Do you think its a bad idea to care about people online like unconditionally?

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So i just generally care about most people i come in contact with and get to know a bit. On an unconditional level where i generally care about well being and how they are feeling. In one of my other questions I mentioned that i was a sort of empath and feel like i can be in tune with other’s emotions a little easier.

Even though i have not met any of the people i chat with on here i just care. People say to not care so much but i can't help it. It used to tear me up when people leave and i never see or speak to them again. Im a lot better with this now where it might hurt still but it won't destroy me now like it used to.

of course it goes without saying that i do not extend this sentiment to any racists bigots and the like. Those types i can't respect or care for ever.

anyways what do you think?

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The thing is that i had always had this but for awhile in thought i had lost my compassion and when I rediscovered it it made me feel whole again. This is who i am!

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tatianamay · Accepted Answer

aw man, i do this all the time. like literally all the time. My parents and grandparents and all other elders have told me that it's an amazing trait and that its a good thing that i care about people. Not many people have this type of personality. Like once on reddit there was this guy who was mentally abused by his own mum and he wrote a comment and im thinking how can i help this guy? and i started reading all his comments and suddenly a wave of sadness washed over me. I don't know why im like this but since i care a lot about others even if they're strangers, my mood also gets affected. i met this dude who was depressed and i actually tried helping him out. I was kinda depressed for a few days after talking to him, but im ok now. its nice to know that there's someone out there who's in the same situation as me, who can empathize with people and help em out. One of my friends told me that im like a baby when it comes to emotional stuff, im like so soft and sensitive and stuff, which is true, but i just call it being a human being who simply has the capacity to empathize with people and try to understand what they're going through

Miah02 · Accepted Answer

I think it's sweet that you care about people in general.

Will people take advantage at times?
Yes.

But don't let that change you.

And online or not it's still a person you are speaking to.
Sadly a lot of people forget this to be the case

ChrisMaster69 · Accepted Answer

I’ve found with online things, you often develop a fairly strong emotional bond.

I've met a lot of people I’ve made friends with over the years.

Even been to a wedding and a funeral.

I do get concerned about some people, to me it’s simply natural that those we interact with in the online and real world, we offer friendship and caring.

I greatly respect a number of people on here and have made it clear in the past.

I never expect anything in return, although answering DMs would be a start 😂😂

Im a Mod on a UK car forum and we had a guy come down with a cancer, even though a lot had not met him, we had chatted online and all rallied around to support him and his family.

to me it’s just being human and caring about others.

hahahmm · Accepted Answer

Yeah. A person like you needs to limit contact with strangers to almost zero. Until you learn to have moderation. Even most normally 'good' acting people will take advantage of people who act like doormats and always give. If you run into a con artist you'll be in BIG trouble. Checkout my MuTake on "don't be a sucker" too.

crazyish · Answer

It's a good thing. I believe that it's essential to connect and interact with many others. It's good all around especially if we have any hope of surviving as a species. I used to be like this, I let it effect me too much, and like you, I hope to be able to let more people in again and not let it effect me.

The world needs people like you. You give people hope and things that they need that they didn't even know they needed. Keep being you.

DarkCarousel · Answer

Mostly no. Just make sure you set boundaries for yourself so that you don’t get taken advantage of.  I have a fondness for certain people that I interact with often.

loves2learn · Answer

I am also very empathetic and I can relate to everything you said here. I think it would tear me up if someone I interact with regularly disappeared without a trace.

PaynefulPleasures · Answer

I think it's so genuine how you care for others & I the same don't ever stop 🤗😘🥀

menina · Answer

I would say it depends. If you feel that you're close to the person and they prove that they're legit it's good to care about them. However, if you don't know if they are who they say they are, you just chat occasionally and you never saw their face then yes it's bad.

kidvid80 · Answer

as people we are always changing, going in and outta phases, sometimes you have to go back- to go forward, growing into the person we were always supposed to be. i think you can but also i think sometimes as a good hearted person you can't always, but in the end the people that our in our lives for however long we do the best we can to treat them accordingly

AmandaYVR · Answer

I think your Update explains it well and says all there is to say. You don't need others' opinions on this. You know who you are, and how you want to be, and it's not causing you anguish now, so you should just live your life how you wish.

Azura_88 · Answer

Depends on the person. We can't generalize but 80% of the time it's a bad idea because many people don't give AF, once their problem is solved they disappear.

exitseven · Answer

It is okay to let yourself care about people you meet online. However you must realize that they may not be who they say they are and also may have bad intentions.
There are also a lot of people who are crazy.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Not so much a bad thing, just be careful with who you care about. Because without really knowing them, you never really know who's on the other end of that computer.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think it's bad to care about people online, but it's smart to remember that even if you have been talking, that's still a stranger on the other end.

rosemilk · Answer

It's a bit odd, but not bad at all. I know quite a few people who do that. I personally don't talk to anyone besides people I know in real life 🌸

WowwGirl · Answer

Sometimes but I've met great people on here and talk to at @worldscolide and @gwenhwyfar regularly. It's been positive only with them. I trust and lv them both.

Aimée__LJ · Answer

Being caring is a good thing. Human decency really.

Minx7282 · Answer

It's good as I'm the same. I tend to unconditionally care and have empathy towards people I haven't even met. Just shows you're a deep and caring person. Just make sure you don't get too involved where it warns you out. I have done that many times

purplepoppy · Answer

Your just names on a screen, I forgot there's a real person at other end sometimes

XimenaV · Answer

As long as it is a healthy relationship it is perfectly fine. If you have any doubts on whether or not it is healthy you can find lots of info online and even on youtube @Psych2go

genericname85 · Answer

the only peprson that you should love "unconditionally" is your child in the first 14 years or so.

Silas_153 · Answer

You don't really know the people online. They can tell you anything at all about themselves, completely misrepresent who they really are (ex. showing you altered or completely fake photos), and in every sense of the term are complete strangers.

Harleigh90 · Answer

Empathy is a quailty very little have. Just don't let others take advantage.

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