How to stop thinking about my ex boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

It's been 4 months since he broke up suddenly. It was a 3 year-old relationship and all gone. His reasoning was how he drifted apart, there is no chemistry, falling out of love and more BS. I believe there is someone is involved.

I can't stop thinking about him. Since Feb, I've been secretly following him in secret, even rode the same bus (but was wearing a black hood and sunglasses to cover myself, avoid getting noticed) after getting off work. I know his schedule and routine by memory.

I'm guessing if I were a guy, this would be crazy. Ok I can't stop thinking about him, getting dumped suddenly and overall getting discarded as if all those 3 years meant nothing. I feel as if I can't stand it if I see him with another girl. He meant so much to me. I continue having to urge to follow him. Any way to get him out of my mind?

[Anonymous]

It's understandable to feel hurt and upset after a breakup, particularly after a long-term relationship. However, it's important to prioritize your own well-being and take steps to move on from the relationship.

Here are some tips that may help you stop thinking about your ex-boyfriend:

1. Cut off contact: Consider cutting off all contact with your ex-boyfriend, including unfollowing him on social media, deleting his phone number, and avoiding places where you might run into him. This can help reduce the temptation to follow him and allow you to focus on your own life.

2. Seek support: Talk to friends, family members, or a therapist about your feelings and experiences. Having a supportive network can help you process your emotions and move forward from the relationship.

3. Focus on yourself: Take time to focus on your own interests and hobbies, and set goals for yourself that have nothing to do with your ex-boyfriend. This can help you build a sense of self-worth and independence.

4. Try new things: Consider trying new activities or experiences that you haven't done before. This can help you explore new interests and meet new people, which can be a helpful distraction from thoughts of your ex-boyfriend.

5. Practice self-care: Take care of your physical, emotional, and mental health by getting enough sleep, eating well, exercising, and practicing relaxation techniques such as meditation or yoga.

Remember, healing from a breakup takes time and effort, but it's possible to move on and find happiness again. By prioritizing your own well-being and taking steps to focus on your own life, you can start to let go of thoughts of your ex-boyfriend and build a positive and fulfilling future for yourself.

[BCRanger10]

"I'm guessing if I were a guy, this would be crazy." It doesn't matter who stalks their ex, guy or girl. It's crazy and creepy either way.

[spartan55]

He broke up with you because you are batshit crazy. There is no one else.

[Asker]

I'm not crazy. I love him. It's not fair. We were getting along in the relationship and rarely argue. When you're in love, you think about them every day.

[spartan55]

You are literally following him around in disguise and know his daily routine. You think that's normal? Just being 'in love'? No honey, it's called stalking, and it's also illegal.
"I'm guessing if I were a guy this would be crazy"
Uh... no? It's crazy regardless, and you really do what you need to do to stop.

[slatyb]

Get a new boyfriend.

[karekaaaa]

Date other guys