Do you think you are more selective about emotional attachment?

[Anonymous]

I feel I can be very selective, because even if I’m talking to 5-10 different people regularly for months, there’s probably only one or two who I’m attached to or would hurt me to lose them. That’s why I’m very careful who I let into my inner world or show some parts of myself to.
Are you someone who gets attached easily or takes some time but when you do, do so with all your heart?

[OneViewpoint]

Yup. Most people are completely disposable to me. It takes me years to get attached to the people I actually come to care about. Lot's of small interactions over a long period of time that demonstrate consistent high values and decision making.

Why? I've found that a lot of people are just not worth having around. And if you don't actively control and limit your exposure to them, they can eat up your time and resources without offering anything of value in return.

Are they "bad people"? No, LOL. They aren't axe murderers. They just don't move me forward in life and/or they drag me down and distract me from things that matter to me. They are just lumps of meat drifting through life on autopilot. I don't have anything in common with them. Why waste each other's time?

[Asker]

I agree with what you’re saying, although I don’t like to think of people as disposable or replaceable. They might not add that much value, but they’re still human beings. So even if we’ve interacted for a short amount of time, although I dont get attached; I also don’t think ill of them.
There were 1 or 2 however, who kind of surprised me and I got attached faster than I expected, and it hurt to lose them for a while, but life goes on after all. You’re right when you say consistency and honesty over time is what builds trust and demonstrates high value.

[BarryLiverstone]

I don’t get attached easily