Do guys really have it worse than girls?

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Guys on here are always saying girls have it easier and I see their point but I still don’t know if I agree because sexism still exists whether they believe us or not and I’ve been through stuff I know I would’ve never experienced as a guy like being raped and beat up by my first boyfriend and having a group of guys stalk and harass me. Seriously one time when I lived in Philadelphia I was out at 2am by myself and a group of 3 men started following me for several blocks and they wouldn’t leave me alone until a guy saw them bothering me and pretended to know me and walked me home guys will never feel that vulnerable and weak it sucks.

NamerOfStars · Accepted Answer

You're proving their point: "sexism still exists whether they believe us or not". Sexism isn't discrimination against women; it's discrimination on the basis of sex. Sexism against women is condemned, and rightly so; sexism against men is ignored, at best. Yes, it's true that as a guy, you'd be less likely to be raped, but only because most rapists target the opposite gender, and rape laws are written specifically to exclude female perpetrators, and thus, male victims.

You say it's less likely that a guy would be beaten up by his boyfriend, and the numbers on domestic violence in homosexual relationships bears you out. But if we go beyond your exact words and look at domestic violence as a whole? No. Assault and battery are just like homicide, suicide, and every other form of violence the human race has ever devised: most victims are male. Here in the US, the only other form of violence that has more female victims is child sexual trafficking, and that's mostly due to the stigma against male homosexuality. In 2013, when the FBI changed its operating definition of rape to include being "forced to penetrate", the percentage of male victims rose to 49. Almost half. And when you factor in the number who wouldn't tell, who'd consider it an affront to their masculinity or heterosexuality, it's probably a hell of a lot higher (many women also don't come forward when they're raped, but the social stigma against it isn't nearly as high).

You're right in that guys don't feel that same level of vulnerability and weakness. But it's not because we're not aggressed against; it's because no one gives a damn about us. We're male; we're supposed to be disposable. Think about how the SS feels about YOU, Eliza. You want to lose the fear? Take the risk.

Berethor · Accepted Answer

Depends on where you live, in most western countries guys lives are harder. Yes a girl is more likely to get raped, but a guy is more likely to get murdered. If you got beat up and raped by your first boyfriend it's unfortunate, but on the other hand many guys don't even have a girlfriend, so is it worse to be with a abusive boyfriend or is it worse to be alone? and then there is also the fact that many girls go for a bad boys on purpose and then complain about them.

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Marilynjuana · Accepted Answer

What you are talking about are extreme situations, which also happen to guys. In no way am I trying to take away your pain because I also know what it's like to be stalked, attacked and someone also attempted assault on me. But when we take a look at legal matters and social stigmas, for example, I believe that men DO have it harder. The #MeToo movement has fucked over so many lives for no reason and many women these days trash men for anything.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Men can be beat up and raped as well. People need to stop seeing it as a damn competition over who has it worse. Both genders go through shit. Some men live easy and happy lives whilst some women suffer... some women live easy and happy lives whilst some men suffer. It’s not a competition, both have their own struggles.

simonqq · Answer

In general I think guys have it easier in society but I also think it's shifting. Our difficulties also differ, like you said women are more often victims of sexually connected crimes. While guys are more prone to become career criminals or beaten up. Guys are increasingly performing worse than girls in school and I wouldn't be surprised if this is a future problem and something that can put more guys at risk of converting to crime.

However in West men has it easier in my opinion but shifting and everywhere else women are heavily disadvantaged. I'd say more women live lives with little control than women who are in control of their lives in the world.

Thatsamazing · Answer

Like in ALL things in life? Literally every single possible consideration taken? No, guys do not have it worse. But in many specific areas, like dating or child support payments, yes guys have it worse, and therefore many of us irrationally think that that somehow negates all the bad things that females experience, often at the hands of violent or abusive males.

Juxtapose · Answer

Men get assaulted more, fight in wars waaay more, have an unholy time in dating and marriage, do all the dangerous and filthy jobs, commit suicide lethally more, circumcision, etc etc.

If I was a woman, I would just take self-defense classes and arm myself. Let's see those guys follow you if you pull out a fucking gun.

ComradeCarabao · Answer

This type of question deals with too many generalizations to even have an answer. Somewhere, right now, a group of trophy wives are drinking $15.00 cups of coffee and showing off the expensive jewelry their hubbies bought them. At the same time, there are groups of women in shelters for battered women discussing how they fear for their lives.

Anonymous · Answer

I would question your sanity if you were out at 2am on your own. Why would you assume this should be safe?
Both sexes have their issues. At the moment, the whining from some parties is so loud and consistent that many people have just tuned out from it.

sensible27 · Answer

Some things yeah, some things no I guess. I'm not really smart enough to calculate and quantify all things to figure out what the answer is, not now, maybe when I hook myself up to super computer but you'd have to talk to me then I guess.

jgokgotit · Answer

I do not think men or women have it harder. We all have our shares of trouble. Men and women face different obstacles, but as a whole we are all humans trying to get through this life.

MCheetah · Answer

Depends on where and when you live, to be honest. The only constant is that the non-rich have it the worst.

Unit1 · Answer

There are areas where men have it harder and areas where women have it harder. It's not a competition.

for instance men have it much harder in dating.
but women have to deal with such harassment risks.

Anonymous · Answer

Guys can definitely feel that vulnerable. One time in New York City. I left a club after a show. I was followed by a group of guys. I was jumped and wrestled to the ground. My pants were cut off I was slashed and kicked my wallet, phone and keys stolen and left fo dead. So yeah it happens.

Anonymous · Answer

So because you've experienced some difficult situations then that must mean women have it harder? You have no idea when men experience.

All you've done here is show the dishonesty most women do on this subject.

tartaarsaus · Answer

In some things, sure. But women also have it worse in other thigs.

OddBeMe · Answer

Or maybe both genders have separate issues that could be addressed...

Cryptic-Game · Answer

Men usually have it harder. Men still can get slapped in the face at clubs and cops will not even care.

asshole_ · Answer

No, they don't

Anonymous · Answer

Guys have it harder.

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