My man holds all the cards in our relationship

[jolee1]

how can I make it 50/50 again. I feel he has become so comfortable that he takes me for granted others have noticed. it hink that now he sees our relationship as fine he puts all his focus on his career which isn't a bad thing at all and I am proud of his acchievements and I've let him know this. but I just feel he forgets about me and neglects me a bit. we have been dating almost 2 years we had a break for a couple of months but we dated at least once a week during that time.

im just looking for some advice to make it 50/50 again and to have more respect from him, and a bit more passion. basically I want that chase from him again. but I don't really want to play games . so what's the best way from a guys point of view to acchieve this?

[owen001943]

Make some plan for holidays go to some romantic place where you both are alone and find out some good time to talk to him on all the matter which you feel hurts you. Let him know what's in your mind that the only best way out. But at the same time you should also take care that you give him lot of space in life for himself.

[Anonymous]

tell him.

or slowly just start initiating convos, inviting him to dates, and taking control. thisll take longer, but it will achieve the same effect eventually.

[jolee1]

i really would like to be the one initiaiting the convos and dates more :) that's what I want to acchieve

[Opinion Owner]

haha. then do it! you're both in a relationship, not just him.

[jolee1]

oh whoopsie I wrote that completely wrong I mean I want him to be the one doing those things haha

[Opinion Owner]

ah. but if you let him, he holds then he holds the cards. its a contradiction.

[sixstring]

Just straight-up tell him. Why is it that almost no woman thinks of that one?

[jolee1]

i don't like to bring up things like this, in fear of starting a fight. we are going good now, maybe I'm just being impatient.

[sixstring]

And that is the biggest problem women have. Do you really think that having a fight about it is worse than what you're feeling now? Bottling things up only makes things worse.

[male1234567890]

If you have more cards than now you can get better guys.