What helps you shape you to be who you are today (positively)?

[bobalife]

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4 mo

I really enjoyed everyones unique perspectives and narratives :)

I thought it would be fair to share my own response that I shared with another commenter:

"As for me... every person I've met... people who were a part of a chapter in my life, stuck by me, or brief moments with strangers... all have helped inspire me to be a better person, what I wouldn't want to be or how to treat others, the people I allow to have a privilege to be a part of my life and get to know me, and to continue to

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4 mo

remain humble.

Every version of me before 2026 bobalife version has also been a part of my personal journey to accept, love, nurture, be proud, and content with who I am today and will become tomorrow.

As a perfectionist, I stand on business with my integrity and doing my absolute on everything I do with all the different roles I played throughout my life. But I have also learned to slowly let myself embrace my flaws and mistakes to reflect, learn, and give myself grace.

Challenging my consci

[ohsheeT]

It's the ability to look into somebody's eyes to feel their happiness or their pain and understand it , help them through

And no. Matter , what if we do in life or anything that happens to us, there are 2 sides to every story, and you have to be able to put yourself in those both those those sets of shoes.

And when?\n You realize that the most powerful thing in this world, and it will help guide you to the best part of life is the love that you learn and have for yourself, because when that happens, you forgive, you learn how to love other people.\n With boundaries.

Nothing in this world is really a big deal. Not unless we make it a big deal, but we can do anything and everything. It's all inside of us. We just have to find it
And that's why people comes into our lives , whether it's just to say hello or even?\nStay for a month a year. What have you? It's because they open those doors within us to allow us to see and feel new things in new ways

We all have our own emotions

But no matter what, we are, the only ones on the inside of us, they can actually let us feel love anger, sadness, happiness, nobody gives it to us. It's all within us bottom line

Somebody can do something and you feel happy about it. Well , the only way that you're going to feel that happiness is if you allow yourself to

Date, people who we say we love, they do something that we love. It makes us feel something. So we say we love them, but in all reality, we are the only ones on the inside. It can give us that love it can make us feel that love

When we were made , we were given all the answers we were giving all the emotions , all the feelings , everything

But until we realize we are the only ones they can make us feel anything.\nThat's why, when you love yourself. You can give so much more to others, just because of that energy. And that frequency , that's fifteen feet around you

[Rangers]

Hitting rock bottom and doing a lot of thinking and thought experiments to expand my knowledge and carve a path forward, which I've been doing since the new year.

I went from not caring for my health out of ignorance to eating canned eel, just now to get the omega 3 acids I need and I'm diving deeper and deeper into my health.

Every day I'm looking up what causes cancer, what foods reduce the odds, my odds of getting lung or pancreatic cancer and how to guarantee I never end up with it.

Luckily, despite all the bad habits I'm finally shaking, my odds of cancer are very low, for my life at 6.85% for lung cancer and 1.43% for pancreatic, so the two big ones are low, but that's not acceptable. And I have 11.55% of getting prostate cancer in my life.

None of this is acceptable at all and indicative of my irresponsible habits, but it also reveals that I'm light-years away from any form of cancer and I can easily pull further and further away from it, and I will.

I've seen the show "The Big C", i won't allow that to happen to me, to have my loved ones go through that, to suffer and die 30 years earlier than I should, no way, that's not happening. I'll die of ripe old age with white hair and shaky hands, now it's left to me to make it happen

[ElenaSeluna]

My parents for sure, each one of them shaped me in differently whether it’s in a positive or a negative way.. but, I believe my personal experience and interactions shaped me a lot more.. what about you😊

[bobalife]

Nice! Yeah, parents always play an important influence to our upbringing and who we are today.

As for me... every person I've met... people who were a part of a chapter in my life, stuck by me, or brief moments with strangers... all have helped inspire me to be a better person, what I wouldn't want to be or how to treat others, the people I allow to have a privillege to be a part of my life and get to know me, and to continue to remain humble.

Every version of me before 2026 bobalife version has also been a part of my personal journey to accept, love, nurture, be proud, and content with who I am today and will become tomorrow.

As a perfectionist, I stand on business with my integrity and doing my absolute on everything I do with all the different roles I played throughout my life. But I have also learned to slowly let myself embrace my flaws and mistakes to reflect, learn, and give myself grace.

Challenging my conscious and unconscious biases while challenging others was a woke.

Accepting the privileges I have and do not have in order to appreciate life a little better and give others fair treatment who walks in different shoes in their life.

Taking the time to be present and geuninely listen to others stories, perspectives, and diverse backgrounds help me to remain mindful, empathetic, and inclusive.

Embracing diversity and the beauty of it. This allows me to be culturally sensitive and attuned.

And I go on about all the pivotal moments and influences that shaped me to be the person I am, but I'll stop :D haha.

[ElenaSeluna]

That was nice to read.. I feel you are a unique in the way you are 😊

[midnightmoon05]

Life journey of ups and downs. Once fallen, don’t stay down. Get up and go again. Preserving. Don’t give up. Be flexible. Make good choices. Etc.

[bobalife]

Same, girl, same. Picking myself up every single time has been my thang since a kiddo.

[midnightmoon05]

So proud to you! ❤️ don’t give up! You are stronger than yesterday!

[bobalife]

Awww.. you are too sweet... GIRL, /YOU/ are a STRONG WOMAN! I am proud of YOU! :)

[midnightmoon05]

Update!! Beautiful.
Wondering if you will make offsprings to carry on your legacy?
I am a mother of two and a school teacher. I love children. I love it more when smart people make more offsprings.

[Zack-Bann]

Most of what shaped me are negative things


Which in itself is a positive thing I would say


We learn the most from mistakes, failures, adversity.


We shouldn’t shy away from them.


It also helps being your own harshest critic.
Although it’s important to cut yourself some slack every now and then to maintain your own sanity


There’s so many things that go into it so I won’t go into more details here but it’s one very interesting subject to think on

[CalmUntilAbused]

Positively? Whoa, that's a hard one. The love of God Almighty comes first, I suppose. Then my uplifting family relationships, and finally my positive relationships with my coworkers.

If we stretch the term "positive" to include "neutral", my Computer Science studies and continuous interest do build me up, as well, though they do not necessarily make me a better human being.

[Still-alive]

just keep on chugging along like a train, stop to take things in if you must, but i just keep on going. i let the sense of adventure, intuition and curiosity be my guide through this life. I also learned from the lessons of my past and take it all to heart. the good and the bad by the way. all this made into the proverbial soup of who i am today!

[Still-alive]

@update yess you’re doing great Boba! Just keep on going! You’re stronger now than before! 🫂

[StarWarGirl]

My struggles, my experience, people around me and the people whom I allowed to get closer to me.

[bobalife]

I love that for you, and I also love Starwars :)

[Anastasia4real]

Always care about my diet, iam always take my diet in time and healthy food, iam not a lazy girl always wake up early do some exercise and care about my skin..

[Jersey2]

Basic Training in the Army. It changed me. Even the neighbor ladies would tell my mom I would be going to jail in my mid-teens. Between Basic, AIT and my military service in the National Guard Field Artillery (155mm) coupled at the same time with college changed me for the positive.

[Nikki1989]

Love is the key to everything. I have been enjoying that ride since 2009, and it only gets better with age.

[MrChinaski]

Everything in my life that has gone before and everything that I wish for my future.

Sorry... it was either that answer or a 20,000 word thesis.

[AgentG111]

My parents and grandparents along with my kids.

Other side is many good friends and co workers and mentors in my career!

[msc545]

My empathy for others, my professional ethics, and my kindness and decency.

[Hopeless30]

Hungry stomach + financial insult by society...
Shape me the way I'm today.

[Miristheiss]

My mom, dad and grandmother.

[exitseven]

I have been a gym rat since the 9th grade

[butterly248]

Looking back on my past thinking wtf lol

[Likes2drive]

Having a motivational girlfriend

[ABitShattered]

The desire to live my life with integrity honestly

[LiamS95]

Reading my bible every morning

[Bklynbadboy12]

Morals and my life experiences

[beefcakebradybatson]

My parents.

[CubaPirate]

My morals