I fail at everything, what do I do?

[Anonymous]

I've tried being an EMT, I failed, I tried being a police officer, I failed, I tried getting to my ideal weight, I initially succeeded, but all of the running I did broke blood vessels in my lungs and gave me testicular torsion.

By the time I recovered, I'd gained 100 pounds and fallen back into a depression. I became addicted to alcohol and resigned my days to laying in bed drinking, and doing some food deliveries at night for some money.

I've failed at everything I've ever tried in my life, and even my mom knows that I can't succeed. Every idea I have about being a businessman, she throws away as unrealistic, insisting that I work in Walmart for minimum wage and deal with all of the other no-goods who go to Walmart.

I've been doing calculations lately to learn about opening a business in which I will brew rum and sell it to distributors. The manual labor will get me in shape, and finally open up possibilities for me to make money. But the problem is that I know I'll fail, just like I've failed at everything I've tried. I don't know why I bother anymore😞

[Daniela1982]

Someone else failed worse than you.

YEAR
FAILURES or SETBACKS
SUCCESSES
1832
Lost job
Defeated for state legislature
Elected company captain of Illinois militia in Black Hawk War but was fired and demoted to private.
1833
Failed in business
Appointed postmaster of New Salem, Illinois
Appointed deputy surveyor of Sangamon County
1834

Elected to Illinois state legislature
1835
Sweetheart died

1836
Had nervous breakdown
Re-elected to Illinois state legislature (running first in his district)
Received license to practice law in Illinois state courts
1837

Led Whig delegation in moving Illinois state capital from Vandalia to Springfield
Became law partner of John T. Stuart
1838
Defeated for Speaker
Nominated for Illinois House Speaker by Whig caucus
Re-elected to Illinois House (running first in his district)
Served as Whig floor leader
1839

Chosen presidential elector by first Whig convention
Admitted to practice law in U. S. Circuit Court
1840

Argues first case before Illinois Supreme Court
Re-elected to Illinois state legislature
1841

Established new law practice with Stephen T. Logan
1842

Admitted to practice law in U. S. District Court
1843
Defeated for nomination for Congress

1844

Established own law practice with William H. Herndon as junior partner
1846

Elected to Congress
1848
Lost renomination
(Chose not to run for Congress, abiding by rule of rotation among Whigs.)
1849
Rejected for land officer
Admitted to practice law in U. S. Supreme Court
Declined appointment as secretary and then as governor of Oregon Territory
1854
Defeated for U. S. Senate
Elected to Illinois state legislature (but declined seat to run for U. S. Senate)
1856
Defeated for nomination for Vice President

1858
Again defeated for U. S. Senate

1860

Elected President

Abraham Lincoln had a lot of failures but was still one of most cherished Presidents.

[Asker]

Abraham Lincoln isn't a man I'm very fond of, given his tyrannical behavior during the war.

But politics aside, one man's success isn't enough, what about all of the others who tried and failed?

[Daniela1982]

Wow, you just can't please some people. He abolished slavery. If he hadn't been tyrannical, maybe the South would have won and we would still have slavery. Come to think of it, our government treats us like slaves today. They kick out asses while kissing every Tom, Dick, and Harry coming into our country illegally. There is no other country who allows people to just waltz in and get all their needs met at taxpayer expense. 😫😡

[Asker]

He didn't abolish a thing, the emancipation proclamation didn't free slaves in Northern slave states, southern slave states, or southern slave states that were occupied by Union forces.

Slavery was already dying quickly, and would've ended in 10 years or so, since it no longer made any economic sense to buy slaves instead of paying employees.

[Asker]

The way I see it, they just needed someone to overlook mass rape, murder and looting of people who wanted to be free, and Abraham Lincoln was it. But he got what he deserved, and he's still screaming in the deepest pits of hell as his flesh is burnt away down to his bone, and the process is started again

[Daniela1982]

I can see why you are a failure now. Your brain is not functioning properly.

[Asker]

You think I'm a liar? Read the emancipation proclamation. Slaves in the 4 northern slave states that are Delaware, Kentucky, Missouri, and Maryland, none of them would be freed.

Slaves in the occupied territories of Louisiana, Arkansas, and Tennessee would be free. And he declared that Slaves in Confederate states would be free, but he can't free them, since he doesn't control those states, and almost all Slaves would simply be held as enemy contraband, and put to work.

Sheridan and Custer murdered tens of thousands of people in the Shenandoah Valley, they burned every house they saw and raped every woman they found. Lincoln knew all about this, and did nothing.

They hanged Confederate soldiers, and murdered them in front of their parents and family, he knew all about this, and did nothing.

Sherman's men looted and burned every house they saw, and killed anyone who said the slightest bit of disapproval for what they were doing, and Lincoln did nothing.

THAT is why John Wilkes booth killed him, that is why half of the country hated Abraham Lincoln and sent him death threats every single day, even his own family sent him death threats.

I may be a drunk piece of garbage, but I'm a drunk piece of garbage that calls things how I see it, and the way I see it, Lincoln was a malignant Tyrant, an inspiration for Adolf Hitler's genocidal ways

But we acknowledge that Hitler was horrible, because we won that war, but since the Confederates lost, the powers that be covered up all of the awful things he did, but I see it, I see it all, and he was awful. That's why him and his cronies are burning in hell, that is why I am NOT FOND of Lincoln

[sage2021]

I watch the TV program on the History channel on the weekend. Most of them are about how America Was Built.

Last weekend it was about how penny candy and who invented them. Many many times the people that made America 🇺🇸 tried and failed, but kept trying new ideas they had. And they became very rich after trying and failing until they finally got it right. It doesn't happen on the first try, or overnight.

They used to have a group for people that were actually afraid of success. Could you possibly be afraid of succeeding at something?

You can ask people's opinions on things, but do not, I repeat, do not ever let anyone stop you from trying.

Being successful takes time, practicing and knowing the right people to be around sometimes.

Please don't get discouraged. Your rum idea sounds good to me 🙂

Maybe you should watch that program about the people who built America and get some ideas from the program. Remember it's on the History channel. I think on Sunday but try Saturday and Sunday during the day.

Good luck 🍀 to you always and keep your chin up ok?

[Asker]

I'm not afraid of succeeding, I'm afraid of failure, because I know that total failure is inevitable for me, as I haven't succeeded once in anything in my entire life

[NathanDavis]

someone that is very close to me went to a Walmart-like store around your age (19 or so) difference is, he never saw himself as a "no-good" but he also wanted to quit because he thought minimum wage was not good enough to make a living

I told him to stay, told him that he wasn't there to make a living, he was there to learn about work, to learn about responsibility, and to learn to see and observe where's the way up, if you want to go up... I made him stay

about 10 years later... he's still working at a store, but, working for the company at international level and earning at least 100 times, what was his first check on that store, any time now... and since many years ago, he could have quit this 9 to 5 job and started his own business, because he understand responsibility, he knows hard work, and he can observe and see opportunities to get ahead in many directions

I think you should take your mother's advice and go first get a first job somewhere, even Walmart... and learn first about these things and learn about yourself because right now all you see in yourself is sabotage, work for others first... because you don't have the mindset to work by yourself, not yet

[Asker]

I've had many jobs, and only one in a million workers actually advance above being a cashier, the rest are either stuck there for the rest of their lives, or leave

[NathanDavis]

that one in a million are the ones who try... but here you are making excuses like the other 999,999

[Asker]

It's not an excuse, it's acceptance of reality, which is that I'm incapable of succeeding in anything

[NathanDavis]

okay

[David94358]

You need to set actually achievable goals, being and EMT is not for everyone, brewing rum has some very stiff compilation so that has a higher chance of failure.

A simple goal is not your weight but just going to work out 3 times a week. That's your first goal, get to the gym 3 times a week, even if you don't feel like going, tell yourself you are just going to work out for 10 min.. getting into the gym is the goal, the weight loss is not the goal.

Once that goal is mastered then you can increase that goal, like 4 times a week, or add in lifting along with cardio etc..

Stick with achievable goals and start stacking up wins

[Asker]

I've already tried this, and all it led to was more failure

[David94358]

Life is full of failure, it's what you do after a failure that matters,

[Asker]

The only thing I'm capable of doing is continuing to fail or at best, not getting anywhere

[David94358]

Yeah with that attitude you are destined to be a loser your whole life. It's not your failures that make you a loser, it's your attitude..

Edison once said, “I have not failed 10,000 times—I’ve successfully found 10,000 ways that will not work.”

Edison and all great men all have failures the difference is they didn't give up..

You want to be a pussy loser your whole life or are you going to start acting like a man?

[Asker]

I've tried acting like a man, but it led to nothing and I have no passions, nothing I enjoy, and have no direction in life.

Edison was a genius with an incredible brain, that's why he was successful, not because he was stubborn enough to keep trying.

It's just like the Japs in WW2 when they kept charging towards American machine guns. They sure tried, and they all were persistent, thousands charged at them. But all of them were killed, every single one of them, and they didn't inflict a single casualty on the Americans.

All of the stubbornness and none of the potential doesn't change anything, I'm living proof of that

[David94358]

Ok cool move back home with mom and dad and live your life out as a child that cry's about everything.