How to stop thinking about my ex?

[montherobaidat]

Okay i met sb, everything was perfect first 4 months then he ghosted me for a month, i didn't feel like sad or sth, yes i thought about it first week and then let it go,
Then after a month he came back and like he had a depression whatever, it was wrong from me to give another chance but i did, and he was even better than before romantic caring and all was amazing, after another three months he started to go on an off, and then we stopped talking for a month, I really didn't care i was fine and completely great, i swear i was happy and didn't think about him for over a month.

He came back after that and i told him no i can't take you back i don't want to go through the same shit again, i can't take your ups and downs anymore as i know for sure you will hurt me again, and he simply replied " as you like"

The issue is after i got my closure and ended things between us I can't stop thinking about him, i feel sad and I miss him a lot and wants him back, i really don't know why this is happening right now after i ended everything, it was my choice and i know its correct thing to do, why do i feel bad and guilty like a teenager, is it normal, will it go away or why would this happen

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang girl, that whole situation really sucks. I can understand why it's been so hard to stop thinking about him even after you broke it off. Breakups are tough even when you know it was the right call.

It makes sense that your feelings would catch up to you now - sometimes when you're still with someone it's easier to ignore problems, but once they're properly gone it all hits you. And it's totally normal to miss him and wonder "what if" even if logically you know getting back together would be a bad idea. Don't be too hard on yourself for feeling that way.

A few months isn't actually that long when you've been with someone for over a year on and off. It's gonna take time to fully get over those strong feelings. What might help is focusing on yourself for a while - pick up an old hobby, spend more time with other people who care about you, treat yourself to things that make you happy. Lean on your friends too when you're feeling down.

The sadness and missing him will fade more and more as long as you keep yourself busy and don't contact him. I know it's tempting to reach out for closure or whatever, but that'll just set you back. Soon this will just be a thing you went through instead of something that's constantly on your mind.

You made the right call ending things overall. Someone who ditches you that much isn't good boyfriend material and you deserve way better. I know it's tough now but staying broken up is for the best, even if your heart isn't fully convinced yet. It'll get there with time. Just be good to yourself and focus on moving forward - you've got this!

[ohsheeT]

It will go away. when you wanted to.

Stop and think about it stop and think about the pain that you went through and acknowledge it accept it and tell yourself I don't want to ever go through this again this is my one learning experience for the next time because next time we'll never happen because I went through this and just accept it and move on there's $150 billion guys out there just like him there's 10 guys 20 30 40 guys out there that are opposite of him that's the person you are looking for get it out of your head get it out of your heart so you can glow again and you will find that person but first you have to accept it acknowledge it and let it go and say it was for the best you have to find the positive out of it

[Viking_Girl19]

You need new boyfriend. You need true person that gives you true love... but there are too less such people in our world ((