In your opinion, am I being racist or rational?

[Anonymous]

I think everyone knows that the overwhelming majority of men prefer to date white women ( It's their right, I don't see a problem with that). It turns out that many white men have already tried something with me, but I never stayed with them, as I always believe that the overwhelming majority of men (especially white men) they prefer serious relationships with white women, and that they most of the time only date black women just for sex and fun.

My black friends seem to agree with this, not only they but other women of color agree as well.

I don't generalize all white men, but avoid frustrations. Do you think it's a racist thought or am I just being rational?

[abc3643]

YOU WROTE:
"I think everyone knows that the overwhelming majority of men prefer to date white women "

Where did you get this "fact"?

Have you thought about other continents like Asia and Africa?
The racists asking this question in these places would be asking:

Africa:
"I think everyone knows that the overwhelming majority of men prefer to date black women "

East Asia:
"I think everyone knows that the overwhelming majority of men prefer to date East Asian women."

South Asia:
"I think everyone knows that the overwhelming majority of men prefer to date South Asian women."

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That said, I am going to cut you some slack and not call you a racist.
Your thinking is limited because you are limiting it to your experiences likely in Western Civilization which is primarily Western Hemisphere + Europe.

Basically, THIS is what is true:
"I think everyone knows that the overwhelming majority of men of a particular racial group prefer to date women from that same racial group."

This is human nature born out of 2+ million years of human evolution.

[Asker]

I don't think it's true. Apparently, black Brazilian men prefer white women, it's no wonder that Brazil is the most mixed-race country in the world. It's kind of obvious that black Africans will relate to other Africans, after all, there are WAY more black people than white people.

The same reasoning explains Asia. It is obvious that Asians will relate more to Asian women, as there are almost no white people in Asia.

[abc3643]

It's more than that.

First, people are making choices on socioeconomic grounds.
Black Brazilian men may prefer white women there because that gives them a much better chance of getting out of poverty.

But, when you exclude all extraneous factors such as that, people generally prefer others of their kind for mating. Dating and having fun is one thing, but selecting a mate to have children with is something else and, instinctively, you want kids you look like you. This is a prime driver in evolution. That doesn't mean that the drive can't be overridden because true love will override almost anything in which we have a choice.

[Asker]

In fact, it's the opposite. These are rich black men who usually date white women. It's complicated, because it has a lot to do with the country's history.

[abc3643]

That too. That's a different reason, but based in the same logic.
Having the white woman is a status symbol and helps keep the black man elevated down there.
This is critical because the racism down in Brazil is worse than here...

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From Time magazine...

"How Black Brazilians Are Looking to a Slavery-Era Form of Resistance to Fight Racial Injustice Today"
BY CIARA NUGENT AND THAÍS REGINA/SĀO PAULO, BRAZIL
December 16, 2020 1:06 PM EST
...
But the president [Bolsonaro] is just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to Brazil’s systemic racism. Around 56% of Brazilians identify as Black—the largest population of African descent outside of Africa—yet Black people make up just 18% of congress, 4.7% of executives in Brazil’s 500 largest companies, 75% of murder victims and 75% of those killed by police. Things are getting worse.

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So, no wonder if you're a Black man - rich or poor - that you want to be with a white woman.
It'll keep you alive.

[abc3643]

I forgot the URL to the article:
https://time.com/5915902/brazil-racism-quilombos/

[UdontNeedtoknow]

Interesting... it's natural for men of any race to prefer serious relationships with there own kind. However that doesn't mean there racist. Its just that they perhaps want there children to look like them and there ancestors. Thats fine and understandable. However if true love forms between two in a interracial couple. Then that's ok to.
Personally as a white guy. i am naturally attracted to my own kind. However i have had relationships with many Latina's and Asian women. Never really had a opportunity with a black woman.
What would be racist would for a single guy of any race to turn down a one night stand with a attractive black woman just because she was black... unless he is very religious.

[Asker]

"unless he is very religious."

What does religion have to do with it?

[SamA_nold]

If you go into a relationship with the assumption that the other person is only looking for sex and won’t last, the relationship will probably not last…


It sounds like you’re creating self fulfilling prophecies and then getting upset and generalizing when things don’t work out.

[Asker]

That's not the question. Do you think I'm being racist or rational?

[SamA_nold]

I don’t care if it’s not the question, it’s my answer. You’re being irrational and making a biased assumption about white men based on what? Personal experience?

[Asker]

Don't be emotional. I'm not saying that ALL white men use women of color just for sex, I'm saying that most white men prefer white women and most only date women of other races for fun, that's all

Isn't it a fact that most white men prefer white women? Or do you think all men prefer black and Latina women?

[SamA_nold]

Not being emotional, hun, just pointing out a fallacious argument.

I never said you said “all white men,” I said you are making a generalization about the majority of white men, because of a biased position.

My point still stands, you’re being irrational and going in with the assumption that the relationship won’t last, and then getting mad when guess what, the relationship doesn’t last 🤷🏻‍♀️

[awkward_author]

I think you're making an overgeneralization of white men. If a guy is interested, wants to date you, and there's mutual attraction, why turn him down based on your own assumptions that lack a solid foundation to begin with? Plenty of white men enter serious relationships with women of color.

[Asker]

Some seriously date women of other races, but most white men only want sex with women of other races, especially black ones. I would be stupid if I ignored that. The woman who ignores is at risk of being used only for sex.

[awkward_author]

I disagree, but you're entitled to your own opinion.

[Asker]

Because I am a rational person, I observe the things that happen around me. Most white men prefer white women (their right). Most just want to have fun with women of other races, especially black ones.

It would be stupid of me to ignore the logic and focus on men, as the chances of being used just for sex would increase.

[awkward_author]

Like I said, your opinion. You don’t need to convince me that you’re allowed to have one.

[Someguy1234567]

Every race tends to mate with its own. Because we are programmed to want children that resemble ourselves. Likewise, I would bet that brown haired guys are more likely to date a brown haired woman than any other hair color. Same with any other physical trait.

[FunkyMonkee]

Why does EVERYTHING have to be put through the racist gauntlet? It's a thought!! THAT'S ALL!! Contrary to popular believe, you're still ALLOWED to think (and I wish a LOT more people did!!) and have an opinion!!

[QuietRunner]

That is rational

It could also go the other way too. Many Black, Asian, Hispanic men want to play around with White women but end up marrying their own race.

Same with Black, Asian, Hispanic, and White women. Many want to experiment and play around with different men, but marry some one from their own race.

[Chris9087]

I can't speak for all white men, but I've had serious relationships with women of color as well as with white women. It's more about the individual and what they're into.

[OddBeMe]

Firstly, as often asked, sexual preference isn’t racist.
Second, is there actual research behind this or just your superficial opinion on white men preferring black women only for quickies?

[noohair]

I am a pale skinned man and I can't stand women that are my skin tone. Think of yourself as a human female first, darker skin color second.

[HappyJon]

As a white male, I've nevver dated someone within my own race. White girls just don't do it for me

[jshm2]

Racist. Most women in the world aren't White.

[Asker]

If I look at reality and understand that most white men prefer white women (their right) and that most white men who have relationships with women like me just want sex and fun. Do you think it would be smart to focus on white men over men of my own race knowing that most white men only want me for sex?

Is focusing on men who see me as sexual objects racist and not rational?

Remembering that I'm not saying all white men are like this

[Asker]

*Do not focus

[behnam1999]

You are being racitional!!

[Somegirl678]

I feel like thats true

[jahaims]

Statistically more men date Asians

[SmokinAces2000]

“Overwhelming majority” 🤣🤣🤣🤣 yeah ok

[Anonymous]

Colorism

[Asker]

What do tou mean?

[Opinion Owner]

Look it up🤪

[Asker]

I understood nothing.

[Opinion Owner]

That sucks!!

[Asker]

I only date black men, because I think most white men (not all) just want fun with black women. Do you think this is racism?

That's what I'm talking about.

[Opinion Owner]

So if you only date black men because you have the belief no white man will like you that's not being racist. Being racist would be a white guy not dating black women because the color of her skin. You arnt the one not trying to date them but they are which concludes white men are racist lol even if they say they are not. Because I dont understand how someones color has to do with attractiveness or the status to be able to date someone. Its bonkers to me

[Opinion Owner]

You are the one trying to date them* sorry

[Opinion Owner]

Sorry switch that sentence around lol

[Opinion Owner]

Nevermind nevermind

[joeldalton]

You're stereotyping.

[Asker]

Hmm... And am I 100% wrong?

[joeldalton]

If there is one white guy who has a serious relationship with a black woman, then yes. I know a white dude married to a black chick, so yes.

[Asker]

If there is a white man married to a black woman, so does that mean ALL white men DON'T see black women just for sex and fun? If your answer is no, then I'm not 100% wrong.

[joeldalton]

lol, I really don't care. Think whatever the fuck you want.

[MrSmithee]

rational