Ladies, Without blaming men, why can't you keep a man?

[Anonymous]

Simple question. Don't blame men, be real in your responses.

Also I'm asking this same question, but to men as well, that is why this is gendered, so responses that include "but what about men" or "why is this gendered" will be removed as nonsense responses and are against site rules.

Also asking anonymously so everyone can respond.

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1 y

For some reason I'm not getting near as many responses from the guys version of this question

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11 mo

To the pink anon who removed my comment and said *poof*... Turn about is fair play.. Poof.

[Fanfare690]

I can "keep" a man but that comes into questions if the man is worth keeping. Like the men I've been with ended up treating ME like shit. Not because of what I did but their own insecurities

[Asker]

Yeah that's just rough, I'm sorry. Something I learned, having an abusive ex girlfriend, I attract what I put out. I had to make serious life changes to get things right.

[Fanfare690]

Thanks. Ill take note of that

[Agape93]

If a guy and i break up, it just means either we don't vibe anymore or I can't give them what they want in life

[Asker]

Hey nothing wrong with that

[Asker]

Side note I'm not getting hardly any responses from the guys on their version. Either they are ashamed to respond or something else. I'm just glad I'm getting honest responses from the girls on this though.

[Apulu_backagain]

With my last ex, we just couldn't work. He was a really good guy but that was it about him. He would treat me really nicely and all but we wanted different things in life. And he was all over me.

He became super depressed when we were taking a break because our board exams were nearby. And he was basically obsessed with me, he would text me again and again whenever he could grab his phone. And I was nerdy so I spent most of my time with books because I wanted to score really good. And he didn't like no as an answer.

And he was so sure about me, but I wasn't. And honestly, I was the bad guy in this relationship. Not proud of it at all and I regret it.

I broke up from my side and he continuously texted me from other different numbers. I was exhausted from all of it.

And with my first relationship, he just liked the idea of having a girlfriend. He spent most of his time with his friends, I mean we were 14, every 14 year old is unserious and more about friends. But as he had more friends than me, I kind of felt alone and neglected so I broke up.

And that was the reason I couldn't work with either of them. And I don't plan on doing relationships until I find a guy I actually and genuinely vibe with. And I am more mature.

I said yes to my last ex only because I didn't want to break his heart because he was so sweet but I was not feeling the chemistry from my side. When I tried to reject him then he was all broken and our mutual friends were upset about it so I had to say yes.

I learnt my lesson there and I would rather be a harsh voice next time instead of people pleasure.

[Abbycado]

Don’t have an issue. Had the same boyfriend since last August.

[Asker]

Good for you!!

[midnightmoon05]

His mom. Can’t have a married with 3 people.

now with my second husband for over 10 years and we don’t have that problem.

[Anonymous]

I have so far. We live a pretty sweet life together.

[Asker]

Good!!!

[PrettyBarbieDoll]

To be honest if a man does not ask for my hand. Than i cut him off. I'm not for a relationship before marriage. If he doesn't like that? Bye!

[cara00]

because my standards are very high

[Asker]

That's actually not good. You face a situation where you don't meet the standards of the men who meet your standards

[chocolatetwopointo]

cuz i dont date

[Apulu_backagain]

Obviously no one dates an old ginger cat. You ain't even black or white.

[chocolatetwopointo]

okay