Is it a good sign that my man wants to do everything for me?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

My boyfriend does most things for me (within reason e. g, pays for most stuff, takes me out, drives us everywhere) but on the other hand i handle most of the house work like cooking and cleaning and making sure lunches for work are also made and ready. I would say it's fair as it works for us as my partner earns a lot more than I do and i'm more of a home maker/ care giver type of person.

As long as it's loving and he's not expecting you to do things for him that you are not comfortable with than id say its fine. But boundaries are important, everyone feels and acts differently id say talk about it as communication is absolutely essential for a healthy relationship and it helps you understand what works for you both.

Best of luck xxx

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Depends what you mean by “everything.”

Many a gal will cream her panties for a guy who will wait on her hand and foot and treat her like some kind of goddess. (That’s not MY type at all, but to each their own.)

But some guys are very possessive and use the “do everything for you” approach to making you basically his captive, which is toxic (and again, not MY type at all).

There should be balance in a relationship. The word itself means relating to one another (not possessing or serving one another), so there should be a fluid five and take involved in a healthy relationship.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

It’s a good sign so long as it’s genuine though if someone’s trying too hard to come off too good to be true they may be. Even if he’s serious if you genuinely love him obviously you would put effort into doing things for him as well and wouldn’t allow a relationship to be one sided.

But so be cautious especially if you just met him slow down and look for those red flags if you feel like maybe it’s too good to be true. A lot of people also think they can do everything for someone until they become burnt out and exhausted at some point.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

Could be simp behaviour honestly. If it doesn't go both ways and he doesn't ask for what he wants in the relationship, it quickly goes downhill. A relationship requires 2. A man will treat a woman how he wants to be treated, then he'll start matching the level of treatment she puts in later in the relationship.

Finchie40 · Answer

It depends, if he is doing it from his heart and not expecting anything in return then yes that’s a good thing , if he is just doing it because he expects you to return the favor , then that’s not good

ohsheeT · Answer

It depends on if it comes from his heart or his Intentions

Tarifa · Answer

You should of course expect him to treat you right. If you mean that he goes a long way to please you, take you places you enjoy, gets you a little surprise present from time to time, yes, definitely.

But every person has his/her own life and his/her little eccentricities. That's a healthy sign. You don't need to spend 24/7 with your boyfriend or husband, I think it can actually be counterproductive. Give him the space he needs and ask for the space you need. The important thing is being there during the moments that really matter.

Renegade_Sailor · Answer

No, it's a huge red flag, men who do things for you all the time even when you try to tell them you don't need or want it are trying to write one sided contracts with you.

Eventually he will start talking about everything he has done for you and how much you owe him.

Instead find a man who you want to do things for who appreciates you for doing them. You'll be much happier.

Jove79 · Answer

Yes. You’ll eventually get tired of him.

One thing I know about women, they like to chase and like uncertainty, hot and cold etc, just to keep things interesting.

“Bad boys” don’t do everything the girl wants, and that’s who they crave.

Billlewis · Answer

Men were put on this earth to make women happy, comfortable and financially stable, and the harder she makes me work, the greater my determination to please her becomes.

trumpetplayerforlife · Answer

I feel like it can be my man does a lot of things for me out of love bug ik some men do this as control

Shiprex · Answer

It is something that will wane and that you shouldn't get used to it or take for granted. Show gratitude and acknowledge the things he does but do not become dependent on it.

PessicaJeter · Answer

If that's what you want in your relationship then no, it's definitely not a bad thing! Just remember to show him proper appreciation.

slatyb · Answer

That depends. Is he willing to let you do anything for yourself? Things that you want to do that don't interest him?

NicholasRedone · Answer

@lisia you seem to ask these questions often ; unhappy in love? ❣️😘

sage2021 · Answer

That doesn't sound like normal behavior to me unless you're an invalid.

EmmaMary · Answer

Depends what you mean by "Everything".

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I would not like that, personally. I would interpret that as being overbearing and kind of suffocating.

molonski2 · Answer

No , its too much , he is a bit of a simp , trying too hard , massive red flag.

Truthatanycost · Answer

If it was, you wouldn't be asking this question. You already know it is not a good thing...

WhitneySnow · Answer

Yes but be careful he’s not being too controlling

Bricealan · Answer

@lisia Everything FOR you, or TO YOU ! LOL That may change after a while.

Kelly6 · Answer

@lisia depends on what you mean everything and does it make you happy and do you have free will to do things on your own too?

Coden7 · Answer

As long as it’s not transactional (If I do this, you will do this) and as long as you don’t burn him out. Make sure it goes both ways

Gaylordslav · Answer

Yeah you said this b4 how you love him but are scared because he might cheat on you. Well if he's so wonderful as you say other girls will want him too so you better learn to fuk him extra good

MrChinaski · Answer

Ummm... how could that possibly be a bad sign?

Jay-_- · Answer

If it's coming from him naturally and doesn't seem forced I'd say you count your blessings and enjoy it.

AydenHazor · Answer

It depends on what you mean by everything. It could be a good sign, or it could be a sign of him being possessive and controlling

Alex-Snow · Answer

Sounds like a good start. How long have u two been together?

WonderingManII · Answer

Sounds like He's trying to keep you. Maybe he had some bad experiences too.

Ironic_Method · Answer

That depends, have you been with him for more than 6 months?

michalpl00 · Answer

A gentleman. So yes. But act like a lady. It’s important to respect him. Guys value respect more then love

Anonymous · Answer

Girl please stop asking goofy questions. Find something to do draw, paint, cook , clean I don't know but this app really needs to remove kids

Nerdvana · Answer

In general no. But what do you mean by everything?

fish5505_87 · Answer

You guys are young, I wanted to do everything for her as well, it's a good thing.

Almanprens · Answer

A man wants the best for you and does whatever it takes for that… but he doesn’t do anything what you want or say….

Godihateyou · Answer

No. It means he is c9ntroling or thinks you are incapable

CubaPirate · Answer

Not necessarily it could be a sign he's guilty of something

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, but only if you return the favor and take care of him as well. Otherwise it won't last.

robocop666 · Answer

well why not? would you rather the opposite?

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds like a slave,. also. it not. impoetant if he soesnt do and. gives what you really need

Cormac995 · Answer

Define everything?

Agape93 · Answer

Nope just don't take it for granted

DrPepper12 · Answer

NO!!! You'll get used to it princess!

soe11 · Answer

Way should be.

WhiteThought · Answer

Need more context than that

clampfan101 · Answer

Is what a good sign?

LiamS95 · Answer

Well it's not usually a bad sign

Sluttt · Answer

You are just lazy

V1ka5h · Answer

Wow that's really good

BDRick · Answer

Give back to him. #GetHimOff

blackeagle007 · Answer

I don’t know? What signs is he doing?

BobbyLee789 · Answer

Why wouldn't it be? Sounds good to me! ☺️

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

No, it's unhealthy.

vj0090 · Answer

Check ur inbox.. haha

MrZameer · Answer

by everything you mean all the expenses?

Anonymous · Answer

kinda weird. does he know you're a catfish?

Eempriyanka · Answer

Even kissing? Hugging?

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, it means he loves you.

Anonymous · Answer

Why’s that a bad thing?

MasterKS · Answer

No too much sweet spoil the taste.

glennos89 · Answer

Very good sign

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Yes.

Anonymous · Answer

What you think yourself Lisia? Is it healthy?

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