How can I stop thinking about someone everyday who hurt me 3 years ago?

[Anonymous]

I check their social medias multiple times a day and think about them multiple times a day. I don’t want to go into what happened

[Own-classic]

Well first start acknowledging that they hurt you (make a journal)

Next move, start getting hobbies (ex: sewing, embroidery, knitting, walking, biking, pilates, drawing, reading , music etc) giving yourself that energy will help you slowly stop thinking about them.

Block them. Delete. Stop snooping. Give yourself a penalty if you do go back to thinking of them. (If you don't like working out, your penalty is going to the gym or running 1 mile etc) nothing harmful pls.

Talk to other people whom you trust. Can be a friend, a family member, or a therapist. If you dont want to talk to anyone, journal ! Write that shit out.

Go live your life girly. Go enjoy the fresh air sit in nature Go to a favorite spot of yours, spend on yourself ( wisely pls lol ) INVEST IN YOURSELF:

*MENTALLY (reading books, puzzles, learning a language etc).

*PHYSICALLY (exercising, new hair cut, new style, skin care, dance etc)

*SPIRITUALLY (if your religious or not read the bible, or learn about universe and other beings and state of mind)

These are examples. Now it's up to you to put in effort to make that happen and trust me, you'll slowly stop and forget about them.

This will also open new doors and remember every experience is a learning experience and in order to move on from things that hurt us? Is to learn for those mistakes and forgive ourselves and move forward.

Or your gonna be stuck in this hamster wheel till you exhaust yourself. Imagine you still thinking about this 10 years from now? You lost 3 years... but you are seeking help so you are tired. So scare yourself straight lol.

[KostasKouvalis]

3 years, damn. That's worst than me. I'm basically in the same situation, except mine's only been 3 weeks. Why are you still obsessed with this person? If you can, just start thinking of their bad qualities. Stop looking at their social media and try to talk and vibe with other people.

[KostasKouvalis]

With mine, I stopped snooping around her profile, because it was only making me more stressed

[ImalwaysrightOK]

Easier said than done, but you should do anything other than concentrate on the person that hurt you, I don't know what they did, but if it was illegal you should report it to the police, otherwise, you should keep yourself busy and not focus on what happened.

[exitseven]

Allow yourself to rally grieve the loss. Listen to old records that remind you of him, walk by places that you used to go to together. Immerse yourself in the breakup. Imagine moving on from this train wreck.

[OneViewpoint]

Grow up. Let it go. Move on. They are still hurting you. Obviously. They are living rent free in your head. Only you can free yourself.

[jshm2]

By banging your head against every door before you open it. That's as much use and sense, thinking such irrelevant things is doing for you.

[Avicenna]

You need to start by not doing things that remind you of them

[KostasKouvalis]

Tell me about it. That's easier said than done

[Avicenna]

@KostasKouvalis: Everyone can find distractions

[KostasKouvalis]

Not if so many things remind you of her because you would talk about them

[Avicenna]

@KostasKouvalis: Sounds like someone needs to move away or get counseling then

[In_Trance]

Find somebody new and delete your social media

[jahaims]

Have any discipline