Does the difference of view on abortion affect on the relationship between a pro life woman and a pro choice man?

[marish01]

I mean a loving relationship (dating or marriage) where both of them want kids but the man is pro choice. He thinks abortion is necessary or is not murder.
So my question as you can CLEARLY SEE above is about a pro life woman and a pro choice man.

So please don't talk about a prochoice woman and a pro life man. My question is not about them.

To answer my own question ot depends on why he is pro choice. Because he thinks it is a woman's right? Then no. I don't want a feminist simp.

[HighValue]

I think it could cause conflict in a relationship if they were going to have a severely mentally handicapped child and one person didn't want to raise it and the other one did. I saw that happen with a neighbor's kid. Their mate said they would leave if they had an abortion so they kept the severely handicapped kid, and then the mate ended up cheating and leaving anyways, so the one that didn't want it ended up having to raise it, going to doctor's appointments twice per week, and their other kids missing out on many things due to financial stress and time restraints because of all of the appointments.

Personally, I think if the kid will be severely mentally handicapped to the point that it will always have to be cared for by someone else, even as an adult, or if they have a health problem that will kill them during childhood or in their teens, or if the birth was highly likely to kill the mother, or in cases of rape, those are the situations that I think abortion would be acceptable.

I think it is NOT acceptable as a form of birth control (which is how most people use it), and men that think only the woman should choose and are fine with the man having no rights to his own kids are complete pu$$ies.

[Berethor]

The woman is the one who get the choice, men don't given much choice anyway.

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/TheBabyTrap

[Smoke-n-Growls]

I think that's an irreconcilable difference.

What if the mother needs to terminate the pregnancy because it is an ectopic pregnancy where the fertilized egg attaches in the falopian tube, not the uterus? That is not something the mother could control, there is no medical way to "move" the egg to the uterus and have it survive, and bringing it to term will kill the fetus AND mother.

What if the mother has a miscarriage? This could be a natural body response or the result of an accident, and is entirely out of the mother's control, too.

The pro choice husband would be encouraging his wife to terminate to save her own life - and so they could try again. But the wife would want to die instead of save her life and try again.

That would be unfair to the husband. He'd be left all alone, without having been able to do anything for his wife.

The couple should divorce and find partners with compatible beliefs.

A pro-choice man shouldn't be mired down with a pro-life woman who doesn't recognize the necessity of having easy and reliable access to medical procedures that can save her life.

[marish01]

I think many pro life people support abortion if the mother's life is at stake. In this case it is self defense not murder

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Then they're not pro-life.

You can't be against abortion, but have exceptions to the case. Not when that's not how the laws support it.

That's like proclaiming you're Christian but only following certain religious rules and not others. You're not really a Christian.

[marish01]

I disagree. If soneone chooses their life over another one that is not murder.
If in a case where either you or me should live and I choose to save my life and sacrifice yours does that mean I am pro murder?

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Depends, what am I dying from?

[marish01]

I meant cases where you can save either your or your baby's life.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

So I'm dying from childbirth?

Abortions are not murder.

[marish01]

How is abortion not murder when it kills the human being. Isn't the gial if abortion ending the life of the unborn
By the way my question is about a pro life woman and a pro choice man.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

The fetus is not human. It is a developing bundle of cells with no sentience.

Is eating a chicken egg murder?

[marish01]

Neither chicken nor egg is a human.
You are wasting your time on trying to tell me that a human offspring is not a human. If you are done answering my original question then we're done.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

So you admit you don't understand basic biology?

How can you form an opinion on murder - a concept applied to humans - when you don't know what constitutes a human?

[marish01]

You dont know biology. Conception is the beginning of life.
No peo choice can change my opinion because there are opinion is based on their benefits.
If you had empathy you wouldn't be pro choice.

[PinkMichae]

I made sure he was pro-life before deciding to spend my life with him. If he was pro-choice I couldn't be with him. I feel to strongly against abortion and I'm not ok with a man that would step aside and allow me to kill our baby.

As it is his ex-fiance aborted their baby and it still effects him losing his child. And there was nothing he could do to stop her from killing their child.

[marish01]

And the idea that he will view my unborn as a useless buch of cells killing whom is just a choice makes me feel disappointment.
Such people don't have strong family views.

[PinkMichae]

Strong family views have gotten lost.

[marish01]

That is why there are so many divorces and breakups

[PinkMichae]

I agree.

[DizzyDesii]

My ex and i had a talk. He said if i ever got raped, i must abort and i told him, the baby would be the one blessing from that entire bad situation. He kept telling me he’d make me abort and i kept choosing this future kid over him. He couldnt stand to hear it. We wouldn't have worked out in the long run. Kids were never a priority to him

[ohshee]

And this is what makes you such a beautiful person because you can actually separate the two and for you to do the right thing that's what makes you such a special individual and I totally respect that because you are that strong

I also respect a woman that isn't that strong who has been destroyed because of it and I would always pray that you would find a way through it but it takes a lot of work I believe probably and both these scenarios you both have that choice to do what you think is right not what other people are telling you is right or wrong that what's in your heart for me I am pro-life for me and me only and when other people are is what other people are I would never tell anybody what to do when they're in this position I think it's their right to do whatever they want it's their life you're the one that has to deal with being raped then they getting pregnant and then to get the baby aborted it changes them forever you have to but I love you answer

[DizzyDesii]

@ohshee thank you 🙏

[marish01]

❤❤❤.

[Smashingdoozy]

Pro choice is not pro abortion. It's saying a woman should have the right to make the decision herself. So someone who is pro choice would be fine being with someone who would choose to keep her pregnancy.

[DarkWinterNights]

It will still cause problems between the two. This is why it’s important to find a partner who agrees on the basics.

[slatyb]

I wouldn't date her because when you probe most people who are anti-abortion eventually it will turn out to be a religious belief. I don't date believers.

[SnakeBoop]

depends a lot on how they deal with it.
Not being atheist doesn't mean I go and bash people who have a religion. So, if its a similar thing then it wouldn't affect it too much.

[Sevenpointfive]

i can't believe idiots are still busting nuts in women.

i'd say retarded sperm doesn't get to live. either way it's not the man's choice so it doesn't matter. it's a moot point

[Waldoe]

I am pro-choice. But it is the woman's choice, not Mine... I would always Choose Life, that is "my choice"... and I cannot impose my feelings on anyone else. We all must choose our own Path...

[bamesjond0069]

Haha 😄 smart. Feminist simps are morally bad people.

[jahaims]

My wife is pro choice and I only find abortion acceptable if it is because of sexual abuse/assault. Never been an issue in our relationship.

[loveslongnails]

The use of the terms "pro-life" vs "pro-choice" is already bogus in my view.

[Anonymous]

What reason is there to be pro choice OTHER than that it's a woman's right?

[marish01]

1) the world is overpopulated
2) the kids won't be loved
3) he doesn't want kids
4) only for abortion if the parents are poor

[Cubus]

The world is not overpopulated. See how dense Netherlands is (how many people live there) and compare it with Mongolia or Canada or even USA. Look how much space is there

[marish01]

@Cubus I listed the reason I heard from pro choicers

[Cubus]

Ok, let me answer:
1. I already said so
2. The majority of people in the world are not loved by their parents
3. Then why did you have sex?
4. Look up

Debunked

[Cubus]

I have never heard a good reason why abortion on request should be legal (there are good reasons for risk to mother's life or rape, but not for this)

[EaterPeter]

Probably