Is The Male Loneliness Epidemic Real? What Are Your Thoughts On It?

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But wait, I thought WE were the ones who were lonely with tons of “cats” and no man. Surely there can’t be a MALE loneliness epidemic since apparently all men are wanted as soon as they turn 30 or have money? 🤣🤣🤣

HouseMoat · Accepted Answer

Jude Ellison S. Doyle
Sep 1

The “Male Loneliness Epidemic” Does Not Exist
The media panic around “male loneliness” is driven by cherry-picked statistics and sexism. Now, that’s sad.

My partner is my best friend. This is because I am terrible at making friends, and I admit it. I tend to have two intimacy settings — either “you are my best friend and I will literally love you for the rest of my life and then die for you” or “excuse me, sir, can you point the way to the restroom?” — and I never learned how to navigate that middle range where most friendships reside. I have a small child, so it’s hard to make time for people. I’m trans in a place where there aren’t many trans folks. I’m, like, really annoying.

It adds up, and so my partner is the only person I can talk to without freezing up or missing some crucial social cue or worrying that I sound like a dick. This is a stereotypically masculine problem, and it’s not healthy. People are happier when they have a broad support network. Relationships are easier when nobody has to shoulder the weight of being someone’s only connection to humanity. Nonetheless, we’re told, men refuse to cultivate platonic intimacy and dump everything on their partners. Men like me.

This is all to say: There are certainly things I can appreciate about all the recent coverage of the “male loneliness epidemic.” There are good things about the work being done in its name. Some of it is what feminists have been asking men to do for ages: Learning to process emotions in conversation with other men, instead of forcing women to do all their feeling for them, or talking openly about their trauma.

Nonetheless, “male loneliness,” the media phenomenon, is unsatisfactory. Even well-meaning pundits tend to cook their statistics and muddle their premises in a way that is ultimately misleading at best. For one thing: If you look at the actual numbers, the “male loneliness epidemic” does not exist.

Let’s begin, then, with those numbers. According to the 2022 Cigna Group report on the “loneliness epidemic” — worth citing, not least because it goes back a few years — “57% of men and 59% of women reported being lonely.”

Men and women are equally lonely. Men and women are equally lonely. In fact, as per this report…

Sofargone93 · Accepted Answer

I think that a lot of men are lonely because the family structure is all messed up. We're supposed to go to school get a good job. Meet a girl have a family and die old but that's not the reality. The reality is a lot of men don't have a purpose without a family. They just work , drink , workout and sleep. Men need women in their lives. But the women have mentally checked out. . So yes men are sad ASF. We were raised to have families and live a life of abundance but instead we get a billion OF models. Cheating wives while at work. High ass divorce rates. Child support. We are not respected anymore. We are disposable as long as we are doing something for somebody else. The family dog gets more love than we do. Men don't have a choice but to be lonely unless it's with the bros but even then... You go home and it's nothing. Empty. Meanwhile gay men have all the women they could desire. Ask youself why men are more lonely now vs in the past. Men are lonely because they are fed up and would rather stay in there own space away from all the bs than to get used and spit out. This is just from what I've scene and heard over the past few years. People want love but don't want marriage.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think it’s real because of mental health issues. Self induced.  If you stay locked in your room. Never workout. Never see the light of the sun. Vitamin D depletes. Testosterone Depletes. You become a slob. And if you aren’t chugging chips or cheetos.. you become an undesirable skeleton. There’s no muscle mass. There’s no meat to give you a healthy appearance. And once you become a slob or a skeleton. Attracting the opposite sex becomes  IMPOSSIBLE . And so many men today. They are one these video gamers/ porn addicts. Later these men think that getting money will get them a good, faithful woman who’ll love him. GOOD LUCK WITH THAT. The golddigers are the worst women possible for a partnership. More likely to cheat and find a bigger castle. 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️ Looks and Health is everything. You need to look appetizing in this world to win. Male or Female. But mostly Male.

whistlingwh0res · Accepted Answer

He can dressed up as a woman and start escorting for other lonely men

Zenpanda · Answer

No clue if that's a thing.
In my experience it's not that hard to find someone.
I'm a 33 year old, fat man, I don't have a lot of money, I have brain damage and use a mobility scooter to get around.
I treat men and women with respect and honesty and I'm just myself.
Somehow people are attracted to me, so for me it isn't hard to find someone.
Maybe it's my personality.

jgibsonian1986 · Answer

I'm a man who is lonely, I think it is my fault and because of that I'm someone that no one would want to be with or around. Weather its because of my financial status, emotional integrity, or failing self image, all it makes me think is that I should stay in my room away from people and find a way to placate my problems without burdening others with me. It feels like because I have problems and desperately need the love and acceptance of others from friendship and relationship that I am disqualified from having and properly maintaining those things.
Plus if that's the case then who cares? I don't imagine anyone who wants men to be less lonely would particularly want to become friends with a lonely and needy man.
Sounds like a depressing drag if you ask me, and I hang around me all the time!

syncheart · Answer

I can only speak for myself. The older I get the harder it is to find someone. It is even hard for me to find someone to talk too. Life is just different for some people. Some guys will never have "money" if that is what attracts women these days.

SportySpock · Answer

If you pay attention you will notice that the men calling you a "cat lady" ARE the lonely men.

Those of us who respect women and find value in them and are of high value ourselves bc we know that it's not a competition b/t us and women but rather that we can be great together... We get called things like simp and fuck boy but rest assured, at the end of the day, we're the ones getting pussy and not the ones complaining.

Holsen · Answer

Oh well it so depends on his personality and circumstances so it’s not set on stone that he can’t be lonely or that he is wanted So there is always a chance for a man to be lonely like a woman can!!

Flatmanlewis · Answer

In my life I have met plenty. I could elaborate deeply but really the statistics of suicide, depression, and alcoholism kinda make the argument for me.

enterr10 · Answer

So you are finding it funny that there actually is male loneliness? That's worse that most people don't even realise and aren't ready to acknowledge that males are also lonely depressed and unwanted..

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

The woke movement is ruining the balance in society, they turned genders against each other and went down hill from there

lirikri4 · Answer

"But wait, I thought WE were the ones who were lonely with tons of “cats” and no man." I have never said that but women are never attracted to respectful men so it is what it is.

The-Stud · Answer

I don't think anyone's lonely unless the choose to be

Alex8736 · Answer

My opinion is male loneliness is self induced

RedInnocent68 · Answer

I doubt it.

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