Why are some black people are rude to skinny/short mothers?

[Anonymous]

I am a 24 year old black mother with a 3 month old daughter and I don’t understand why lots of black people are very rude to me by being a skinny and short mom, (I’m 5’0) and I have a normal fast metabolism (I’m 102 pounds), I sometimes start to feel less of a mother because I’m not thick or big enough to be a mother, I get dirty looks from family members that are mothers who are bigger and taller than me and I’ve seen other short and skinny black mothers so I’m definitely not the only one, so I was wondering why do some black people are so rude to skinny and short mothers?

[MrOracle]

Some are going to be jealous (that you can have children and still be thin), and some will have a stereotype of what they think a black woman should be (tall and/or thick) and judge you because you don't match their stereotype. In either case, the failing is theirs, not yours, but I realize that when they are mean or rude, this doesn't make you feel any better.

But if it helps at all, know that a lot of people seeing this from the outside can SEE that THEY are the despicable ones and that you are doing nothing wrong. They might not get involved because they don't need anymore problems in their own lives, but they see these people being mean to you for no reason and they know that the people doing that are amoral, despicable people.

[Asker]

Answered this perfectly thank you so much and understanding where I was coming from

[NamerOfStars]

Because they're jerks, which come in every skin color.

[Avicenna]

I have never heard this before. How many people have done this to you?

[jahaims]

Some people are rude obviously