Why do you think there are so many hateful people out there these days?

[Anonymous]

[caring__1]

We start out blindly trusting. Unfortunately, we encounter too many inconsiderate, selfish people who don't care how their choices impact others. When we expect others to be like us, we end up being frustrated and disappointed. We project this out as hatred. Hatred only means our expectations haven't been met. As we adjust our expectations to become realistic, we're disappointed less and hate less, though we might put up a protective wall that limits us, also. If we keep maintaining the same behavioral patterns and expect different results, that frustration and disappointment will continue indefinitely.

[Asker]

Thank you.

I'd rather trust people, and get hurt, than not trust anyone. That said, I think we all need to have healthier boundaries. Some are more accepting of differences than others, I suppose. Anyone who tries to change people, doesn't understand people, in my opinion.

[caring__1]

You're welcome.

Only insecure people feel a need to change others, as they see the differences as a threat to themselves. We all have differences, and those differences are not a statement about others, though they help us determine if this is a person we wish to maintain contact with.

By trusting others, you're projecting your expectations on them, believing they will act as you expect them to act. We'll never have control over others' choices, so we might as well focus on our own choices, behaviors and words. Adding conditions to our choices imply that others should conform to our expectations. I tend to be the person I can respect. If the response I get from others doesn't also show respect, I tend to just pull away and look elsewhere for people to connect with. Expecting others to conform to my expectations will never take me in a positive direction.

[Finchie40]

Because of the way this society has become , I blame social media as well for all the nonsense we read and hear and see on a daily basis , people have become more selfish and have a hard time trusting each other , ever since the pandemic hit us , most people lost their fucking minds

[Asker]

Yeah, they're batshit crazy.

[Finchie40]

Exactly lol

[mandyfire98]

Social media, media, rage gets clicks, clicks make money, fan the flames, fan The money. Keep people mad and at each other's throats. Also a divided population can't band together and change anything.

[Asker]

Thank you for the thoughtful reply.

[IslaTheWitch]

I think the number is more or less stable

just more is visible, because of social media.

[Asker]

Could be.

[exitseven]

ding ding ding ding we have a winner

[Asker]

@exitseven It's a good answer but too bad it isn't verifiable.

[exitseven]

that is true but I have been around before social media and a lot of problems like depression and hate speech started with two things. Social media and Obama.

[MLGbreezy]

Honestly I think it’s just all the stress everyone is dealing with I feel like we are all stressed out and taking it out on each other which is just making things worse even if you’re not doing anything wrong. And then there are those who are in the section of society who just don’t function with logic. I asked a dating question on another site in a particular age gap once and I got so much hate I almost thought I was just a bad person and then I got outside opinions like from this site and found that there were just some very unhappy people on Reddit.

[Asker]

What was the question.

[MLGbreezy]

Is 24 and 18 to big an age gap for dating/talking romantic partners involvement.

[Asker]

I mean, I get why they might not like it. 18 is very young but it's not like a 30+ year gap. I'm happy that people are aware of pervs. Still, you were asking which shows a genuine concern for morality and you questioned yourself. It's odd that they care about this but not child brides in 'Palestine'.

[Anonymous]

Not enough hugs when they were a kid? We're a society that is becoming less and less connected. Every feature of modern society engineers human interaction out as much as possible. After a while people live in thier own bubble only seeking what they themselves want. It's not suprising when people are for ed to talk to eachother they cannot be civil anymore.

[Asker]

I saw an anon reply and I thought, oh no, it's going to be rude but you're good. Why anon?

[Opinion Owner]

Safety. You'd be amazed at was triggers people on this site. I learned this pretty quickly on. I had a woman that was kind of unhinged stalk me for 2 weeks on this site. After that I decided anon was the way to go 90% of the time. Besides, a good post does not care who's saying it. It's not necessary that people know who I am if my post is helpful.

[Anonymous]

When neoliberal states that morals are merely based on the amount of interactions, regardless of their nature.

What do you expect?
This creates an atmosphere of where your needs come first. Now, needs naturally and obviously come first. What I mean is, extremely self-centered.

Where in best cases, being self-centered, is indirectly harmful and rude towards others.

Opposite of love, is being careless.
How do we know this or that person likes me, they care.. to know about me, to help, to discuss with me.. etc.

Hatred is another level.
I certainly believe, you have to have enough amount of greed or ignorance to become hateful.

As for ignorance: (A man is an enemy of what he is ignorant about).

[JacobJordan]

Because it has become acceptable as a result of no consequences for being rude and disrespectful. Lack of discipline from parents has raised a sea of disrespectful and rude little spots who aren't worth their weight in dung. And it is just getting worse

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yep hate is highly common nowadays, you can't even be confident in yourself anymore without someone else having a problem with it lol

[Asker]

No joke! This actually just happened to me. Someone got angry for me for being brave and helping other people. They said everyone else is hateful and called me a liar. How odd is that?

[ChicoFromThe305]

The world has become evil my hanging ornament friend, you let your heart do it's things fuck all these haters, they don't know shit.

[Asker]

Hanging ornament friend 😂 Okay, I will. Thank you for the encouragement!

[ChicoFromThe305]

Lol no problem and keep letting your heart lead, world simply just needs more of It 🙂💯

[Paris13]

Many On Social Media... Welcome to Gag and Best of Luck. xxoo

[Asker]

Thank you!

Could you please tell me how to edit my profile/do a bio?

[Paris13]

Go way Up at The Top and it should say EDIT PROFILE. I have a Laptop and No Smart Phone for Gag. xxoo

[Asker]

Thank you. I'm currently on a laptop as well. There are only the boxes there for relationship status, occupation and age. I'm not sure where I can write anything.

[Paris13]

Mine has Edit Profile and I Can Changer and Save. Keep Looking it over. xxoo

[Gloree]

Because iniquity has abounded and the live of many has waxed cold. A Bible verse quotes this.

[Asker]

Why do you think that is?

[Gloree]

I meant "the love of many has waxed cold." The thing is there is so much wickedness in the world because of a genuine lack of love in the hearts of people. The Formula for a peaceful world is this "Love your neighbor as you love yourself. Do unto others as you will have them do unto you" Bible said it.

[Asker]

Yes, what do you is the reason for that.

I also completely agree with the solution you mentioned!

[Asker]

think* or feel*

[strateguy632]

i don't think that. such phrases is almost ALWAYS said as a false accusation to make someone who doesn't really hate, look bad, the accuser know false, not THINK that, but say it for filthying their opponents.

[Asker]

This seems hateful to me.

[Heolurt]

Because the world is dying and it's a way of healing by trying to kill off the human virus by making humans stupid beyond belief.

[Asker]

Why stupid though? What's the point of that?

[Heolurt]

Stupid just goes crazy and kills itself off and can't defend back.

[Asker]

Lol ok. Do you think mother nature is doing this?

[Heolurt]

I don't think anything about it that much but I think it makes sense but I'm also retarded so what do I know.

[SotiCoto]

There always were, and always will be. It is just the spirit of the times to be all meta about it and hate the concept of hate now, no matter how hypocritical and stupid that is.

[Kelly6]

Uneducated

social media with false info

unable to find truth

unable to understand how world runs

[bededazzle]

as compared to which days? hatred is a natural human emotion

[Asker]

You sincerely don't feel the world has become more polarized and hateful?

[bededazzle]

no, but i don’t mean to disrespect your belief

[Asker]

Fair and thank you for that. I just know people who hate strangers because they didn't get the covid vaccine and wish death upon them. I know people that hate others for voting conservative or liberal and people screaming at others that say, support Trump. It's like they want to kill each other for their beliefs.

[bededazzle]

i understand. i think it may be that hate seems more prevalent because of globalization and technology. hatred of the "other" is I would say at least about 50 million years old

[bededazzle]

today it’s also much much harder to have things like massacres. in many cases we can’t manifest our hatred except as things like, say, twitter rants

[Asker]

Right, hatred is certainly not new and you're probably right, globalization/tech spreads it.

[bededazzle]

I don't know. it’s difficult to compare times. i do identify with people saying these are polarizing times

[AaronKrieger]

It's become a bad habit for many.

[exitseven]

Social media.

[Anonymous]

This is an ironic question coming from you.

[Asker]

Let me guess, I hurt your feelings when I pointed out your terrible behaviour so now you have actually look through my comments, stalking me to find a question to try and insult me. All this while anonymous because you're even too cowardly to show your anonymous account.

[12karen]

@chandelier8 damn 👏

[Asker]

@12karen 😂 He had it coming.

[Opinion Owner]

Lol, you didn't hurt my feelings. I've only seen one post from you other than this one and it seens pretty clear you are just another a bitter femcel. I just pointed out the irony in that. It seems you're the one with your panties in a wad. Good luck with that, it sounds pretty uncomfortable.

[Asker]

You must be the Muslim guy.

[Opinion Owner]

Nope, I'm a pretty normal, average guy who just gets a laugh out of all the bitter incels and femcels here on GAG constantly throwing darts at each other. You are clearly one of those people, yet you posted this question, which was hilariously ironic so I couldn't help but call it out.

[Asker]

Why is it ironic, exactly? What exactly are you so very triggered about that you have to stalk me to so angrily post anonymously? I bet you're too afraid to even answer that. Pathetic.

Also, no woman is a femcel but it's apparent you lack sex.