Why is it wrong and socially unacceptable for a guy to hit a woman?

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Okay hear me out, this isn't a dumb misogynistic question although I know its a harsh topic to speak about and my question doesn't mean I want to hit women so y'all can delete that out of your minds but I can only assume there's a reason, as there's a reason for anything and everything, just because isn't a reason, and neither is just cause it's wrong, and even tho it is wrong, the reason why it's wrong must exist (i know getting physical in general is wrong no matter the gender) but if a man does it to a woman it's way worse, I would assume the reason or one of them is cause everyone deep down knows men are biologically stronger (not misogynistic, it's scientifically proven) so it's just a dickhead move for a guy to get physical with women, im not saying women can't get strong but wouldn't this at least play a part on the reason why a man vs woman is on a far worse level to society then no matter what other way you put it? Unless the only reason really is cause of peoples genitals and there's nothing more too it and peepee can't hit tutu but tutu can sometimes hit peepee if peepee gets out of line.😂

What motivated my question: even tho many women admit there's a biological difference between both genders, even when it comes to physical strength there's those that do believe both genders are 100% equal in all categories but for some reason still have the same mentality when it comes to this topic which made me wonder and got me curious enough to ask what's their reason to believe equals can't be treated as equals even physically then? Unless deep down they know shits not equal biologically.

So people that believe everyone is fully equal, what's your reasons on this topic?

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

you already mentioned most reasons why Chico... lol

but I'll tell you this... that one guy in college who wanted to hit a woman because she "slapped me first" had the same mentality "she hit me, we're equals, I can hit her back"

but the problem here is... he wanted to beat her, he wanted to overpower her, because he knew 100% that he could absolutely dismantle her on one strike, or one slap... and this is just fucking stupid... most people, in the heat of the moment, does not want to respond with equal force... maybe with the same action "you hit me, I hit you" "you slap me, I slap you" "you punch me, I punch you" and they say that is "equality" but no, it is not so simple...

most people, who resort to violence are not 100% in control especially when they are mad, and THAT is the problem... it will not be equal in force, not equal on intention

so, I had to prove a point... and I started to push him back, and I started really slam him back, and cornering him... and I told him go ahead and hit me... we're equals, I am being an absolute asshole to you right now... so hit me back, push me back...

but of course, he never did it... why? because the "power balance" shifted against him, he absolutely knew 100% that if he had responded equally to my provocation, then he would be the one beat and overpowered by someone else

and he did quit his "equality" bullshit

so, this is one thing wrong with "equality" which is when the one with more power to do damage wants, not to get EVEN... but to overpower the weaker and to call that "equality" lol

and this does not have to be about genders really... because, for this very same reason most men will not let a stronger man to just abuse a weaker one, or won't let a grown man beat a "stupid teen" too badly or an old man...

just because it is not really "equal grounds"

Garud · Accepted Answer

It is true, that women are considered more physically delicate and they are. So by society and law women get more favours.
In matters involving both women and men, men are considered guilty by default.
But the drum of equality is only beaten on the men's heads which brings out the frustration.
Only men are taught from childhood to give more space to women as equals but women are not taught to see men in equal light.

Balance is needed in everything. Leaning to one side completely spoils the stability of society and thus the nation.
Men still run the society. The men at the top make the decision mostly and it is men's fault to stay silent not women.
Women talk about their problems more, men remain silent. To save themselves from smoking by both men and women.

If we can't do anything about it. Then care about this society only as much as it cares about you, simple.

In my country, the state gives more privileges to women and handicaps are given to men to equalize the situation in different contexts.
As of 2022, India's sex ratio is 1,020 females per 1,000 males.
But even today we are reading in media and textbooks that for every 1000 men there are only 900 women, so they keep promoting women in some areas where it is not required, wasting our tax money to give freebies to women for women vote bank.
Now politics gets involved in it

abbyjgriffin98 · Accepted Answer

This is going to be long, so bear with me. I think in society, though people aren't willing to admit this, women are obviously a lot smaller in stature therefore they are a lot, physically, weaker (speaking in generalities). I had a teacher who once told me women hit 10 times more often than men. However, men hit 10 times more harder than women. Now, in domestic abuse cases, the police are going to look at the people who have the bruises and the wounds. Even if a man striking a woman was in self defense, they're going to see the bruises he left on her and it will be the man who is in cuffs. I don't agree with it and quite frankly, when I see a woman just beating on a man and he strikes back, I laugh at her as she sits on the floor stunned by what just happened. However, it would be smarter to not engage in a fight, especially when you are a lot stronger/larger than your opponent (male or female). You could probably just gently push them and it would send them to the floor. Or you restrain them. Or you could walk away and let them be someone else's problem. My dad once told me, when he was at a bar, this drunk woman randomly kicked him and said she didn't like him. She told him she wanted to fight him. He said, "Okay," and just left it at that. He said he didn't engage with her, because he knew he could beat her up. And he doesn't fight people who he could beat up, men or women. Now, personally, I think that a real man doesn't hit a woman. On the other hand, I also think that a real woman doesn't hit a man. So to me, I feel nothing for a "woman" who wants to act tough and fight a man and then gets beat up by one. Because, to me, she isn't a real woman. Just like when I see a "man" who beats up a woman (unprovoked), I don't feel anything when bystanders who witness the incident jump him because, to me, he's not a real man. That's just my two cents.

7Phoenix7 · Accepted Answer

To me it's wrong for a guy to hit a woman and also for a woman to hit a man. It's assault either way.

Guys get judged harsher only because they are stronger and can easily do way more damage. So it just seems "unfair" to most people.

If a woman is trying to fight a guy, it's not hard for him to restrain her without hurting her too much. A woman can't restrain a man if he is going full force...

Laciejordan · Answer

I think a guy has a right to use any physical force needed to control a girl attacking him BUT usually it shouldn't result in him physically striking her. You guys can do a lot of damage with one hit compared to her hitting you. I have a brother a year older than me that I have gotten into it with when I was young and he would find other ways than hitting me to stop me. Usually just pushing me to the ground (at times more than once, because I kept going back for more lol), sometimes it was just grabbing me in a bear hug type of way. I've never experienced that with a boyfriend though. But, if you feel like you are in physical danger, I would never look down on you for protecting yourself! Do what you need to do.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

I wouldn't say it's wrong per say on an objective moral level, but it's definitely highly discouraged biologically among civilizations for millennia.. It's simply because of the physical difference.. In general a man can destroy a woman physically if he wanted to with his bare hands.. Not to mention the pain tolerance difference and the mental difference.. Men can get very physically aggressive to the point where most women can almost do nothing unless she has a weapon of her own. I say it's not objectively wrong because women can be very aggressive and dangerous as well.. Sometimes a good hit can from someone a decent amount stronger and capable can help..

I couldn't guess who even if I tried..

Syntosi · Answer

This bias has actually nothing to do with biology or the idea that men are stronger. It changes based on what culture you are from but in the west this comes from Religion. More specifically, Judaism or Christianity by extension since they are fundamentally the same religion with some DLC.

Christianity defines the womans role in society etc.. which results in them being seen as vulnerable and needing protection from men.

molonski2 · Answer

You want to watch some of these female kick boxers here , I'd say in the rare situation where you have been struck punched ( seriously hit , not slapped ) , then that circumstance would allow for equal and opposite.

Its no different to me coming up and punching you in the face , I might be older , smaller , but if I punch you seriously in the face , I deserve the same back.

Now , vastly different if nothing violent has occurred , then its never right.

AviatorTom · Answer

Let's not confuse sex with gender. It's traditionally wrong for a male to hit a female. Gender is a whole 'nother discussion.

Why? Because females are generally weaker than males, and traditionally are the ones who carry the young during pregnancy and birth, and then care for them as they grow up. It's self-defeating for a male to strike a female.

jshm2 · Answer

It isn't.

in fact it wasn't until the domestic abuse acts were made laws, that it was perfectly acceptable to hit a woman and child. There were even advertainments about it in the 50's and before!

But it's illegal these days to be hitting "anyone" man or women. Hence it's actually socially and legally unacceptable to put your hands on anyone with violence these days.

DrPepper12 · Answer

1) men can't hit first
2) men can and should defend themselves by distance, causing a scene to attract attention or lastly asserting control (holding her wrists, using superior weight to prevent her from swinging, etc)
3) Ask the bystanders to send you what they filmed for when you may get sued or charged later

TheRealPepperPotts · Answer

For a person of superior strength to use that strength to force someone of lesser strength into compliance indicates lack of relationship and respect. For someone to be disrespected simply because of biologically inferior muscle and bone strength is wrong. In school, we call that bullying.

bolverk · Answer

Society automatically expect that Men will defend women and never trade blows with them, but over the last 10 years or so that has changed with women claiming to be equal to men in every respect.

I’ve done security work at clubs and have been on the receiving end of physical abuse from women who were usually drunk, when you’re in that position all you can do is intercept the blows they throw until they run out of steam, the worst ones are the ones that are totally manic, they have no control and try to do the maximum damage, resisting the urge to slap the bejesus out them is one the hardest thing for a guy to do.

But if a woman squares off intending to fight and throw punches I’d willingly take them on, what women forget is that Men have learned to control their strength from childhood, we can trade blows with women of the same strength, but with a hell of a lot in reserve.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

there is only one acceptable reason for violence... to defend your or your loved ones' lives...

I can imagine a zillion reasons someone can think about hitting another person... mostly out of frustration... but as long as those are just thoughts and they do not become the real acts... it's OK...

FunkyMonkee · Answer

She's, supposedly, the weaker sex. However, if one starts hitting me over the head with a baseball bat, I'm NOT about to just stand there and take it!! As far as I'm concerned, if you can't take it, don't dish it out!

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Offering violence never is acceptable to me.
Self defense is one other thing - where I would not care about gender. It happened only once, though. re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

I think it's more of strength like you said. A guy's hand can hurt more than a woman's hand can if they were to slap each other across the face. But if a guy gave like, a softer hit that'd be equivalent to how she'd hit him, then it might be ok.

Keyboardkat · Answer

I think the asker means approach a woman to start a conversation, perhaps leading to getting her phone number. That's what I think is meant by "hit on." I don't think he means striking her to hurt her, or getting aggressive and violent with her. THAT's definitely wrong.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Because men are physically stronger than women.

Bitch men like to hit women because they know women can't hurt them and it makes them feel strong when in reality there are a little bitch and they know it.

PrettyCrumblBb · Answer

If some random guy told me something sexual, I'd slap him.

I'm not the type of girl that likes sexual advances from random men. This has been a normal response from traditional women. We do not tolerate this type of behavior. I think women can slap creeps.

HighValue · Answer

It doesn't matter how much weaker the women are, even if the man is 6' tall and over 250 pounds, it is perfectly reasonable for a man to hit a woman as hard as he can if she hits him, or does something else requiring a physical response. It is especially acceptable if she is a feminist. Equal rights and equal lefts.

katiesmuff · Answer

It's totally silly to think in most cases both genders are of equal strength and because that is not true is why it's generally accepted that men shouldn't hit a woman unless being assaulted and for defense purposes only.

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

I personally wouldn't hit back unless she was coming at me with a weapon. It's just isn't how I was raised. Im also guy aware that I would be the one getting into legal trouble. Not worth it.

But I won't be mad at another guy for defending himself as long as he doesn't take it too far. She will stop the second she realizes he isn't going to stand there and take it. He doesn't need to seriously injure her to get his point across.

Jennz6 · Answer

Guys take advantage of submissive women and hit, spank, torture

Astarlessnightsky · Answer

Its wrong to hit anyone. Society is at its best when the people are safe from harm and respect each other and treat each other in a non violent way.

Anonymous · Answer

There is no equal between the sexes and isn't meant to be. There is however balance, with each bringing something that the other needs and wants.

NaultD · Answer

It's wrong and socially unacceptable to use excessive force regardless of any conditions. Aim for less then eye for an eye and you should be fine.

CarolinaGirl5 · Answer

It's wrong for both to hit. So what's your point? Neither is accepting

Anonymous · Answer

Because men are physically stronger than most woman?

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Because most men can very easily physically overpower a woman. You really need to explained to you?

SmileyLady · Answer

It’s because men have the unfair advantage of being physically stronger and able to hit harder and do a lot more damage to women than women can to men.

JasonGrad09 · Answer

A lot of it is virtue signaling - because it should be socially unacceptable to hit ANYONE period.

I hear the “you don’t hit, you just shake a woman” thing which seems ridiculous.

If someone hits you, you can hit back proportionally, even though you should always try to walk away first.

Anonymous · Answer

If a woman instigates violence by hitting a man, he should knock her on her ass. Don't hold back. The days of women being able to hide behind their gender and get away with hitting a man with no consequences are gone.

Miah06 · Answer

Because guys are bigger and stronger naturally duh..

exitseven · Answer

It is wrong because my father told me it is wrong.

Dargil · Answer

Offensively yes defensively, no.

CubaPirate · Answer

All violence is wrong

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