I’m in advance classes my Senior year with really smart kids. So basically my classmates have their own big clique, which I guess makes sense because they’ve all known each other since middle school. I tried to become acquaintances with them a couple of them a few years ago. But, a few of them would talk shit behind my back. I guess because I had strong political stances in class. Like we’re all pretty much liberal; but I’m not as far leaning as them so I see things from both sides.
Like the leader of their clique would say offensive slurs and dark jokes. But, when I tried to tell a dark joke to him he called me ignorant. They also see me as “white wash.” My parents bought me a brand new car this year. I caught them staring and looking in the inside when they saw me coming they hurried in their car (yes all of them ride in one car). A few rolled their eyes. I have no clue why they hate me. When I ask genuine questions in class they also get upset.
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Hate is probably too strong of a word but I'm not here to quibble about words. But it matters in this case. Hate implies some intense emotion akin to love. This sounds like -- as you said -- a big clique and you don't fit whatever arbitrary parameters they have put in their mind about people.
The shortest answer to your question "why" is that you're different. That scares people, particularly people your age. It makes them question their own place in the world as if being a teenager isn't hard enough.
You ask why? I'd tell you that it's because you are confident. You have ideas. You can tell a joke. You're smart. You're articulate. You think. You "dare" to open your mouth and your mind". And we haven't even gotten to the car yet which can introduce jealousy and a host of other issues.
In short, you're you and I suspect that the you that you are doesn't fit their mold -- which is great and okay -- but they don't like people who don't fit their mold.
I find the best thing to do with cliques is never to join one. You can be civil to them say hi, make small talk etc but have your own life. After school you'll have your own friends and have a life away from them. This also helps with work life as well.
And believe me if they are talking about you behind your back, chances are they talk about each other as well.. Its a circle of banal inane nonsense like the school gate mums, oofta, treat with contempt and pity and keep a bloody wide berth!!!
liberalism hurts everyone at the end of the day