Salespeople and liars. I see them as one in the same. Usually this behavior is manifested by people who offer too many compliments early, laugh too much at a joke, and use fake behavior to try and get my approval of them. That kind of feedback is not an alarm bell after time when the behavior comes from a genuine place. But when they lie up front, offer fake compliments, and try too hard in the beginning that’s a turn off. I know I have a big heart; I’ve just learned how to better protect it and limit my generosity to those who deserve it and not those looking to cheat me and my family.
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Going off of a major douchebag co-worker I know who's a self--admitted "total narcissist"...
- People who clearly don't listen to others and just "wait for their turn to speak."
- People who are always trying to frame something only in how it benefits/hurts them.
- People who have major personality flaws, and don't bother to work on fixing them, and in some cases, actually celebrate them.
- People who refuse to admit they're wrong or ever apologize (if it warrants an apology).
- People who focus more on others flaws' and failures than their own life and fixing their own flaws and failures.
- People who hide behind personal responsibility and accountability by blaming others and/or playing the victim.
- People who always believe they're right and can never make mistakes; even if you point the mistakes out to them.
There's probably more I could say here, but those are the top ones I can think of.
- those that enjoy cracking jokes or pulling pranks which put others down, and when a person points this out to them, they have the inability to feel remorse for their actions
- those that only call you up and need you for their own benifits and will manipulate you. They don't care to actually form and build a friendship with you
- those that are deceitful and dishonest and are actually comfortable with lying to get their way or get out of issues/confrontation.
- those who are just vulgar with their words and are openly violent/aggressive
- those that are chained to risky behavior/addictions - may it be excessive drinking, drug abuse, compulsive spending and gambling, unsafe sex, being involved in criminal behaviors...
-Talking about other people behind their backs. Because if they do it to them, you KNOW they're probably doing the same to you when you're not around
-They always know exactly what to say. A smooth talker if you will. I don't trust those types at all
-They're too happy or trying to make others happy all the time. People who come off as too happy or cheerful are usually the main ones putting on a front or hiding something from others. Not everyone, but most of them are.
Based off me dealing with idiots like that at work. Once I see someone's true colors come out, I try my best to avoid them or talk to them as little as possible.
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well its rare i suppose but for me it would have to be a girl wh start off romantic then some how it goes down this odd road of abusive boy/husband and ends up with you having a stroke from the stress if it and then find out it was all just too see how much you really care for her there was no real bad situation or danger.
i knew something was off but i ignored it and well i am where i am now , i know love women who are dangerous but i know how far i can goo before i just say stop or just walk away. i had no limit before that but now i do. some women are just dark XD
i can laugh at it now because i survived.
but i learned never ignore the red flags even if they seem like little storys to grab your attention , most women are like that but this girl was a pro. she would have gave Stephen king a run for his money XDI may talk a lot of bollocks but I do actually adhere to one rule in life, and that is when confronted with an issue (and especially an issue where you don't have all the facts) then address it initially with compassion rather than condemnation. I've spent my whole life thinking I was in the majority with that approach but the older I get the more I realise I'm in the minority. Ignorance and fear make people condemn things they don't understand rather than begin from a compassionate point of view, and it's that behaviour that the older I get makes me feel more of an outsider and give's me bad vibes when I hear people attacking views/opinions/lifestyles that may differ from there own.
If I find manipulatieve behavior. I have a bit of a nose for it and see it usually before others. I do have an outside perspective usually, which helps a lot. But whenever I notice some paterns and tricks my alarm bells go off. People I know or people others know, who I know.
Not sure because for example a guy could be coming across as a dick cause he had a bad day might be the nicest guy in the world for all i know. So i guess it would be whatever behaviour they show over time. To judge right away would be eh unless if they said something obviously "Well i think forcing women to do this good" then yeah that would. People who tend to come off super strong emotions for you even tho you have barley talked is always a yea... No moment. I don't mean like ah well she's just got a mini crush or like's me a bit. But when there treating you as if your they boyfriend or girlfriend and saying weird shit.
1. Dishonest, disingenuous, untrustworthy. If I get a whiff of that I steer clear.
2. The kind of pranksters who think it's funny to embarrass others, cause stress, or to damage things. I despise physical or emotional violence. And I particularly despise vandalism.
3. Sanctimonious ideologues who think their views are so incontrovertible that they would impost them on others. Reasoned discussion with such people is pointless.There are a lot of things for me, people who talks just about sex, themselves, their ex couples or friends and how terrible they are.
Also when they treat bad the service of the restaurant, plain or whatever.
When they doesn't have respect for other persons and lie about their lifes.
There are the red flags that I can remember.When they treat you like a kid and go out of their way to correct you on things that are obvious with common sense. This is just my personal feelings about how it concerns me that they show no emotion and stay completely calm when they listen to how upset I can get on problems I feel disappointed that I'm not getting help to stop me from talking about
If a guy is really good at faking or hiding things and can pull off a false front for long periods of time or if a guy never laughs at anything - like one guy was a secret spy at work and when I caught on he completely changed his personality and now acts unusually dumb - the fact he is so good at faking who he is makes me not trust him
This is pretty specific, but if I am in a restaurant for example and the person is arrogant and/or nasty with the server, I question their character. I have had this happen with people I initially liked at work.
Bragging is also a red flag. It could be accomplishments or material things, but in either case I wonder what they are trying to compensate for.Self proclamation. Like if someone goes around talking about how nice or kind or wonderful they are. I don't trust them because they often times are the opposite of that. . Honey if your kind just leave it to other people to tell you that's when you know it for real
People that are on drugs and you can easily tell they make me very uneasy when I used to work security in the bars years ago because they were beyond their high and if I had to end up restraining them it was going to be hell because if they're on something it makes him that much harder to take down
There are a lot of signs, which, depending on the situation are red flags or green flags.
Some of the common things are lack of tolerance, lack of respect, demanding behavior etc.
There are other minor things which may be red flag only due to differences between personalitiesPeople full of themselves and are cruel, exhibiting some/al of the following characteristics:
- Interrupt/Talk over other people
- Steer conversation to their own interests
- Constantly state how great they are compared to everyone else
- Make rude, sexist, racist, vulgar comments, jokes
- Mock people with disabilities
- Call people insulting names
(Do these remind you of anyone?)Manipulative behavior
I'm a very perspective and intuitive person, so I can sense the slightest signs of manipulation. Even if they aren't trying to manipulate me, I can sense they're a manipulative person.I try to be careful of/avoid people that are only critical of everything I do. I don't think any one should expect a compliment at every turn but if the person can't even offer constructive criticism then they'll just tear you down.
One thing that comes to mind... is whenever I hear the phrase "to be honest with you", I immediately think hmmm... are you only being honest with me now? What about the prior X minutes of our conversation? :)
When certain people b have as if they know more about you than they actually do. The know nothing’s of the world, and on here, who think they know more than everyone. Else.
Quick incomplete list: Talking about nothing but themselves. One-uppers. Lack of humility. Talking shit about other people.
Besides my gut, bad behaviors that keep repeating even if the person promises to change, are a red flag. If they treat me poorly, take me for granted and have a bad history doing the same with others, I know they are just using me.
The two things that come to mind first that give me bad vibes and turn me off the most about someone are:
1. Virtue signaling
2. When people inflect declarative sentences as if they are interrogative sentences
Both things are an instant turn off and immediately tell me we won't get along.
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