Why are people still homophobic?

[Anonymous]

I'm a lesbian and there are to many homophobic people around me why are people still homophobic?

[RingOfFire]

I'll tell you why so many people hate the "LGBTQ Community." It's because you have these high profile LGBTQ people who don't seem to want to accept TOLERANCE and demand APPROVAL instead. There is a vast difference between tolerance and approval. You can be TOLERANT of that sexual behavior and not APPROVE of it at the same time. But if you are that way -- tolerant but not approving -- you are viciously attacked, called names and ridiculed. And by the way a "phobia" is a fear. People who hate homosexuality don't fear it THEY HATE IT. So even that word is a form of aggressive attack against anyone who doesn't approve of homosexuality to try to imply that they somehow fear it. Who WOULDN'T hate people who disrespect them and their views like that?

It's the difference between having a right to engage in any sexual behavior you want AND TRYING TO FORCE PEOPLE TO THINK THE WAY YOU WANT THEM TO WHEN THEY DON'T APPROVE OF YOUR LIFESTYLE. It's this militant in-your-face "think the way we tell you to think or we will attack and humiliate you" attitude from LGBTQ people THAT JUSTIFIABLY PISSES PEOPLE OFF.

You have a right to tolerance, BUT YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO APPROVAL. What I approve or don't approve of is MY BUSINESS, not yours. You don't get to decide that for me. If you don't respect my opinion and views, don't expect any respect from me.

And I'll tell you another thing that pisses people off. I don't want to hear about your sexual life unless I ask you to tell me. I don't want to hear about homosexual sexual behavior, it disgusts me. I don't talk about my sexual exploits with someone unless they ask me about it. I am sick and tired of these "gay parades" and public displays of disgusting homosexual sexual behavior WHICH IS PURPOSELY DESIGNED TO OFFEND PEOPLE. Leave me alone with that and KEEP IT TO YOURSELF IN PRIVATE. Is that too much to ask?

I'm fine with any kind of sexual behavior that consenting adults want to engage in. It's fine with me. That's your business not mine. Stop trying to MAKE it my business, I don't give a rats ass what you do in private. Just don't expect me to approve of it, and STFU about it! THAT's what pisses people off. The "LGBTQ community" is responsible for the hatred it brings on itself. THEY ARE THE AGGRESSORS AND PEOPLE WHO DON'T APPROVE ARE THE VICTIMS, NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND.

Is that so hard to comprehend?

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[_no_one_]

This man spittin. I can feel the frustration through his words and i respect that.

[RingOfFire]

They disrespect everyone else and their right to believe what they want to believe and not have to be bombarded by other peoples' sexual issues, intentionally trying to offend and harass anyone who doesn't approve of it, then play the victim themselves and wonder why they get disrespected and hated.

[DawnCoyote]

Do you know what the word 'Phobia' means? Also, Hetero relationships are EVERYWHERE. Moms and Dads, girlfriends and boyfriends, most Adult ads include some kind of suggestive stuff, (Especially colon/perfume ads). I honestly don't give a fuck if you 'Approve' of my relationship, I would rather not be terrified of holding my girlfriends hand in public. A drunk dude threw a beer bottle at me and my girlfriend while we were walking down the street ( he yelled slurs at us and threatened us by say "I'll come over there and show you a real man")... that is NOT tolerance, that is homophobia. (P. S. the dude is in jail, not for the homophobia, but for the use of illegal drugs)

[RingOfFire]

Your logic is flawed on every level.

I have nothing to do with someone who threw a beer bottle at you. It has ZERO to do with me.
Some guy in a bar clocked me with a beer bottle once and broke a bone. And I am heterosexual. What does that have to do with anything?

I said I don't like homosexuality, it disgusts me (actually only male homosexuality disgusts me... (some) female homosexuality is hot.). What do you care? I'm not trying to make you or anyone else who is homosexual do or not do anything. Like I said what consenting adults do with each other is their business. Why do you have such a problem with that?

So what exactly is your point?

[winterfox10]

It depends on what we're calling homophobia and what the culture is like where you live. There are certainly a small minority of hateful people who actively care about homosexuality and will demonize you for being Lesbian. But there are a lot more people who couldn't care less who you love, and are just straight up resentful of the way LGBTQ people act towards others in every day life. Especially the trans and Gay men part. Genuine hatred is different from non-acceptance, and therefore the source is different too.

There's a really great Key and Peele sketch where Key is a flamboyant, obnoxious, openly gay man working an office. He's making all these lewd, vulgar, and generally distasteful and obnoxious comments through out the day. Eventually, Peele's character can't take it anymore and asks Key to stop (not even calling him any names, he just asks him to stop making everything sexual). Key responds by indignantly calling Peele and homophobe and saying how Peele is oppressing and repressing him. Just after Key finishes his rant, Peele's boyfriend/husband walks in and they give each other a kiss and walk out of the office. The camera focuses on Key's face as he says "Ohhhh I get it. I'm not persecuted, I'm just an asshole..."

[TOTEMPLASTER]

Most guys have no objections to girl-on-girl action, except to complain that they seldom get to watch. Faggot activity, however, is regarded with disgust by most males. The word "faggot", fyi, means "false man" and is a military term from the 16th/17th Centuries. It referred to bundles of straw with a soldier's hat and a musket stood at the crenellations on walls to pose as live soldiers. This allowed the garrison's troops to get well-needed rest and deter the enemy from approaching. As homosexuals have been regarded as less than 'real' males throughout history, the term 'faggot' caught on and quickly spread across Europe as a handy shorthand reference.
Sodomy as a act is repulsive and abhorred by most societies except for Islam where it is tolerated up to the age of about 30 when guys are supposed to switch to females.
The SJWs, snowflakes, and preening dilettantes like to declare sodomy as an acceptable behaviour though I've yet to meet one of these twits who is eager to consign their young sons as twinkies for the pleasure of these degenerates.

[likelyOK]

It’s really complicated, some of it is religious beliefs but that would really be much more narrow than people think, few religions actually preach it. The Catholic Church for instance preaches tolerance if if they don’t believe in marriage between two people of the opposite sex. So that leaves a few other extremists out there.
I believe a lot of it comes from fear, not as much as being afraid of being hit on by the same sex but they probably have fear of someone who is so different from them. I also think a good amount of the time they were raised that way.
Usually people who are homophobic have more than one bigotry, but not not necessarily. For instance I was romantically involved with someone who was had a gay friend and an Islamic friend (a younger white guy) I myself am Mexican Indian, and after we stop being involved I found some REALLY disturbing racist material against Blacks on his Instagram. So my point is these are all theories but I have not done the research to back it up🤷🏽‍♂️

[OlderAndWiser]

Homophobic means that people don't approve of your lifestyle so they must be given a label until they start thinking in the âpproved way.

Insisting that everyone must give you approval is one of the things that people dislike about so many lesbians.

[TruthBringer]

NAILED IT!

[RingOfFire]

Sounds familiar. 😉

[razelove]

Well you need to elaborate a bit more. Are you talking about the policies of some theocracies that will support homosexuality between men, or at least turn a blind eye, but punish women severely? That you being a lesbian isn't celebrated? Are there some guys who want to sleep with you and get frustrated because because of their dangly bits?

Are there people actually running in fear from you and your gayness like it's a plague of locusts? What kind of homophobia do you face?

I know a girl who came out in Utah in a rural area, and her biggest frustration was that no one seemed to care. So I really am curious if this is in the US if it's mostly a family/interpersonal relationship thing, or something more sinister.

[Mr_Dangerous]

Because we like society norms to be set to... normal. There is no better way of putting it. Any letter from LGBT is a list of disorders which is neglected by science, it's like our society just gave up and said, "okay go your way". Seriously, it's like telling a man who sees any round abject as an onion that it is in fact an onion and he should keep believing so!

Also, other people who don't give you a reason and just say "fuck you" are just frustrated people. They are frustrated of you because majority of LGBT likes to flash, rub in or sometimes even force their beliefs on societies fine straight, well raised people. Forcing the people to like what they don't believe is right. It also influences kids and teens too, they are stupid up until 21+ and unfit to make their own decisions but LGBT just ruins the whole youth, it's disguising!

Repetition drives people to dislike you. You know those anti drug bs campaigns, clubs, class and ads we had to overcome in elementary up till high school? sometimes they are so repetitive that it made people WANT to do drugs to make a "stfu" statement.

That's how racism is flaring up in the United States, BLM rubs in that black people are the only ones who matter and how they are superior. "Black lives matter" where are the other lives? I only see black. Black power! Black supremacy! Black pride! But if us white folks replaced black with white then it's not okay? not okay to be white? That's some racist shit! "I'm better than the blacks!" then "Stupid white people" and it's a swing that does on and on.

You still reading this? damn, I hope you see my side. If we stop talking about this so called "Injustice" and just go to some god damn rock n roll concerts together and smoke some weed, maybe, JUST MAYBE we can all love each other no matter how mentally challenged, confused, weird, right, left, normal shnormal, black or white we are.

[zariahdp]

It’s not that people are homophobic but it’s seems like the LGBTQ community is trying to make people accept it when they DON’T have to. Everyone is entitled to their opinions and feelings and those same people shouldn’t be judged for disagreeing with it period. It’s your life and at the end of the day we really don’t give a fuck what you do lol. As long as no one is hurting you it shouldn’t matter if people are against it

[recvcv]

finally. can i marry you

[zariahdp]

@recvcv lol I’d say yes if I actually wasn’t getting married this May🥺

[recvcv]

well ***missed an oppurtunity with a hot woman

[recvcv]

well all i can say is ur hubby gona be lucky man

[zariahdp]

@recvcv thank you☺️

[Blabster]

Omg yes i try to explain this to people all the time. You can't force people to agree with you. Same goes for religion. As long as you respect people with other views and beliefs, who cares?

[Tomtom9090]

The same with blacks, so quit forcing everyone to comply

[Blabster]

@Tomtom9090 comply with the amount pigment in their skin? Lol

[Tomtom9090]

@Blabster Yuup

[zariahdp]

@Tomtom9090 this was your moment to show your inner racism huh?😂😂

[Tomtom9090]

Well you showed your inner sexualism / homophobia so I suppose we are even

[zariahdp]

@Tomtom9090 clearly you don’t know what homophobia is but yeah that’s just what you are😂😂 but keep on people like that don’t live for long

[zariahdp]

@Tomtom9090 we don’t care for you either🤷🏾‍♀️So that’s not my problem

[Tomtom9090]

Exactly so why be upset?

[ChrisMaster69]

Invariably it’s men that are bigots.

Invariably certain cultures are more so.

Invariably those in to religion are.

So if the person is male, religious and certain cultures, then they will never change.

The world must conform to how they want it.

Usually they will slip in the odd God quote.

Oh and how it’s not natural.

Odd thing is a lot of those falling in to the above are happy to take an altar boy to the back room for some extras.

Double standards much

[Puppystarfish23]

I really don't get it either gay people aren't effecting anyone elses life so why should it bother so many people. When I see a gay couple all I see is a couple who are in love and are just trying to get on with everyday life.

Some people say it's because they are annoying and in your face about there sexuality and make it there whole personality but I think them types of people would still be just as annoying if they were straight and would probably cling on to some other minority or social group for attention. It has nothing to do with the fact they are gay its to do with them as a person. Being gay shouldn't have to define a person

[Puppystarfish23]

Being gay is totally natural too and anyone who says it isn't needs to go back to school. There's actually mountains of scientific proof that some people are just born gay it isn't a choice if it was why are so many people still so afraid of coming out and why do so many people from LGBT community commit suicide?

If people choose to gay why do people in countries where it's still illegal or not socially acceptable to be gay risk being killed or imprisoned from a choice they made. Why would you choose to be gay if you knew it would harm you.

Also there's even gay animals out there are you telling me but the media and society made them gay?

[BeMuse]

What did you think marching in the streets, steeling people’s beer while they are eating and then yelling racial slurs at them, and fomenting general chaos would turn people gay if you rigged an election? The world doesn’t work that way. You’re peers have represented your group very badly. If you want to be part of that group you have to take responsibility for their actions. Otherwise grow the fuck up and be an individual and live your own life with the understanding that people don’t need to agree with you.

[BeMuse]

*stealing

[BeMuse]

*your

[rjroy3]

You can't kill an idea. The only way to beat bad ideas are with better ideas. And it's not as simple as, "I have the right idea, why can't you just accept that".

You really have to meet people where they are. Like a lot of what is deemed homophobic isn't actually homophobic and that's really part of the problem.

You'll never get rid of it entirely, but you can cut it down a lot if you simply don't demonize people and call them homophobic when they're not or misappropriate actions/ideas as homophobic when they're not.

[rjroy3]

Olderandwiser said it well.

Homophobic is treated as if it's about hating gay people but it's really about not liking the lifestyle. That's not the same as hating the person and we all know that.

People like to equate homophobic to being racist as if it were similar. When really it's not. Do some people hate gay people? For sure. Do some people not hate gay people but are against gay marriage? Yes.

Both are labeled homophobic.

[Daniela1982]

Even God, who says homosexuality is an abomination, does not hate the gay person, just the sin. But He hates all sin. It is when they practice the homosexual acts that they run afoul of God and let's face it, He will be the final judge, not us. So what we may say means nothing in the grand scheme of things.

[rjroy3]

@Daniela1982 although I being in God I don't use religion as argumentation to justify the validity of something in society. It's an appeal to authority fallacy.

Unless you're discussing the philosophical points of the Bible or calling attention to the religious views of others as motivation to act based on their beliefs then it really carries no weight.

[Mamaganja]

I would like to stop being harassed by lesbians to date them. Some try to force you to be with them and I don’t like it. It’s happened to me numerous times. But I can separate individuals and entire groups of people.. I have no problem with people wanting who they want, just keep me out of it.

[ZackBan]

Because freedom goes both ways. You are free to love and free to hate.
Why should they accept you? They don't owe you anything.
What you need to do is live as you see fit, see who you wanna see but don't expect universal approval that will never happen no matter what the subject is

[Trooper205]

"Homophobic", in it's own terms, basically means to Dislike or otherwise show Prejudice against Homosexual "Gay" people, which many people have.

People are "Homophobic" because of many reasons, but I think the primary reason is because it's unnatural and against Religious and popular Moral belief.

Now, rather than being Homophobic, people should instead let Homosexuals live their own lives and simply not associate themselves with them if they are against that lifestyle.

To further point out, there is almost no place you can go where someone will completely accept the Homosexual Lifestyle. Homophobic people will exist anywhere.

[007kingifrit]

evolution wants us to hate that which is different. its vital to our survival

the more different things we tolerate the less likely we are to survive because we must share resources with things that are different. that want different things and will not prioritize our safety as we are "the other"

you need to understand the past 30 years have been the most peaceful in history so you aren't used to needing to think about survival this way. but that peace is built on unsustainable things. and it is coming to an end soon

[FictionalCharacter]

I'm not homophobic. But there are gays that give others gays a bad image. And I'm talking about the annoying/lisp talking/shade thrower/antagonist/drama starter/bullys/. That once someone calls them out on their actions. They victimize themselves and justify their actions of them being gay.

[Xoxocutekitty]

Why do we take our shoes off before entering someones home or wash our hands after we use the bathroom?

Homophobic people grew up in homophobic households and dont like being told how they grew up has a history of being hurtful to others. They need to get over themselves and most are good helpful eople once they are 'forced' to work alongside a gay person and get to know them. Attitude follows action.

[Anonymous]

you have to understand that society will always have something against gays. humans are programmed to be attracted to the opposite sex, whoever whatever made us specifically wired us this way. when people see gay couples its like an anomaly a red flag if you will. doesn't mean hate it's just confusion. people are really loosening up about it though especially the past 60 years. honestly I'd ignore it if I were you compared to other countries and how it was pre 60s people are really laid back and accepting. especially in america. go to a third world nation and you'd probably be killed by citizens for being gay.
I hope you didn't think homophobia would disappear when Joe biden went into office lol. trump had nothing to do with it and even supported gay rights.

[goaded]

"humans are programmed to be attracted to the opposite sex" Clearly, not all of them.

[RolandCuthbert]

The same reasons why people are still racist, sexist, bigoted, etc.

Power, politics, ignorance, and stupidity.

[KrazyKem]

Depends on how you have been brought up, I use to hate lesbians and gay until my sister come out as one my entire family cut her off but she is my sister I loved her and just wanted to support her then I realised I shouldn't care how others live their lives being gay bi lesbian don't matter all matter is your heart.

I think it's the order generation's View on homosexuality and religion it's seen as a sin my family is Christian and their hatred at the time came from that.

At the end of the day fuck what people say or think keep being you keep being awesome

[SphynxUK]

I would say, there are still a lot of ignorant people about.
Someone might not agree with your lifestyle, but that doesn’t make them homophobic.
Homophobic people are quite different, misguided creatures.
I encounter them all the time.
What they don’t know is, both my children are gay. Sometimes I give them a piece of my mind... other times I let it slide. Mostly I just feel sorry for those types of people.

[Daniela1982]

And do your kids quietly live their life or try and push their life style on their friends or ride atop floats in a "Gay Pride" parade?

[SphynxUK]

Their lifestyle?
They’re just people. Eat, work, sleep, study.
And no. I don’t think either have attended a pride event.

[MCheetah]

They aren't. They just hate people who are so lame, their only personality trait is who they're sexually attracted to. Most people don't care about who you sleep with, until whiners start whining about it. Aside from that, it'd only be a problem in the dating world if they're disrupting things there.

[menina]

Well some people don't believe in homosexuality, they think it's just a phase. Others believe it's a sin or something that is not normal.
They can't just accept that a same sex couple can be happy and live a normal life.
We still have a lot of prejudiced people in our societies. Just live your life, their opinion doesn't matter.

[Daniela1982]

Yes they can and that is the ones we don't mind. It is the one's that think their life style is superior to the other 6 billion people on Earth and try and push it on others, and feel they are entitled to rights straights don't get. All they have to do is play their "LGBT" card and between a straight and a gay having the same issues, a gay wins and the straight gets to go suck an egg.

[menina]

@Daniela1982 I understand what you're saying. I've never seen a gay person acting the way you described, but I don't know many homosexual people. This is just my experience and I can't speak for other people. If some gay people do that, then they're not right.