I have never had a preference. Can't say I've dated women of other races but it wasn't for a lack of trying on my part (just bad luck I guess, never worked out). As for why they have preferences, well one, every one has a preference so their is nothing you can do with that (I am probably one of the few people with minimal preferences and even I have them). However as for the not dating black guys, well their could be plenty of reasons, probably cultural. The fact is their are certain behaviors that are more common in black men (from the US anyway) and that could be the part that they don't like i. e. I've seen them be very aggressive with their "flirting"(kind of off putting in my opinion) and that is something that white women are probably turned off by. It could be the gender dynamics are different etc.(they probably won't know exactly why because most haven't really thought about it enough to put into words).
So I would say ask them, maybe you can figure out at least the baseline reason for it. In my experience I find that its usually due to familiarity or rather a lack of familiarity and negative experiences. So the quickest way to change their mind is create familiarity, which should help create a comfortable enviroment (one they feel like they are not going to be at risk in (obviously physically but specifically socially (if she says x, will she be accused of racism? will their be a fight etc. No one wants to have to watch every single thing they say because their afraid it will offend (and if they are not familiar with you they will probably have that feeling at first)).
Second is to create positive experiences. My friend said he would never date a black girl. . . he is currently engaged to a black girl. The reason was that he worked with her for awhile, she laughed at his jokes, they got along and he started to build a rappor with her, started getting those positive associations with her and as a result has found that he now finds black women attractive now when he didn't before. So that would be what I would suggest doing.
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Most of the women I've found attractive have been black women, but I'm attracted to all races.
Choosing a partner is probably the most personal choice any person has. I like to think of myself as a polite and cultured person and for that reason I can't get myself to interfer with such life changing decisions.
Also unless you are my own child or a member of my family, I absolutely don't want the responsibility that comes with interfering in your decisions.
So? I'm not even going to bother knowing why someone doesn't "..." black men or white men or myself. It's their own business.
And for the self esteem issue, I just tend to surround myself with people who like me including a few who are sexually and romantically into the type of woman I am. Problem solved.
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This is what you wanted me to answer? Okaaaay.
¹my wife is white
²my just recently former friends with benefits is black
³I have dated a Mexican girl
⁴ I have dated an Asian girl before.
Honestly I don't care about your skin color, just have a good heart and be honest.
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They is a very strange thing to say. Race is not a factor in who I find attractive.
I Like my own people.
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