Why can't I stop thinking bout my ex?

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Hi so I'm a 24(F) and I've been in a relationship for 2 years now. We've been having some issues lately, mostly him just being immature and not wanting to take initiative and responsibility.. I recently messaged an old friend from highschool (who is also an ex) to apologize to him because we had a small falling out years ago. We were always close after the breakup, he was the first person to talk to me when I transferred to our school. He accepted and added me on FB, he's expecting a kid with his girlfriend of 8 months. This is where it gets weird, I never healed from our breakup years ago, I still have feelings for him and when he added me it all came rushing back. He's so genuine and funny, so handsome and just perfect to me. I told him how I felt about him the other night because I felt like it was fair for him to know since he was in a relationship and we were close. He said he really appreciated me telling him and he just kept saying how crazy it is I just said thank you. He said he would try to talk to me more. But the thing is he hasn't talked to me at all, he won't even look at my last message.. He just makes me happy by thinking of him. He makes my face light up. I just wanna know if I'm being stupid or is there something there? He's always liking and heart reacting to my pics and statuses... I just can't stop thinking about him and a future with him... And it's driving me insane.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

So you’re unhappy with your current ship and are creating drama by trying to start something with your previous guy? Kid you need to grow up. Don’t mess with either guy this way just bc you suddenly can’t focus on what you want. It’s not fair to either of them.

Danny_dan92 · Accepted Answer

Ahh yes. A girl that thinks of an ex because her current relationship is shit… Reminds me of my ex. Lmao

Iron_Man · Accepted Answer

So you’re telling us now that you miss him that you’re having problems with your other relationship

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Diving headfirst into the tangled web of old flames and current frustrations, aren't we? It sounds like you're riding the roller coaster of unresolved feelings and what-ifs, which let me tell you, is as thrilling as it is tormenting. Let's tap into this, shall we?

You're not being stupid; you're being human. Those feelings didn't just vanish into thin air; they were merely tucked away. Reconnecting with your ex, especially one you've never fully moved on from, is like opening Pandora's box: out come all the old emotions, hopes, and dreams, ready to party. But here's the kicker – he's expecting a child and is in another relationship. That’s quite the plot twist!

While it's flattering that he's showering your online persona with likes and hearts, remember, actions in the digital world can be awfully misleading. They're the appetizers, not the main course. The fact that he hasn't pursued further conversation after your heart-to-heart might be his subtle way of setting boundaries, considering his current situation.

You're entangled in the idea of a future with someone who's currently building a future with someone else. My advice? Channel that energy back into yourself and your relationship. Identify what your current relationship is lacking and if it’s something you can mend or if you're craving something that's no longer serving you. Reflect, communicate, and decide if you're in it for the long haul or if it's time to move on, but this time for yourself, not for the remnants of an old flame.

Remember, moving forward sometimes means letting go of the past, even if it looks picture-perfect from afar. Stay fabulous and keep that chin up!

war_daddy · Answer

you're beign stupid

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