Do you think society needs more sensitivity to peoples' feelings, or less?

Question

Have people lost resiliency and become too sensitive?

Or have assholes run amok?

It's kind of an impossible question, because there's no way to cover all the possible scenarios. But if you had to pick just one or the other, which do you think is the greater issue today?

Haha456 · Accepted Answer

People were more resilient back then 30-100 years ago because there was no such thing as justice in the old days. In the old days, it was like the jungle. You can murder someone and get away with it. You can be racist and get away with it. You can break a kid's arm and not get arrested.

Nowadays we live in a different world. We live in a society where justice, equality, fair treatment is prioritized and enforced. 40 years ago, there was no such thing as a "no bullying" movement. Teachers did nothing about bullying. It was all up to the victim to defend themselves and fight it out. There were no lessons on "no bullying".

Nowadays times are different, teachers and principals are more proactive about preventing bullying. This is why kids are more likely to reach out to adults and teachers for help. This may make them seem "less resilient" but the reality is, kids nowadays know that teachers will help them and be on their side. So they do not have to endure the nightmares and trauma that you might've endured as a child bully victim in the 1980s.

Nowadays, its also harder to get away with beatings. Back then in the 1980s, you can break your classmates arm and get away with it. Nowadays you can get expelled or suspended from school or even arrested due to it.

melanieeeB · Accepted Answer

Being empathetic and listening to others is important but I find these whole stuff going on on social media, is just way too much and over the top and I find it really exhausting.

For example, the body positiv movement... Basically it's a good thing and we should love our bodies, accept others and don't bully them
but then on social media you just have hateful people who just want to stay obese and be loved for it and when someone tries to lose weight, to feel better and be HEALTHY, they get bullied and hated on... it's just crazy, there is no acceptance like it should be you know...

ObscuredBeyond · Accepted Answer

There needs to be a reasonable line in the sand drawn going either way. Foaming at the mouth, because Jane in Thor 4 has cancer, is being "sensitive" and demanding action for all the wrong reasons. After all, nobody demanded content warnings on Deadpool movies when Deadpool had cancer.

Being mad that anyone would call for prosecution of a Koran-touting lunatic that blew off a woman's limbs for fun and profit; but not being mad that her limbs were blown off and her life permanently ruined, makes you a reprobate British zoomer - and a pathological pseudo-altruist who deserves a worse fate than Dahmer. But that's most of Europe - stuck on stupid.

BLM hiring white activists to berate and belittle a partially black woman, and trivialize her fear and anger, when police won't do anything about an armed lunatic that shot up her apartment and tried to kill her; doing nothing to protect her or show her any sensitivity, yet going to the moon and back to demand everyone care about the sensibilities of the shooter, just because he was a black man, is equally an example of such stupidity. Their every line of thinking is perverse and hypocritical!

Bluemax · Accepted Answer

I'm afraid I find it impossible to reduce my answer to either/or.

I have noticed in online articles, bloggers, tiktokkers, etc. that snark and mockery are spoken with alarming fluency, even to those who are in emotional pain. I would like to see compassion spoken with greater fluency. However, on the internet that seems an uphill battle. I find myself at odds with people I agree with simply because of how they said something.

That being said, I have also noticed that a great many people are far too dismissive of ideas and love to label them "hate speech" and attach the word "phobe" to label people who disagree with so much as a single policy that the labellors support. These people are dismissing arguments without really engaging in debate because they feel hurt or angry. I feel thicker skin needs to be cultivated here.

I support fighting bad ideas with compassionate good ideas; NOT silencing ANY idea with anti-hatespeech legislation or policy.

LaFerrari · Answer

The hard truth is for some the world is a scary place full of harsh hardworking jobs, wars, bullies, violence that break people, some peoples minds have been washed away where they have no sensitivity or their feelings have been suppressed to where you start to get judged to being a cold or an “asshole” because you don’t accept peoples criticism or help. You’re looked down on like someone that is just to hard to break and doesn’t change because they have nothing else. That’s how I’ve felt for years and still do but I’m working on that….

Then you have people that have had everything handed to them, they don’t figure life out for themselves, they’re undisciplined, and disrespectful, people become fixated on social media or politically motivated material…. People get lost and become extremely sensitive.

There should be balance in our society, but it’s too toxic on either side. You can be hardworking or tough but be sensitive too, not extremely hardworking to the point you ruin your life, or be extremely sensitive where you’re offended all the time. You need BALANCE.

There’s a lot more to talk about, especially with this alpha and beta nonsense… just be you, don’t be someone you’re not, titles lead to toxicity in our society.

FriendlyDrugDealer · Answer

I think we are not being human enough, humans can be radicalized easier through multiple avenues that easily influence us on politics, religions, trends, peer pressure, etc.

We should learn to lean into our humanity and remember they’re fellow human beings on this floating rock in a vast ocean of stars in a continuous expanding universe. Sensitivity can be a powerful tool that can give us the ability to unite people together or even help someone heal. I used to think of sensitivity as a weakness but in the contrary, it’s incredibly effective in moderation. If we all give each other the common courtesy to express our feelings then we might actually understand each other for once, now wouldn’t that be nice?

Traumasurgeon · Answer

Never before in human history has there been this much leisure time. You have time to relax now. The issue is that people get bored literally so they end up creating problems that don’t exist. Purely imaginary. That person you think is being loud and obnoxious. Thats not an actual problem. You getting a stain on your shirt or pants is not an actual issue. Then people constantly worry about really bad things happening to them. But none of those things they thought of happening, actually happened and the things that did end up happening to them. They couldn’t predict would happen. So they just literally stressed out over absolutely nothing. If you create problems out of situations instead of looking for solutions to the problems right in front of you. You will forever be miserable.

Lliam · Answer

I voted 'B'.

It's up to individuals to be more sensitive and polite. And it's also up to individuals to come down off their crosses and stop acting like victims or social justice warriors.

I don't think we should force 'society' to comply with PC bullshit by criminalizing anything that might hurt someone's feelings. I actually hate militant, authoritarian-loving PC bullies. They deserve mockery.

In the end, it's my decision to be polite if someone is deserving. But I won't be intimidated. It's also my right to laugh at morons.

Un-PC comedy, for example, has had tremendous positive impact in bringing attention to injustice over the decades. Think of Lenny Bruce, Richard Pryor, Mel Brooks, George Carlin and many, many others.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Both are true. Too many people are overly sensitive. And instead of leaving well enough alone, some entities and organizations make unnecessary rules policing words and thoughts. So naturally, rebels, even some who might not normally be loudmouth buttholes, start behaving MORE badly in protest. Then it’s a self-renewing cycle of bad reactions.

Lynx122 · Answer

That's a difficult question. I think we should find ways to be kind but also have serious discussions where we should be free to say what we think. But honestly I don't think emotions and often too much emotions will ever get out of politics or societal change culture wars etc. And I think it has been that way for our entire history. I think overall things tend to even out though. I have not cared much about politics for a while, I follow some UK/Brexit news because it's entertaining af but I don't really have an agenda. I think things are pretty good in my country and my vote has no impact it's kind of a bummer when I vote and then I see 65% voted the other way XD. I'm kinda lazy about it. Overall I think there's a lot of drama but it doesn't have much of an impact on what actually happens so things should just stay as they are I don't see how the debate will get to a better place anytime soon.

RavVid · Answer

I actually think it is both at the same time.

With online communications people can get away with being arseholes without consequence. And people have become more narcissistic and more inclined to do put downs. Those who insult have run amok.

At the same time I think we have become more sensitive because of the above but also because people are more likely to think that they are never in the wrong.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

Unfortunately we live in a world where assholes are rewarded for their tenacity and behavior over people who are empathetic, se positive and caring.

Sensitivity makes one a mark or someone to be taken advantage of.

AimeeKyle · Answer

Less for sure. People need to toughen up. Life isn’t fair and is / can be challenging. Stop taking the easy route and blame everything and everyone for your problems…. I promise, each individual had something to do with where they are at in their life, no matter what start / hand you were dealt in the beginning.

FreyaRed · Answer

Media is the biggest influence of society and media uses emotion to achieve goals of their customers. I don't think amount of sensitivity causes problems in modern societies but selectivity of who or what deserves emotions according to media causes a lot of cognitive dissonance.
Even Gustave Le Bon who is father of modern sociology saw in XIX century media as biggest threat to society.

MikeInHawaii · Answer

It depends on the feelings. Some people are offended by the truth. Also, “feeling uncomfortable around” someone should never be grounds for a sexual harassment complaint.

purplepoppy · Answer

Assholes always claim people are too sensitive. It's a lame excuse for not showing respect.

invalid1 · Answer

Well, no it's up to individuals themselves. overall we collectively reciprocate the amount of care we receive. I don't know if we're caring enough or too much or little, but I do know that it's not important because in the end I am just treating people the way I have been treated.

hyperben · Answer

either way works for me, i think the world needs more caring people on one hand but when everyone is too sensitive to everything, nothing gets done, moments like that we need a few more david goggin's around. got to be a balance, tolerance and resilience in equal measure.

SeekingSubmission · Answer

No f*** no exactly the opposite society needs to f****** not be sensitive to people's feelings society should say f*** you we don't care about how you feel tell him like f****** is hard sugar coated society f*** all that!!!

Everybody wants to be all PC yeah f*** no!

Nobody f****** acting like that when America had the f****** nukes!

exitseven · Answer

People need to toughen up. The world is a hard place and getting upset over a perceived slight is just going to make society a much weaker place.

Anonymous · Answer

The problem with feelings is they are pre-programmed reactions to a world that has been disappearing for the last 50 thousand years, and has largely ceased to exist in the last 10 thousand years.

So people really need to figure out how to control their emotions better.

Juven · Answer

It's not confusing when you know what you are, just like when you know what you want. Energy speaks to you or others in ways you can't even imagine, and then people know not to fuck with you or you know when not to fuck with others. Simple as what life is really about.

alice55 · Answer

Less, we're walking on eggshell cause there's a risk of hurting like 2 % of the population feelings, that's crazy. Rule are made for majority not minority. We're never gonna be able to advance by doing stuff like that.

Surely · Answer

How about the three R’s?  Respect  Responsibility Realism Then sensitivity might come on its own’

loveslongnails · Answer

"Society" ? How can "society" be more, or less, sensitive to anything? Please define "society" in this example, sweet Amanda.

globetrotter22 · Answer

The wrong categories of people get ignored and also the wrong categories people get TOO much attention and sensitivity nowadays.

I would look at suicide rates to see which people really need to be treated carefully.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

We need way less. It is ridiculous, we have become the society of privilege and catering to individuals. Have we learned how some past behavior is harmful? Yes but to get so specific over all mundane details is ridiculous.

genericname85 · Answer

i think that caring for peoples feelings should be OPTIONAL. so that you can distinguish yourself from the assholes by being nice. if nice is just obligatory and forced, then it's worth nothing.

clampfan101 · Answer

More. There’s a difference between being sensitive and letting people be bad influences.

roy_ricky09 · Answer

Nope it's not the society... You can never change the world and make them more sensitive. This is going on since the start, people need to be more strong when it comes to feelings

Blackcosmo · Answer

In many situations society needs to be more sensitive and in others less sensitive.

RedThread · Answer

I don't think we should go out of our way to be assholes to people. As long as we treat each other with dignity and worth, there shouldn't be any problems.

Jltakk · Answer

I think people need to understand a little thing called nuance.

Snsl153 · Answer

LESS! And yes, boys will be boys. What else could they be?

Moose304 · Answer

I am not trying to be funny! I can't answer this question until the asker defines what they mean by society! Just way too open-ended.

Spotifyplaylist · Answer

In certain areas less in others more. It just depends.

Grond21 · Answer

The problem is that we are not sensitive to the right feelings and we are over sensitive to the wrong ones

Phoenix98 · Answer

Personally I think people in general need to toughen up.

GreatnessBack · Answer

I dunno, but I'm glad we live in a time where we can ask the question.  People's lives were too hard to even care about this in the past.

Loveisgirthy · Answer

Needs balance in feelings and understanding. Whatever amount of feelings people need to get there is what we need

Staximus · Answer

I'm tired of all these coddled snowflakes. The world has never been a fair place.

Still-alive · Answer

The world could use way more empathy than it has. so ill vote 'more' here

EnglishEuropean · Answer

If you can't tell the truth because you might hurt someone's feelings, something has gone badly wrong.

Zolly99999 · Answer

In my opinion we are wayyy over sensitive to people's needs now. People need tough love sometimes

Iron_Man · Answer

Only if it’s necessary you can’t cater to every little softy you have to be strong

Alex8736 · Answer

Less. When stating a fact or a proven truth it's best to be honest but in a nice way

skeetskeetskeet · Answer

People are strait vaginas today... I can't wait to see them when the going gets tough

Danielbotta · Answer

Way less kids should not be going to school with butt plugs in their ass they need to be taught what's right and wrong

NathanDavis · Answer

balance, that's what we all really need...

Bricealan · Answer

Assholes have run amok!

Subarugirl · Answer

I think people should be more empathetic

NYCQuestions1976 · Answer

People are too sensitive.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

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icetome · Answer

no they don't

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