Is this some sort of sex thing, where you think woman feel entitled or expect certain treatment? Do you have something against courting a woman or chivalry? Is it a matter of insecurity, or perhaps a reluctance to break away from outdated gender norms?
There was a time when I was the way you describe. I was chivalrous, I wasn’t sex-focused, I was genuinely looking for a meaningful relationship. I enjoyed going on dates, I was respectful.
What would often happen is that the women I dated would eventually decide that they just wanted to be friends, and that they didn’t see me in that way.
That was fair enough, but then I noticed that they ended up with other guys very quickly. Like I’d get the “let’s just be friends speech” one day, and the next she has a boyfriend. Meanwhile I was under the impression that we weren’t dating other people, with some of these girls we actually spoke about this. Yet she got a boyfriend that quick?
Then a few times I found out that the girls had sex with some guy at a party, fell for him, chose him over me. After telling me they hated players and people who sleep around.
Over time I put two and two together, and realised that for many women, they treat different guys differently, and it seems like the guy they have sex with first they fall for.
They’ll tell one guy that they wanna take it slow, he’ll take it slow, but then they’ll meet another guy and jump into bed quick with him and fall for him.
So then I just decided to be more sexual and aim for sex earlier. And then when I did, the women I had sex with quickly wanted me as a boyfriend, and I’d find out that there was some other guy who was taking it slow with her and he was about to get the let’s just be friends speech.
I know that not all women are like this, but enough of them are that it changes the way many of us approach dating. It also takes a lot of experience to notice the difference between those who are and are not like that, because a lot of slutty women are also skilled manipulators, they’re very good at pretending to be something they’re not.
I think that some guys probably get a little upset because they feel like they’re being encouraged to act in a way that leads to them getting lied to and fucked over in the way I described above. I also think that some guys, even myself included to some extent, wish that the dating game was less like this and was less toxic.
You’re the only woman I’ve herd so far that actually wants to be courted. Some of the women I met that expressed what the want think it’s old school and don’t like that.
There are some men out there that see women still as second class citizens that should be beneath them and view women as only for sexual pleasure or to serve them. They get mad at any mention of women having there own careers or being even slightly successful on their own merits. Because if we are successful on our own merits then they think they can't control us as well and they take it as a power move against them. These type of men are extremely insecure. Some of these men are angry because they can't get pussy so they get mad at women and it's all our fault so we are now the enemy and they didn't get pussy because now society has given us a choice and we don't choose them.
Sorry but not everybody gets what they want. That's not how life works. Hating and disrespecting women isn't going to get them what they want either. They're just children throwing a tantrum because they don't get their toys.
Obviously not all men are this way. I'm only speaking of the ones who are just outwardly disrespectful to all women.
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Stop dating guys who follow Andrew Tate, lmao. If they call themselves a “high-value man” or anything like that, run for the hills with no additional questions, lmfao
kinda too general.
Maybe they did that before and didn't get anywhere, so it doesn't align with their feelings now.
Maybe they thought they were treating you well.
Wait, the women who sell pictures of their snatch on Onlyfans? Do those women expect chivalry and courting? When they don't respect themselves, how can they demand others do so?
Well that depends on the type of men and women you are thinking of. There are some guys who don't respect women at all. And then there are women who expect far more respect than they deserve.
No clue as to what you're talking about. But I will say this. Fill one hand with fulfilled expectations and crap in the other hand and see which one fills up first. I think expectations are fine, so long as they're realistic expectations.
Men used to have to make a commitment to a woman for sex
That was love and marriage.
Women wanted freedom and equality.
This is the unintended consequence.
