I was told this by my white colleague. I was defintiely an affirmative action hire because there were no black editors at the paper where I was hired in 1986.
I had a bad feeling about my particular boss, but he had a second in command who was kind and helped me enormously. This was in east Texas. And the editor was a decent guy who was all about me doing well.
Well, one of the favorites of the boss, a little hot, mini-skirt wearing bitch, which is the only way to describe her, knew how my boss felt and took EVERY opportunity to be unpleasant to me. I had a talk with her and she remained the nasty piece of work that she was because she was supported by my boss.
I finally talked to the boss's other favorite, Cindy, who was a great, down to earth gal that everyone loved. Warm, helpful. Her statement to me was this:
"Well everybody KNOWs when you walk into the room Pat raises THE CONFEDERATE FLAG!" And she laughed at what I'd FELT for months, but denied to myself because I couldn't PROVE it. I sighed in GREAT relief because my suspicions were realized by this very generous woman.
So I went to the editor, reported Miss Thing, and had HER crying in his office, as I'd been crying in front of her, trying to resolve the problem between us. It didn't work because her boss supported her dislike of me!
But ultimately, I was sent to a conference that was enjoyable, instructive and a lot changed. Not the attitudes of people who were biased. One person and one experience never changes that. But I hope those two began to look beyond a person's color.
I made some good associations at that paper and am still in contact with someone I met through the paper 35 years later. That alone was worth it, despite the fact of the rough ride initially. Met a lot of fine journalists of all colors. And despite being asinine, both of the people who gave me grief WERE good journalists. Just not so good as people! I did better, and people left me alone and I moved on to another job in my hometown where I'd been hoping to go back to in the firt place.
@strateguy632 My kind Colleague TOLD me she was on my ass because of how my boss was ALSO mistreating me. She was a suck-up too. I didn't misinterpret anything. I was TOLD why she was so shitty to me.
As I said, I could never PROVE anything, until it was told to me that my suspicions were correct. And they were. You are a human. Humans have gut feelings that are usually spot on. I've NEVER felt that way since, except in one or two rare instances. And I've been working 50 years since I was 17.
By and large, all my employers were decent, kind people who were all about helping me improve myself and give them a better employee.
I'll make you laugh. There was a party given and my husband showed up for that. Eyes fell out of some peoples' heads because he was an Irish American, freckled son who looks a bit like Mel Gibson. That shocked some people who were expecting, I guess, Denzel! ahahahahahaha. Love to you and all of yours this Easter!
Ahem. We are no longer married, and I guess I wish he DID look like Denzel! NOthing to do with his being white, either.. ahahahahha. No guarantee me and Denzel would still be married, either.
But he did help create a wonderful zebra son! Apple of my eye and can fix just about anything, just like his grandpa (my daddy). He also digs his amazingly cool and sharp mother!!! Kisses!!
@exitseven Hey Exit-baby! That IS me! SURPRIZE surprize..
And you know what was funny about hearing, from my inside galfriend AFTER the party, was that it never OCCURRED to me that our coupling was unusual because we'd been married three or four years and our families were fine with it because we were BOTH CATHOLICS!!! ahahahahaha!!!
ain't THAT a thing! Catholics!!! This is why I get such a kick out of watching Stephen Colbert. His Catholic jokes kill me. I We're a funny little club.
Positively, wen't to a catholic boarding school, all high achieving students were highly favored. I was buth a stellar academic, sportswoman and extracurricalr activity partaker so...
I've been told in job interviews I wouldn't be getting the job because I'm white. I applied for a promotion at one company to be in a post specifically for English speaking clients and part way through the interview the guy interviewing me got a call from his manager telling him not to give me the job because I don't speak an indigenous language as well as English.
These days, because I'm now "disabled", I know if I went for the same job that company would kiss my ass to employ me so their quotas for the "previously disadvantaged" are met. I won't be applying to them for that reason. My wheelchair doesn't mean I'm better at doing my job. My prosthetic doesn't magically change my competency as a relationship manager. It's insulting to never be certain I was offered a job because I'm the best of so the company could tick off the woke checklist.
It's the only country in the world where the law allows discrimination in favour of the racial majority. Companies can't get government contracts if they don't have certain quotas to be "representative" rather than competent.
A guy put in an application where my cousin works. The applications said he was African-American. The company was thrilled about that because they needed some African-Americans to fill quotas. They told him his résumé looked good and to come in for a quick job interview. The company about shit themselves when they found out he was white.
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I work in IT and it is a very youth oriented field. After I turned 50 I was getting turned down for every job I interviewed for. Most of the time the interviewer would be somebody 10 or 20 years younger than me. I would do a phone interview and they would be impressed with my accomplishments. When I would show up in person I can see the look on their face that I am not a twenty something. These people want to hire a Facebook friend. After a while I got into the habit of telling people how old I was before I wasted my time going to a live interview..
@strateguy632 I graduated from college later in life so it you look at my resume you might think that I am younger than I actually am. When they see a 50 something guy show up I can tell by the look on their face that I an not what they expected.
I have been discriminated too due to ethnicity and gender, what you are describing is not mild, we just have normalized it in our heads in order to cope easier.
Yes to such an extreme extent it was a contributing factor to why I lost my relationship. I have witnessed really cruel things being done as part of the discrimination like children having to change clothes outside in the freezing cold because they were not allowed to change clothes inside.
In my case I was banned in her country, she was banned in mine. I wasn't allowed in any public activity, restaurant, etc. without having to jump through hoops. Demonized constantly in the media.
What did the people do? Nothing other than be disrespectful towards people like me and try to force me to become like them. I learned a lot during this period and now fully understand how the Jews got prosecuted in World War 2 as I now understand why people have been so compliant in that.
you started good story, without naming countries until your comparison, minimalizing the great horror of nazi mass murder. i guess you are holocaust denier?
Yea one time cops were staring at me when I was getting in the car and then they cornered me in the parking spot to then ask for my name and ID, turns out they were looking for someone else, I don't believe I looked anything like the other person tho, we were both Hispanics but I don't know I could've just been at the wrong place at the wrong time type shit
yes, society often targets Christians not only to shoot arrows of general insults at the "group Christians or religious" aimed at Christians but worse, than grouping, saying or writing things they won't and can't say about other religions, they did say to us. this insult category is far worse then the stories here so far (9) that didn't contain any insult.
so far 30 stories almost all 30 described "different treatment" showing society succeeded in "watering down" the severe discriminations as if all is discrimination. or discrimination must end including "protests". if i say "you have blue eyes" i did "discrimination" by these standards separated from brown eyes... but i never said one was WORSE! only a few stories here, people were "pushed down made lower" which is the severe discrimination as i described, targeting Christians, including the misuse of questions on qoura etc.
Yes, I have. It was an interesting feeling. I asked a Chinese girl out in community college. We liked each other. Her father forbade it because I was a white American.
I asked an Italian girl out later on. She was a day student. We liked each other, too. Her father forbade it because I am an Irish boy.
I understood how Blacks felt back then.
Discrimination is in human nature and nothing will stop it.
I grew up in a low-income high-poverty area. In my class at school there was only one other person of my race there. The only other person of my race picked a fight with me because he wanted to fit in with the rest of the class and show that he was "one of them" and I wasn't.
Years ago, i had broken my hand and wrist, i could not work, and i could not find a temporary job. I went to apply for temporary disability, and i was told "Unless you're hiding a vagina in your pants or you have kids, we dont help people like you" Implying that because im a childless male there was no help for me.
Not that I’m aware of. I have however, benefited from years of white privilege, that’s for sure — & I’ve gotten away with more than I probably should have as a result.
Most of my life it’s complicated. Guess you could say for being an illusion in people minds. Suppose to be dead but lived, so I guess most people see me as not being real.
I used to go to a mostly black school and would get jumped by students for being white and some of the teachers would go out of their way to fuck with me too. If a student wanted to get me in trouble they would just go up to the teacher and say I said the N word just to fuck with me.
Yes, but positively. Tall white person in China, people treat you really well, you can get into places for free, get stuff for free, get away with anything, etc.
