Do you think a girl is supposed to be quiet?

Question

I can't believe some people still hold this nasty sexist double standard view that a girl shouldn't be loud & speak her mind

Not_Average · Accepted Answer

They can do what they like, but it’s unattractive when a woman is loud and crude. It’s far more attractive when a woman can be assertive, yet gentle. What I’ve found is that women who “speak their mind” typically lack social etiquette and pride themselves on being rude because they correlate it to strength.

All of this really stems from biology. Just as shy men are unattractive to women, the same applies to loud and crude women. The more you deviate from biologically driven norms, the more unattractive you become to the opposite sex.

For example, men produce 7x more testosterone than women, and our endocrine system plays a huge factor in personality traits.

We can say that we don’t like these things, but these differences are driven by biology. It’s like saying the weather is too hot. It states your stance, but doesn’t explain as to why it’s too hot, and it doesn’t change the fact that it is hot.

I’m all for people being themselves, but loud and crude women are going to have a more difficult time finding a quality man.

Lionman95 · Accepted Answer

No I don´t like it because girls can be very funny to. I actually fell in love with my first crush in school times because she was one of the few girls that were openly showing she´s clumsy and dopey, too. (Until I met her, I really though that those characteristics were genuiely male) I like it when girls are talkative even if you haven´t properly thought it through. Try it and take your turn because the world looses something if girls keep quiet all the time and only speak if they´re spoken, too.

Flower7 · Accepted Answer

I keep hearing people say that girls should be chatty. It’s always guys that I hear saying this. They seem to feel that girls should do most of the talking in conversations. This has been my experience anyway.

pickedcrisps · Answer

I think all I know about what I look for in a woman is just, as nicely as I can put it because I accept I'm no squeaky-clean guy myself with no baggage because that would've been lying:

All I ask is that she not be bipolar or prone to being very very sensitive to perceived slights or the slightest criticism either to her or about her because I've known women like that and they really don't gel with my more passive calmer personality type.

So take from my answer what you will 🙏👍😯

ohshee · Answer

I think if there's a problem everybody should speak their mind but there's better methods to get your message across the yelling and screaming and being loud I would rather communicate in a soft voice looking in each other's eyes it doesn't need to be drama there doesn't need to be excitement you just needs to be two people being honest called you working out to fix it

Renegade_Sailor · Answer

There is a difference between having an opinion and being a cunt.

What most women today lack are the critical thinking skills to form a well rounded thoughtful opinion, most just screech and repeat talking points that someone else came up with.

YesICan · Answer

Dumb and obnoxious people should be quiet based on their shitty character not based on their gender.

I mean look at Cardi B for example, if I was in the same room as her I'd rip my eyes and ears out. I think that people like that should be quiet.

KingofCups · Answer

When women are loud and aggressive and behave like a man, I can't help but want to punch em in the face ssry. It's like if a mouse was to fuck with a lion and then not accept the consequences. Men can physically dominate you, don't go out of your way to push their buttons and irrtate them. You don't know often men have to restrain themselves and repress their emotions over stupid shit like this.

jim009 · Answer

I think everyone should have good social skills that tell them when to shut the hell up and when (and how) to speak their mind. The difference between speaking your mind and being an asshole does not have gender boundaries.

t-8900 · Answer

No! No one should be quiet! If you're quiet you don't communicate. If you don't communicate your relationship fails. I value what my partner has to say. In fact I value what she has to say over what everyone else does. :D

MotorcycleMan · Answer

Women should be obscene and not heard. lol, just kidding. Yes, I think everyone should speak their mind. I want to hear all views, and especially those of a woman I'm dating.

PositiveNote · Answer

All I know is that if a guy thinks he's going to actually get a girl to stop talking... he better not be a betting man! He will be totally broke all his life!

VanillaSalt · Answer

Women shouldn’t be loud. It’s annoying. I don’t like any loud people but loud women that talk over you are just the worst. Ide rather swallow thumbtacks.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

In general, people talk way too much. Mostly about 'nothing', and often without thinking first. To be quiet does not mean to be mute. So, I'd quietly say that I dislike noisy people (men included)

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Literally nobody (in the Western world) thinks that women shouldn't speak their minds. The problem isn't what's being said; it's how it's being said. There are appropriate ways to speak one's concerns.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Lmao  no of course not. I encourage free talking and saying what’s on their mind. It would be a boring life if that happened in a relationship

Lliam · Answer

She has as much right to speak as do I. I value what my wife has to say. She's wise and perceptive, sometimes funny. We learn from each other.

Andres77 · Answer

I think women should exercise self-control, discipline and sound judgement before opening their mouths.
I think men should do the same.
I know that's asking too much and I'd be daft to get my hopes up.

Fireguy17 · Answer

why shouldn't you? If you are with people that have that point of view, I would highly suggest you find new people. I don't think you would ever be able to change their minds on that subject.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

"Loud"? No, I don't think anyone should deliberately be "loud". Speak you mind, politely, and with an informed opinion, absolutely.  Men are actually craving women who have something real to say.

ronaldo75 · Answer

Stop lying and stop fishing for victim oppression points. Women are louder and talk more shit than men by MILES. No one is keeping you quiet. If anything it's women who start yammering and don't let men talk.

sawno · Answer

Whats the fun in that? My girlfriend and i have deep conversations all the time..

20yearsolder · Answer

I think every woman / ladies/girl should speak their mind freely.

serious · Answer

Supposed to? No. If a woman wants to be quiet by choice then it is fine.

exitseven · Answer

I thought this question was about screaming during sex which I think is okay.

jshm2 · Answer

No. But people with no clue, should be, regardless of gender.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

if she's not annoying and has something to say i can tolerate her lol

Wiredone · Answer

A woman has every right to speak her mind about what she is feeling

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Disagree. Speak your mind if something has to be said in truth.  Being loud and rude is totally different than being out spoken yet under control.

Wester1967 · Answer

No. I wish I had a female lead singer for my rockabilly band

3rdsignsun1 · Answer

It depends on the setting, and who exactly would be able to hear her. The same would go for men as well. The inner workings of a relationship, should be at least as private as you keep your social security number.

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

In sex? Yeah, I want her to be loud. In general? Why does anyone have to be loud? Words are Words. It’s our actions that define us.

Arizono · Answer

If you love your girl, there's no way you'd want that

lonelyguyintheworld · Answer

Absolutely not I want my girl to voice her opinion just as anyone else would.

Anonymous · Answer

No. I want her not to be annoying any obnoxious. Typically, annoying and obnoxious women will take any suggestion that they be quiet as some broad sexist statement against all women. True to form.

dragoblack · Answer

Absolutely not, be passionate, talk about interests, voice your concerns... etc. you're a person, be a person

roy_ricky09 · Answer

That's stupid. I like talkative ones. But they must know what to say how to and when to...

SenseiSeptred · Answer

There is a difference between someone being quiet, and someone that doesn't communicate well

Waldoe · Answer

Shout it, sing it, scream it... do what you need to

ManHater · Answer

You should say that to black ratchet women in the hood and see what you get back lol.

Snakeyes7 · Answer

No. I think she can do whatever she pleases unless it violates the rights of others.

Jerre · Answer

No, speak your mind, especially when we are fucking!

Gkelvin · Answer

They're not supposed to be quiet, their opinions might lead to a positive end

BigKevHanma · Answer

Well they’re about as emotionally stable as a child

BlueWalker · Answer

No. Because it's 2021, not 1784.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

If so, why do they talk so much?

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

no, I think people who don't talk are boring.

Babygirl_S · Answer

Yes and also not have any opinions 😒

CuriousAZ · Answer

No way. How can i hear her beautifuk voice

007kingifrit · Answer

i think dumb people are supposed to be quiet

EnglishEuropean · Answer

No that's just silly.

noohair · Answer

Immature male caveman brain.

gag2021 · Answer

It varies with personalities.

SmokinAces2000 · Answer

No, im not a douche 😂

anylolone · Answer

Nope, most men prefer vocal women.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm guessing you could do with holding some back.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

No, don’t be ridiculous

KrisPW · Answer

Good luck!

IAMNathanael · Answer

Just say it

Anonymous · Answer

Only if she disagrees with me.

Anonymous · Answer

They're suppose to make a point but do they?

Anonymous · Answer

Only if she’s a bitch

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