We does America have a fatherless problem?

[Anonymous]

Why doesn’t India or China have that problem?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

In China, men do crazy things for women.

Having a Chinese boyfriend once in your lifetime, is enough to make you fall for them.

They are absolutely romantic, unselfish, caring, loving, things they do for their girlfriends are the things I’ve only seen in movies.

They do make you feel like you are a Goddess and he’s a servant if your high feminine energy, all while being a masculine sexy man. Allowing your femininity to flourish to the fullest. Allowing to be your most selfish self and taking pleasure in it.

As a result, you learn to be the same as him. He makes you so happy without expecting anything back, you want to make him just as happy, you become a giver too, you want to make him feel like a God as well.

Every man should take tips from a Chinese man.

I had one and I was lucky.

I can’t imagine a woman in her right mind ever wanting to divorce a man like that.

He’s the prince charming you were always told you.

He’s the person who loves yo7 at your worst and makes your romantic fairytales come true.

And as a result, his unconditional love humbles you, he teaches you to love him unconditionally and be unselfish to him too.

I didn’t know what love was before I met him and he taught me love as I never knew it existed.

Chinese men know how to love and they do love in the most magic ways possible.

Till you are his woman, he makes it his main mission to make you happy.

As a woman, how can you not love a man who loves you this much? It’s impossible.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

They are also amazing fathers, I’ve seen a lot of them taking great care of their babies, being invested in raising children just as much as mothers would be.

[MzAsh]

Because child care is “the woman’s job” or so I’m told by men on here almost every damn day.

[Asker]

No it’s not. The bond between the mother and child is exaggerated. It’s not more important than the bond between the dad. Dads should do the discipline and moms should do the cleaning and cooking.

[MzAsh]

Parenthood is a collaborative effort that for most middle income households, requires both to provide financially, both on disciplinary enforcement, and both on cooking and cleaning. Some households may vary. I definitely agree that a father’s physical presence is no less important in a child’s life.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Culture is the main problem in America as America doesn't have an identity.

India unlike America is a homogeneous country and nearly everyone there shares the same values and religious beliefs system which causes strong communities and families.

America isn't homogeneous, millions of people from different religious backgrounds, different countries and different value systems all mix in one which causes lack of identity and it doesn't help America has millions of black men that like to impregnate women, not marry them and leave them as single moms and continue the cycles of single moms from one generation to the next.

[abc3643]

As I read the opinions of the vast majority of "men" here, all I can think of is this...

https://www.youtube.com/embed/Ay80wwQ_e2k

Ellen Ripley said that after being in hypersleep for 57 years.

57 years ago, men were a bit more intelligent than most of the current ilk today.

[Drewtate]

Basically because single mothers and kids get taken care of by the state and fathers made pay alimony.

In India and China women are forced to give up children they can't support to orphanages, lack of medical care means fatherless kids die young. Take Pakistan young homeless boys are gang raped by Pakistani men.

[DextroShade]

India and China are more traditional than America: India does arranged marriages and they have a really low divorce rate while China considers any woman who isn't married by 25 to be leftovers and a shame to her family. This stands in stark contrast to the US where you have an epidemic of single mother homes and gold-digging whores meeting with divorce lawyers ahead of their weddings.

[BigRed1987]

As simplistic as this sounds, culture is a big issue and lack of purpose.
But also how welfare encourages females to be single else forfeit a larger benefit. Or how culture discourages females from establishing a nuclear family and encourages them and men to sleep around as though that’s an okay thing to do. It’s not okay, it’s not good for mental health in the long run and typically you want more out of a long term relationship and get to wanting out.

[Reichmann75]

It's not just America, it's all the west because feminism became a thing in those societies. Now the societies are vaginocratic, men tend to just quit when they feel they don't get to be the leaders (natural role for a man)

[Reichmann75]

This + sluts being mainstream. They usually fuck here and there carelessly and if they end up pregnant, they decide by themself to keep an unwanted baby from the dude so dude bounces

[MzAsh]

Leadership is serving your family. It’s requires a level of empathy, humility, compassion, understanding that is nurtured and proven through hard work and dedication.

[Reichmann75]

@MzAsh Cool. Then women are leading families alone. No problem case solved. We can all move on 🤗

[MzAsh]

The smart thing to do is for women to not allow that to happen.

[Reichmann75]

@MzAsh Good luck with that. The value of your societies are the problem. The women are just a product, they spit out those values and therefore, men just can't. To "not allow that to happen" the woman should have been virtually disconnected from her society so those bullshit values didn't inception her brain

[MzAsh]

What values are you referring to, specifically?

[Reichmann75]

@MzAsh Western women are taught to act like dudes. Dudes are territorial. They don't want women that act like them. They don't want women that have sexual promiscuity with other dudes etc etc. The way they are raised make them incompatible with men. Therefore men leave

[MzAsh]

Western women are exposed to a range of influences. Both men and women’s preferences in relationships are influenced by a variety of factors, such as experiences and individual personality traits.

Also, your last statement attempts to put blame if women’s behavior for men leaving. Anyone who’s ever been in an adult relationship that’s healthy knows there’s mutual responsibility in maintaining a relationship.

[Reichmann75]

@MzAsh Ok. Let's rewind time for a bit will we? Year 1900, America. The so called "patriarchy" is dominating the land and, surprisingly, women are almost never raising their kids alone (I say almost cause a perfect system can't exist because some people are just born deviant).

Year 2023, America. The society is a total vaginocracy, single moms are a norm since a long time now.

I don't blame women. As I said women are droid shells. They just repeat what society tells them to believe since they were kids. I'm just telling you that your society model is basically a huge bar of turd and that is the reason why your families are so dysfunctional nowadays. That is also why we can see some aberations that people would have never imagined even 50 years ago. Genderfluids people, people thinking they are dolphins or whatever modern bullshit the west can produce.

If west doesn't take a radical 180 flip turn in almost any domain it adopted for the last 60 years, west will die. It's already happening not just through single moms but also through birth rates. Westerners don't even reproduce enough to rejuvenerate the population pool.

[MzAsh]

Again, you’re attempting to oversimplify complex and nuanced issues.

Your argument leans on a past that wasn't ideal for everyone and using it to critique the present in a way that overlooks parts of that’s time period’s reality. You’re painting an overly rosy image of 1900s America, where patriarchy did mean fewer single moms but also fewer opportunities and rights for women.

[Reichmann75]

@MzAsh I don't advocate for women's rights. I think women's right is a doom for your societies and even women themselves. Anyways I don't care. Thank god I'm not American. Your dysfunctional societies, your issues. If you're that clever and if we're "oversimplifying things", be my guest, fix them yourself or enjoy living in for all I care 🤷🏻‍♂️

[MzAsh]

The idea that women’s rights is a doom for society is simply unsupported. If we go back to a time where women had less rights and opportunities, I can assure you, no one will be happy about the outcomes of such a move.

[Reichmann75]

@MzAsh No one will be happy anyways because your societies are ending right now ;)

[MzAsh]

How do you figure?

[LazerBean]

Fatherlessness is a natural consequence when men and women are promiscuous.

[exitseven]

Because people are rewarded for having kids out of wedlock. If welfare was not made s way of life for a big chunk of the population the number of fatherless kids would plummet.

[NewYorkCity]

Perversion, selfishness, sexual addiction, serious immaturity and a total lack for any type of responsibilities.

[inhua]

China and India don't demonize masculinity or fatherhood the same way America does

[KostasKouvalis]

That's what happens when you marry a guy you've only been dating for 4 months, because you think you've got your life all figured out

[Alex-Snow]

My dad walked out when I wads 4... I have not seen him since.

[MzAsh]

No child deserves that.

[msc545]

Chinese and Indian men don't have their lives ruined by women in Family Law Courts. American men do.

[gxddess_]

I don't think it's only America though, many other countries have this problem.