the world for all i know. So i guess it would be whatever behaviour they show over time. To judge right away would be eh unless if they said something obviously "Well i think forcing women to do this good" then yeah that would. People who tend to come off super strong emotions for you even tho you have barley talked is always a yea... No moment. I don't mean like ah well she's just got a mini crush or like's me a bit. But when there treating you as if your they boyfriend or girlfriend and saying weird shit.

Lliam · Answer

1. Dishonest, disingenuous, untrustworthy. If I get a whiff of that I steer clear.

2. The kind of pranksters who think it's funny to embarrass others, cause stress, or to damage things. I despise physical or emotional violence. And I particularly despise vandalism.

3. Sanctimonious ideologues who think their views are so incontrovertible that they would impost them on others. Reasoned discussion with such people is pointless.

Orange_moi · Answer

There are a lot of things for me, people who talks just about sex, themselves, their ex couples or friends and how terrible they are.
Also when they treat bad the service of the restaurant, plain or whatever.
When they doesn't have respect for other persons and lie about their lifes.
There are the red flags that I can remember.

cc-catlady · Answer

When they treat you like a kid and go out of their way to correct you on things that are obvious with common sense. This is just my personal feelings about how it concerns me that they show no emotion and stay completely calm when they listen to how upset I can get on problems I feel disappointed that I'm not getting help to stop me from talking about

jennifer_bloom · Answer

If a guy is really good at faking or hiding things and can pull off a false front for long periods of time or if a guy never laughs at anything - like one guy was a secret spy at work and when I caught on he completely changed his personality and now acts unusually dumb - the fact he is so good at faking who he is makes me not trust him

pepperhicks · Answer

This is pretty specific, but if I am in a restaurant for example and the person is arrogant and/or nasty with the server, I question their character. I have had this happen with people I initially liked at work.
Bragging is also a red flag. It could be accomplishments or material things, but in either case I wonder what they are trying to compensate for.

TheLittleInnocent · Answer

Self proclamation. Like if someone goes around talking about how nice or kind or wonderful they are. I don't trust them because they often times are the opposite of that. . Honey if your kind just leave it to other people to tell you that's when you know it for real

krin_m · Answer

People full of themselves and are cruel, exhibiting some/al of the following characteristics:

- Interrupt/Talk over other people
- Steer conversation to their own interests
- Constantly state how great they are compared to everyone else
- Make rude, sexist, racist, vulgar comments, jokes
- Mock people with disabilities
- Call people insulting names

(Do these remind you of anyone?)

venomhbk1313 · Answer

People that are on drugs and you can easily tell they make me very uneasy when I used to work security in the bars years ago because they were beyond their high and if I had to end up restraining them it was going to be hell because if they're on something it makes him that much harder to take down

Tstrbrainer · Answer

There are a lot of signs, which, depending on the situation are red flags or green flags.
Some of the common things are lack of tolerance, lack of respect, demanding behavior etc.

There are other minor things which may be red flag only due to differences between personalities

Espresso-Grande · Answer

Manipulative behavior

I'm a very perspective and intuitive person, so I can sense the slightest signs of manipulation. Even if they aren't trying to manipulate me, I can sense they're a manipulative person.

IAMNathanael · Answer

I try to be careful of/avoid people that are only critical of everything I do. I don't think any one should expect a compliment at every turn but if the person can't even offer constructive criticism then they'll just tear you down.

TCredo · Answer

One thing that comes to mind... is whenever I hear the phrase "to be honest with you", I immediately think hmmm... are you only being honest with me now? What about the prior X minutes of our conversation? :)

Girther10 · Answer

When certain people b have as if they know more about you than they actually do. The know nothing’s of the world, and on here, who think they know more than everyone. Else.

RingOfFire · Answer

The two things that come to mind first that give me bad vibes and turn me off the most about someone are:

1. Virtue signaling
2. When people inflect declarative sentences as if they are interrogative sentences

Both things are an instant turn off and immediately tell me we won't get along.

spartan55 · Answer

Quick incomplete list: Talking about nothing but themselves. One-uppers. Lack of humility. Talking shit about other people.

Desconhecida · Answer

Besides my gut, bad behaviors that keep repeating even if the person promises to change, are a red flag. If they treat me poorly, take me for granted and have a bad history doing the same with others, I know they are just using me.

Samoht_Sirrom1 · Answer

No idea I tend on "Setting off Bells" all of the time, however if anyone took the time to know me they would say that I'm an angel

Dazed0N0Confused · Answer

They get an attitude over the littlest things. They keep pushing the boundaries and don't know when to stop.

ItsASecret26 · Answer

When people lie it gives me red flags or if they gossip a lot. Just people who don’t seem genuine give me red flags and make me back off.

1Sophisticatedme · Answer

It would be their attitude and personality and how they treat others when you are in their presence. Their eyes says a lot to me only though.

MotherEarth2020 · Answer

Being a dickhead for one. Like when you first meet someone and they are a dick. Red flag right there

VV3ZZY · Answer

Many different types... When they act tough or gangster, or when they try to gaslight or lie

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Someone whose moody, sarcastic, loud talker yes this is a complete turn-off and is red flags telling me to beware.

Healing_123 · Answer

When they continuously have to remind you how "mature" they are out of nowhere. That already hints that they think they have nothing left to learn. Every opinion or idea you have that is not the same as their's is going to automatically be invalid. Stay away! They will demean you AND drive you crazy. Not worth it! Keep letting them think they're too mature for the world. You don't have to get mad. Just run for the hills.

nelly83 · Answer

Listen there is no way for me to write put every indication of bad vibes.  Bad vibes ARe real and u need to trust them.

Prettysammie · Answer

I’m so bad at this! I always try to see the best in people and tend to be too trusting or assume they’re doing things for good reasons.

Godofmyownwurld · Answer

Staring, scratching a lot, smiling or laughing at things that aren't funny, walking too fast or too slow for no apparent reason. In general being weird

Jjpayne · Answer

Being non concerned about others or being non welcoming or not considerate to others.  Bring more defensive and judgy right at the start of meeting them

JamesBlackDragon · Answer

People who believe they are right and never wrong people who try to bring their religion up and yet they don't follow it 100% themselves

william40 · Answer

Loudmouth, dont shut the fuck up. Know it all's, sneaky people, I don't know exactly I get feelings around certain people not all the time but they are right on when I do

douride2 · Answer

I can't put it into words but I just get this feeling around some people.

19vetteman91 · Answer

Puts u down in front of others not in a joking way ,

the_sinner · Answer

When they're not interested in the conversation, try to ghost without giving any reason, try to behave differently in social media and irl.

Ianto · Answer

I am very wary of women who expect everything to be paid for, without even a token jesture towards contribution on their part. I am happy to pay on first dates, etc., but not to be a cashpoint (ATM).

AlwaysBelieving · Answer

I can't explain it. I think it's more on an unconscious level with me. I'm an HSP / EE by the way.

Nicholas1326 · Answer

They flip out over little things. They're rude to people in customer service or service type positions. They complain a lot. And they have odd sudden changes in facial expressions, like they're passive-aggressive or uptight. Big red flags.

Celtero · Answer

When people never have anything bad to say, when they never get angry, when they never want anything.

mikee2020 · Answer

a lot is jus natural intuition, but some things are , bn pushey about somthing, or wanting to get ypu out of your comfort zone, , not having any recognition of jus plain bein a normal acting person

mrgspoter · Answer

Don't useualy matter just get funny smells before they act or do anything lol

ChiTown33 · Answer

Anybody who's dramatic. If i've known rhem for 5 minutes and i find that out then i've known them for 10 minutes too long.

Bratsondanielle · Answer

Immigrants who complain about the country and tells me their own is better despite apparently staying here 4eva kinda make my trigger finger itch u know what I mean

CoolKatie · Answer

acting werid and taking too long to text.

GreenGold1992 · Answer

like the creepy stranger danger behavior

simplelikeme · Answer

Saying the same shit I do...🤣🤣🤣

apollo3000 · Answer

'Danger' means this will be sex - am I ready to have a child?

TheDad75 · Answer

Posting political memes.

admles · Answer

Usually mentioning their religion, putting bible references in their profile etc

Agem123 · Answer

Can't stand rudeness!

nettle · Answer

Bad listener

monkeynutts · Answer

Smoking pot, it's a huge turn off for me.

jimmy2 · Answer

Lying, falsehood, one sided, not loving enough and these are just a few

jshm2 · Answer

Karen or Kevin vibes are the most common.

Slim57 · Answer

Narcissism

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