Why do some people glorify beatings and violence while others don't?

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I wonder what causes different reaction in people that can be raised under similar circumstances. While one copies the same thing, even glorifies it, the other ends up hating it and doesn't repeat the cycle.

John underwent hardships growing up. He received a couple beatings and harsh tongue lashings at times. As an adult, he thanks his abusers for all the ''well deserved beatings' and harsh yellings' given to him. He claims that made him a respectful, good person with professional degrees and wants to raise his kids the same way. He really thinks disrespectful words should be met with a hard slap. He glorifies violence while claiming to be a good, citizen, obeying the lord and loves the bible.

Martin underwent the same hardships John did. He was also given that treatment and actually grew up hating it. He actually cries when remembering those times and never wants his future kids to undergo what he did. He doesn't accept what his abusers did to him as normal. He doesn't normalize it and even hates violence. He doesn't think it's normal to get assaulted for words. He even becomes a non-beliver in the end and feels good things should be done from free will, not out of fear of getting punished by god. He also grew up hating the bible.

If both were raised similar and even in the same year, and same circumstances, what causes differents reactions? One grew up glorifying the abuse he received (even giving too much credit to that) and the other never did.

FreyaRed · Accepted Answer

Lot of people that violence produces violence but this isn't true. You could say psycho pathology creates psychopathology but this isn't true either. People are like animals some kill to eat other animals kill sometimes for fun like cats, stouts and some birds which are genetically far from humans. Sadism is part of our evolutionary nature, it's an hundred of million years old instinct.
Another part of the violence is the psychological factor. Some people want to kill drug dealers or illegal immigrants on boarder, not because of some emotional satisfaction but because it's final solution and deterrence. For them it doesn't matter if the suffer or not, they should just stop to exist and make others fear they stop to exist either. A sadist sees projection of himself in killing of those criminals like kind of emotional gratification of his ego than as realistic solution for some issue. Of course a sadist know his emotional desire for violence is seen as perverted by most others, that's why sadists rationalize violence. There is always a reason to justify violence, even if it's sometimes totally inconsistent in reference point of logic.
In short, glorification of violence is emotional self-gratification on level of sadism, while rationalizing or concealing such gratification in more or less logical reasons.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

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egan3141 · Accepted Answer

Is this a real question that you can't keep your religious bias out of, or an insult against religion that you disguised as a question?

Regardless, here's the difference. John managed to figure out that all animals learn through both positive and negative outcomes. He also understood that if bad things don't have a negative outcome, there is no reason not to do the bad thing, which is why you must receive a bad outcome (violence) to dissuade the bad action. Martin failed to understand this. Because he doesn't understand what purpose a bad outcome serves, he only sees it as something he doesn't want.

Which is actually why our country/world is in such a mess right now. To many people are like martin and see punishment as a bad thing, and thought all things should be happy at all time, resulting in participation trophies, lesser punishments for crimes, increased forgiveness, and now we have a bunch of lazy, selfish, spoiled brats who are letting the government raise their children because: raising children is work, not fun, and not something that creates happiness, so they shouldn't have to do it. But they had children anyway, so they find someone else to raise them.

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

Daniella is back! Such a boomerang is GAG... a poison pill to waste our lives. Oh well, here's no answer...

Personality interprets what happens. Not sure how to define that. It's the makeup of that brain on how it processes information, rooted somehow in how someone feels about events.

John buys a sports car and parks it on a hill to take a photo of it. He's awash in the joy of seeing his hard work. A falling Space X debri comes from nowhere and smashes the car to bits and obliterates the car! He forgot to insure it, it's a total loss. He is so sick and depressed, his life is ruined and never recovers.

Martin has the same experience. After the car explodes he's like... that was the most bad ass thing I've ever seen. I'm so glad I wasn't in that car, I'd be dead. Martin goes on to recover, buy another car and raise 4 kids, a dog and a cat and a goat.

There's a difference in how the brain interpreted and processed the events.

Vesuvius87 · Answer

I find myself like Marvin. My husband and I will raise our Sunshine, our beautiful boy without religion and no physical punishment. Our types figured out that doing that to an adult is assault, a kid going that to another kid is bullying, spanking a dog with a belt is animal cruelty and young adults beating their elderly parents is abuse of an elderly person. Yet it's contradicting how an adult can do that to small humans, 1/2 their size is magically it changes to ''physical punishment''. It should be assault. Hitting is hitting.

Summeroflove · Answer

In some cases you can empathize with what someone’s going through, regardless of if it justifies the action. I can think what someone did was wrong but also understand why it happened. But that’s a case by case situation.

But most kids you see that’s never had a spanking. See how they act? Child abuse isn’t okay and also it’s not a excuse for how someone acts as a adult. But, you can tell a difference between kids who are disciplined and who aren’t.

DrPepper12 · Answer

There are at LEAST 400 traits that are unique to every baby. I have had siblings as students from the same house and let me tell you, there is no predicting or controlling for JACK SHIT

exitseven · Answer

Everyone is different. Even siblings that are raised i the same environment can become very different adults.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

It mainly depends on how they view justice as a concept

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

One is brainy, one suffers the Stockholm Synrome, i. e., identifying with his oppressor.

NathanDavis · Answer

differently wired brains...

Anonymous · Answer

I love it when my man puts me in my place.

jahaims · Answer

You don't understand what forms perspective?

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