Do you agree with the candy store analogy?

[zeitgeist057]

Ok, kind of. But also not really. I don't buy that 10%-20% of men having sex with the women thing, at least not in the USA. Maybe in Egypt or someplace like that where sexuality is even more repressed than here. But my male friends I'm pretty sure more like 90% or more of them have sex regularly, and have had multiple sexual partners over the years. Even my buddy who didn't have that many girlfriends still had a girlfriend here and there through the years, and he's married now with his first baby.

I do agree it's more difficult for men to get laid than women and the whole bit about women can just say "who wants to have sex?" and get 90% of men to volunteer. They might complain that it's not the top quality man they are looking for, but seriously, how can you complain when you can get so many options and offers? I saw a post on reddit earlier a guy and his girlfriend made accounts, he had 2 likes (he said one was his girlfriend lol), and she had over a thousand, in under 24 hours. Obviously, one of those situations is better to be in than the other. So what if you have to delete and block some dick pics on the way to honing it down to your top 10, or top 100. I would gladly scroll through 1,000 options to narrow it down to a dozen or so. But the whole "you have to be 35, rich, buff" is also BS. I was having plenty of sex at 17-35, actually MORE sex, with MORE variety of women when I was that age. After 35, I've slowed down a bit. I'm richer than I was then by a long shot (I was pretty much broke), and I wasn't very fit until probably around 23. I smoked cigarettes, drank and didn't work out much. This whole idea that women go for money and buff guys is only a half truth, and honestly, those aren't the best women to be hooking up with. They might be hotter on average, but they are also going to be more superficial on average.

It doesn't take near as much effort as the narrator says to "get in the candy store". But there is some truth to the idea that women take it for granted or are more selective. But it's a whole different game for them, it's not a candy store. That's a whole other conversation.

[Lliam]

LOL, Nonsense.

This only applies to shallow guys who want sex with fashion models and yacht girls, and to shallow girls who want status. Those kinds of men and women are artificial; materialistic. They get their values from TV and media.

Then there is the "real" world, in which average guys and gals with healthy values, ethics, self esteem, and normal hopes and dreams find partners. All a person has to do is stop worshiping the lifestyles of the rich and famous and look around at reality.

Instead of a candy store, this guy is talking about a Tiffany, Gucci, Prada, or Ferrari store. I would never shop at such a place. I like real girls, not plastic wannabes.

Fuck fashion models, yacht girls, rappers, movie stars and sports celebrities.

My advice is to stop watching TV and playing video games, get a job and learn to work hard, be responsible, develop a personality, like yourself and enjoy all that life has to offer instead of whining and acting like somebody owes you something.

I'll add that it's ironic that the guys who complain about young, sexually active women, are the same ones who call them sluts.

[Anonymous]

Word of advice : it'd be much easier to get into the candy store if the guys wanted to work there, that is find a decent romantic relationship, instead of just going there for shopping purposes.

And I assure you, women in a lot of cultures, despite the candy store allowance can't visit it because she's saving herself for the one guy who hit gym, made money, is over 35, went berserk among candies... And now he wants to settle. Awwwwwwwwwe.

[jennifer_bloom]

They say 10-20% of me are having sex which is not true since 50% of adult men are married, and many are not married but still having sex with their girlfriends and there are many ways to make money outside basketball and rapping and social media, Evan Spiegal founded snap chat and I would say less than 2% of millionaires are rappers or basketball players or gaming gurus on YouTube.

[Kaamraj]

The analogy is roughly correct. In the early and mid 20s women have much more sexual mean value (SMV) than men simply because of their youth and beauty. It's also true that a minority of the guys are having majority of the sex and most of them have had to earn that top stop. And when a guy does earn it, he's going to take full advantage of it no doubt. It will be difficult for a woman to understand this as it's difficult for men to understand the female point of view. At times both are mutually adversarial.

[MCheetah]

Yeah; it's a bit convoluted but yes, I agree. "Only about 10% of guys are having sex with all of the girls."

There is no "double standard." Here's a simpler analogy: Women can get sex (and affection) like getting a bottle of water, where as men can get sex (and societal value) like getting a bottle of Château Mouton Rothschild while working at Walmart.

$1,999.99, by the way.

By the best thing I've learned from red poll channels are: "Men built society. Men; you ARE the prize!" Don't EVER settle for anything less than that. (You know, most men, at least. Some guys do suck, though.)

[Telekinetic-Potato]

That guys a fucking weirdo. He panders to guys who can't get laid.

Is there an element of truth to what he's saying? For sure and maybe it's useful just to have a discussion.

But he makes it sound like the only way to have sex with a lot of women is to be rich, middle aged and a gym rat. Like what?

The best advice someone who's having trouble with women can get is stop blaming women, it's not going to get you anywhere.

Make them laugh so that they feel comfortable. Build a sense of familiarity, not necessarily by just getting to know her, but letting her get to know you by searching for opportunities to talk about what's happening in the moment.

Be observant, look comfortable in your own skin and just slightly mysterious (meaning don't wear your emotions out in the open too much)

Everyone needs to stop being dramatic, once you're older than 22 it gets so much easier.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it's a great analogy since it's not like guys and girls are in a store looking for a third thing (candy). The guys are looking for the girl and the girls are looking for the guys.

Dude's also missing a major point here--guys get laid in high school, they get laid in college, they get laid in their 20s, etc. It's not like it's nothing for dudes and then when they hit their mid 30s they're drowning in pussy.

Chicks compete in the dating market by being HOT. This guy seems to think they're all doing well just by being 18. Not true. HOT girls are. HOT girls are getting invited to rap parties, etc. Dudes compete in the dating market by being successful and having social skills. That's why rock stars and athletes get so much action.

[Anonymous]

No, I do not agree. Men are not required to wait to age 35, have $100K income and five years in the gym before they can become sexually active. What a stupid damned idea!

I got a late start, was definitely not the BMOC or stud, and still had 15 sexual partners by the time I was 35. I had not spent 5 years in the gym and definitely did not have $100K income.

This video just sounds like excuses for losers.

[Anonymous]

depends on the guys cause
I could have had the candy store in my teens

I went in got some stuff
and did not like it the way I thought

I was looking for something else
and now that im older I realize

MOST WOMEN CANNOT GIVE ME WHAT I WANT
so they are just sex objects and prostitutes

they are not worth much
and I have said this before

men should just rape women

[Apple1996]

Don't agree at all. Plenty of guys are having sex before 35. After that point men are old lol

[AviatorTom]

It's an interesting analogy, not sure how true it is, though it does have some elements of truth.

[genericname85]

i disagree with one detail. women get into the candy story starting at 18. but they are banned from it as soon as they reach 40.

[snackthatsmilesback]

[exitseven]

No, this really has no basis in reality. Lots of guys have steady girlfriends in their 20s. Especially college students. They do not have to be rich or famous. I think it gets harder once you are out of your 20s.

[Part2603]

I don't get it. Do these guys have a podcast?