As a black woman how do I make myself not a target for racism?

[Anonymous]

I feel so much negative energy when I go out. I'm tall and fit I wear a little make up. I live around a lot of older white people and it seems like the energy has changed. I never experienced this until recently. I'm super friendly and I smile and greet people. Im not sure what else to do.

[texascollegegirl]

You sound like you are so attractive. Can you go out with others or you go alone to find hookups? I don't mean to offend these racist assholes got all confused and like to pretend fit Black women who look amazing are really trans Black men. That is not an insult to you but just describing their racism and conspiracy ideas.

I think go to where there are more Black people. It might mean moving or other lifestyle changes. Things have definitely changed. I admit I have an unusual lifestyle in that I have a white boyfriend but have a lot of sex with well endowed Blacks, but that means I'm exposed to similar racism. As a white girl when I'm going out either with friends or alone, I'm only attracted to certain Black men for hookups. That was not a problem until a few months ago. I could go to a club or bar and send a subtle message I am here only to hook up with a certain kind of Black man and nobody would say anything. Now if it's a white dominated place there can be trouble and I might get somebody killed. I grew up in a racist family in a town like that, so it seems like those small town lines are extending to the white spaces in cites. Like don't try to pick up Blacks in a country dance club, even if you have done that months before. Now racists are so aggressive. Where I grew up, if a Black was knownn to fuck a white girl, that would risk his life. It's not that bad here yet but it's like it's coming.

The partial good news is they are not at all aggressive when there are more Black people around. Maybe they saw the Montgomery Brawl and realized. I know they kind of feel afraid. I feel a lot more safe finding Blacks when there are enough that it is not white dominated. Then it's even safe for the white boys who have the same fetish to kind of try to be my friend and help.

I hope none of this offends. We all like what we like, and I can't help how I grew up or what sex I like. You should be able to hook up with whoever you like without racism being a problem. I'm so sorry you can't. For the record if I met you in a club I might hit on you too, because a Black girl taught me I like girls, too. I will pray for you.

[Staximus]

I don't know what her question has to do with your hose beast lifestyle

[D_Bone_Steak]

I dunno... It's hard for me to believe you when the racism is see IRL is towards whites (look up crimes by race against what race if you need proof), and from white liberals towards POC in the form of thinking they're your savors... because they think you can't help yourself or infantilize your race. ... which is at least not violent... they want to kiss your ass!

And speaking of politics... that shit has brought back race issues from the 1950's, and that started with Obama using identity politics which has just been getting worse thanks to the Democrat side of things.

It's just really hard for me to believe you. It sounds like Jussie Smollett-like claims to me. ... maybe I've just been race-hoaxed about racism going in your direction way too much since 2016.

Now... on the other hand, if you describe it as people clamming up in fear around you or they become guarded and a bit defensive around you... that shit I will believe. That's just fear... and I don't think I need to explain why they'd be fearful if you've watched anything on media about real crime at all.

[abc3643]

You might want to give it some time.
I know that sounds trite, but things like racism are really born from fear and fear is born from ignorance. Experience kills ignorance, thus reduces or eliminates fear.
In short: It is instinctive to be cautious about the "different", the unfamiliar. The more experience people have with the "different", the more familiar it becomes.

That said, I won't say that's a panacea. Can you please tell us more about your situation? You can PM me if you like.

[DrPepper12]

A lot of those older white people have been radicalized by Fox News and Qanon and just generally lost to the racism misogyny and bigotry that seem to be so very prevalent among that age group

[exitseven]

It is sad that you feel this way. Some people are just assholes. I am an older white guy and I feel that way too.

[jahaims]

Racism has nothing to do with you. It is because of the ignorance of others. You can't fix that unfortunately.

[lightbulb27]

not something I give or sense. keep being yourself.

[KostasKouvalis]

Go where there are more black people. Easy as that.

[noohair]

I do not look at skin color but sadly many do. Be yourself because everyone else is taken. Good Luck…

[seeyounexttuesday]

If you live your life trying to be a victim, don’t be surprised when you find it.

[Pterodon]

Are you certain you’re not being overly sensitive?

[Neallyaa]

It’s impossible

[beefcakebradybatson]

Leave America !!!

[Anonymous]

Move to Africa.