Skin tone preferences: why are dark skin preferences okay but not light skin preferences?

[Cherrylicious]

Please save your "everyone is beautiful in their own unique way" and "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" talking points as we all know this but that's not the point of the question here so please stay on topic.

I understand that it's been instilled by Society and the media of the ideas of European beauty standards meaning that lighter skin and European features are considered more attractive than dark skin as we are all very well aware of this I get it. But I just do not understand as to why it is wrong for someone who has fair skin to express self love regarding their physical appearance and their skin tone I'll give some examples of the double standards that I am speaking of.


Dark skin woman: "I love my beautiful chocolate skin and my melanin is popping, I love being dark skinned"

Society:👏👏👏👏👏👏

Light skin woman: "I love my beautiful light skin my fair skin is beautiful I love being light skinned"

Society: "YOU ARE PERPETUATING COLORISM AND YOU ARE VERY SHALLOW ALL SKIN TONES ARE BEAUTIFUL SHAME ON YOU!"

Its such a double standard to know that it is only okay for one skin tone to be embraced and uplift over the other and light skin people are not allowed to love ourselves we talk about equality but don't want to be equal.

You're not allowed to love yourself if your light skin and have beautiful soft silky hair you are only allowed to love yourself if you are dark skinned with other features it is so unfair why is this?

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Also me personally as a light skin woman, I truly have a preference for a lighter skin I think it is more beautiful and yes I do think all skin tones are beautiful but I have a preference for lighter skin. And please do not leave comments saying things like "skin tone shouldn't matter" or anything off topic let's please stick to the subject.

[DrPepper12]

I agree with you. I think that's ridiculous to just throw a collar of oppressor when you simply because you like who you are.

I think those people betray that they are the true racists.

As far as your preference for light skin I would also have to agree that it's not as preferred as toned or darker skin among white people. I am one of those people and I've also found that lighter skin people have more, or more visible, freckles and unfortunately for whatever reason that's a deal breaker for me. I just don't like freckles. I do however LOVE tan lines!! 🤷

[Grond21]

Thank you for calling out this double standard. And it is a double standard, no matter the protestations to the contrary.

The root cause is because the left wing hatred of racism has a built in cure. More racism, just in the other direction. “The only remedy to past discrimination is present discrimination. The only remedy to present discrimination is future discrimination.” Ibram X Kendi

This is a big part of why they are so destructive, and why this ideology that is sweeping the developed world only creates more racism

[Grond21]

Thank you for MHO

[DrPepper12]

The left prints Cosmo?

[Grond21]

It's more accurate to say that the printers of Cosmo are leftists

[Syntosi]

Yeah, this is not happening. The reason some people have issues with others expressing appreciation for white complexion is not because its an issue in and of itself but because it has exposed that person as a racist.

It stands to reason that appreciation for white skin is a common point that exposes racists since its on the topic of race and it generally makes them speak their mind.

If you are not a racist then I can promise you that nobody will care about your opinions and you can go around appreciating whatever skintone you want.

[nawtee_me]

Skin color is not a determining factor when I am looking for a relationship. My preference is lighter skin tone. It is like boob size. While I prefer smaller boobs, it doesn’t have anything to do with wanting to be in a relationship with someone.
I don’t date skin tone or boobs. I date the person as she is.

[Lliam]

I lean toward strawberry blondes or gingers with peaches and cream or strawberries and cream complexions. Cream-colored skin with warm undertones and pink bits.

[ProbablyClueless]

Society (western society, at least) views dark skin as having it's moment, right now. We spent a long time idolizing pale skin, and now someone else is getting a turn.

[Cherrylicious]

Understood but what exactly does that have to do with someone who was lighter skin embracing and loving themselves the same way dark skin people should be allowed to do. I'm just saying less both equalize it so if dark skin people are allowed to parade their skin tone and giving themselves nicknames relative that are skin color, us light skin people should have the same right and should not have to sit and twiddle our thumbs and be afraid to uplift and love ourselves so that dark skin people wouldn't feel any type of way.

[ProbablyClueless]

That is an excellent point and question. Unfortunately, the best I can give you for an answer is that it's just not a conversation people know how to have right now.

We live in an emotion-driven time. People feel like anything that doesn't celebrate dark skin is against it. As stupid as that is, it's just where people are at right now.

[Berethor]

Wokeness, it claims that those with dark skin can't be racist, which is of course not true.

[DrPepper12]

So not Cosmo or 17? Hmmm...

[ohsheeT]

For me I like a girl with a tan because she just looks fresh and alive

[strateguy632]

Because people will call you racist but yeh it is hypocrit double standard.

[Kelly6]

@Cherrylicious Its not just skin color, its more now a days.

But I don't know why, glad its not here in Spain

[eagle1951]

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