Why do some men pretend to be women online in chats and forums?

[Anonymous]

[msc545]

1. Exploration of Identity (Not Always Deceptive)
Some men are exploring aspects of gender identity, curiosity, or empathy.

They may wonder: “What is it like to be treated as a woman?”
It can be a safe, low-risk way to try on a different identity
Sometimes this overlaps with gender questioning or early-stage identity exploration
👉 This is not always malicious—it can be exploratory rather than manipulative.

2. Social Advantage / Different Treatment
People quickly learn that others behave differently depending on perceived gender.

Women often receive:More attention
More help/support
More engagement in conversations
Some men adopt a female identity to:Be listened to more
Receive validation
Gain social traction
👉 In behavioral terms, this is reinforcement: the behavior “works,” so it repeats.

3. Emotional or Social Needs
Some individuals feel they can express themselves more freely as a woman.

Men are often socially discouraged from showing vulnerability
Presenting as female may allow:More emotional openness
Safer disclosure
Less judgment
👉 In a way, it can be an indirect workaround for restrictive gender norms.

4. Trolling, Manipulation, or Deception
This is the more concerning category.

Some people do it to:Mislead others
Catfish (form false emotional relationships)
Gather attention or control interactions
In extreme cases:Financial scams
Emotional exploitation
👉 Here, the intent is clearly deceptive and often harmful.

5. Sexual or Fantasy Motivations
In certain spaces (especially anonymous or adult forums):

Some men adopt a female persona:For roleplay or fantasy
To engage in interactions they wouldn’t otherwise access
This can range from harmless roleplay to manipulative behavior

6. Anonymity Removes Accountability
The internet makes identity flexible:

No face, no voice, no verification
Low risk of consequences
Easy to create and abandon identities
👉 When accountability drops, experimentation—and sometimes deception—rises.

A Useful Way to Think About It
You can group motivations into three broad buckets:

Exploration → “I want to understand or express something”
Adaptation → “I get better results this way”
Exploitation → “I want to manipulate or deceive”

[Master_Debator]

Gay men have been the scorn of my online existence. They pretend to be girls... but they taught me something.

Gay men will ask for your dick picture.

Women will ask for your face picture.

Here ladies... how do I look at my age?

Here gay men... how do I look at my age?

We know who just wants to see a fat cock.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Loneliness and sexual frustration to the point they are willing to impersonate women for either trolling purposes or to get the perceived "good" focus that women get. I assure you though that it's definitely not all good, in fact, a lot of it is worse than in person.

[Asker]

Have you heard the story of Omprakash and Mujahid in India?

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

No i haven't

[Asker]

You can look it up on Google – it’s so crazy that you’ll think I’ve made the whole thing up if I tell you about it in the comments

[Apulu_backagain]

There were men catfishing to be women here to text me and get me more open. Few of them do it for this purpose. They pretend to be women and talk to other women and become very weird about it.

[Still-alive]

lemme know if anymore do that so i can report em!

[Apulu_backagain]

@Still-alive sure!

[loveslongnails]

They're lonely and want attention. Stupid people on this very app accuse me of being a woman, or being gay, because of my screen name. It can be taken several ways, but the way I intend it is that I love long nails on a woman. Not on myself, but on women.

Whenever I defend women's rights or call some jerk-off out for being a douche nugget, they immediately say "we all know you're a woman, and if you're not, you're a simp". Considering the source, almost always a magat, that's about what I expect from those knuckle draggers.

I'm certain there ARE men here posing as women, particularly the ones who constantly push trad wife propaganda and also belittle everything women's rights movements have ever done.

[Finchie40]

Because they are mentally ill and have nothing better to do with their free time I had
My fair share of catfish on the internet to the point I don’t fall for their nonsense whatsoever, if I talk to a girl from the internet I ask her to prove that she is legit and not blowing smoke up my ass , if she hesitates to video chat me or take a selfie I know they aren’t who they say they are

[msc545]

You probably should not attempt to diagnose mental illness unless you actually know what you are talking about. With all due respect, in this case, I don't think you did. Not liking something and mental illness are not the same things.

[nolabels]

I don't know.
That's pretty weird to me.

I sort of wondered if a very recent meeting here on G@G could have been a man posing as a woman.

As things turned out, her bizarre behavior couldn't have been perpetrated by a man.
Nope.
Nuh, uh.
No way.

Lol.

Cheers!

[OneViewpoint]

I have no idea. If you find the answer, let me know.

My assumption is that these are a relative handful of losers in society who are lonely, confused, and faced with too much spare time. That seems to infer mental illness.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Could be because of:

• Curiosity
• Some kind of social experiment
• Duplicitous tactics from someone gay
• Trolling
• Ticked the wrong box while registering, repeatedly
• Psychotic breakdown

[DryGermanGuy]

They are homosexuals and want to sext and exchange pictures with other men.

[Asker]

See m'y answer at Jazzy

[RavVid]

It is odd isn't it? Aside from the obvious though they might just want attention I guess.

Women get more responses etc.

[Sunshinelips]

At a guess it’s because men don’t get much attention online as a woman would.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I think they do it to troubleshoot why they're not getting laid.

[888theGreat]

to see them naked I would guess. Also women tell other women personal stuff. Like what she likes boyfriend to do sexually

[fish5505_87]

Who knows why anyone does anything anymore? Maybe they are trying to gain insight? Maybe, they are just tools.

[Surely]

Probably getting their cookies off at some one else’s expense!

[Staximus]

The same reason some men pretend to be women in real life. Because they are mentally ill

[Anonymous]

Because those guys Harbor latent homosexual feelings that they do not know how to deal with in any other way.

[blackeagle007]

Conning women into speaking to them to talk sexual stuff.

[Jeff51]

Let's ask pink anonymous people. There guys. Let's see what they say.

[Anonymous]

They are usually fat, ugly, pathetic, virgin losers who have to pretend being female so they are bot invisible to the world.

[Kingofkings1992]

They are losers who have nothing else better to do with their lives

[Massageman]

Nothing USEFUL to do?

[genericname85]

Cause women get attention and men don't

[Vegasrunner]

I think more women pretend to be men.

[guesswhereivebeen]

Because they are in the closet

[beefcakebradybatson]

They like handsome older black cowboys?

[In_Trance]

Mental illness

[jazzy34]

They’re weirdos.

[Asker]

In India, a man was flirting with another man on social media whilst pretending to be a woman. When he discovered he was actually talking to a man, he took revenge and forced the man to undergo gender reassignment surgery so that he would truly become a woman

[Agape93]

That's hilarious

[Asker]

@Agame93

Yeah, it's really funny. There's even a video of him crying after the operation. It's been all over the internet.

[Agape93]

Play stupid games and win stupid prizes. At least he won't be catfishing anymore lol

[Asker]

@Agape93

Exactly, seeing him in tears was really funny. The Indians said, ‘Now when he says it’s a woman, it’ll be true. 🤣

[Agape93]

Lol xD

[Asker]

@Agape93

Here is the video showing him crying after his gender reassignment surgery

youtube.com/shorts/3oW1flP-Wqw?is=5lLgdHP1-l70NPut

[Agape93]

Lol xD.

[tessa124]

@Agape93 why is funny?

[Agape93]

Because a dumbass that enjoys manipulating and lying to people about being a woman, was then himself tricked into having his dick removed.

[tessa124]

@Agape93

Yes, I’d understood the story. Poor man – now he has female genitalia; it must have been a terrible ordeal for him.

[Agape93]

So you feel bad for a manipulative liar? Why?

[tessa124]

@Agape93

What he did was wrong, but for them to go and subject him to a sex-reassignment operation is revenge on a whole new level

[Agape93]

So what? Catfish like him ruin lives all the time, but you feel bad for the one asshole who got a voluntary surgery done, just because he wasn't aware of what it was and didn't check first?

[tessa124]

@Agape93

I know he’s probably ruined people’s lives with his lies,

but I just want to say that it must have been a terrible shock for him when he woke up after the operation.

[Asker]

@Agape93

I completely agree with you; he used to say he was a woman on social media, and now he really is a woman – they’ve made his dream come true. So what on earth is he complaining about?

[Agape93]

It was deserved

[tessa124]

@Agape93

So, did seeing him cry make you laugh? Do you realise that this sort of operation is irreversible, and that he’ll therefore have to live the rest of his life as a woman?

[Agape93]

Yeap i know and yeah I laughed. I sincerely don't give a shit that he's basically a eunuch with a cooch hole.

[tessa124]

Ok...

[Agape93]

What's with the dramatic ok... ?

[Asker]

@Agape93

It is precisely because this operation is irreversible that it makes the situation even more hilarious

[tessa124]

@Agape93 Because, do you realize that when he woke up, he discovered he had a vagina? It must have been a terrible shock — everything that made him a man had disappeared.

[Agape93]

Again for the fourth time, I'm aware and he deserved it. Or do you think I should conjure up some empathy for the shithead? I can fake it if you want. I'm very good at it

[tessa124]

@Agape93

I don't understand how anyone could rejoice at such revenge. I mean, there must have been less violent ways to get revenge

[Asker]

No, this is a brilliant form of revenge. Imagine if he’d decided to beat him up – after a few days, the pain would have worn off.

Now, thanks to this sex reassignment surgery, every time he takes a shower, it reminds him of the mistake he made.

I think @Agape93 will agree with me.

[Agape93]

Honey I'm also the same one that literally writes her governor asking permission to legally murder sex offenders in my state. A surgery isn't violent. He chose to go in for it and chose not to check what surgery was taking place.

[Asker]

@Agape93 you are a queen 👑

[tessa124]

@Agape93

I went to find out more, and they led him to believe they were going to enlarge his penis

[Agape93]

So again, he didn't actually check with the doctor. He was dumb enough to trust his victim.

[tessa124]

@Agape93 Yes is true

[Agape93]

So why weep for someone that stupid

[tessa124]

@Agape93

Wouldn't it have been better to give him a good thrashing?

[Agape93]

That won't fix anything except make him less likely to actually show up in person. Pavloving a liar doesn't do anything

[tessa124]

@Agape93

Right, so that was a brilliant idea... ?

[tessa124]

I mean , so the sex reassignment operation

[Agape93]

It was funny but thats about it. Personally I'm happier if he just got shot and dropped in a ditch.

[tessa124]

@Agape93

That guy isn't a rapist. He was just pretending to be a woman to steal money from men

[Agape93]

I never said he was a rapist

[tessa124]

Ok. ...

[Julie07]

@Agape93

I don't even understand why he's crying 🤣

[Agape93]

Because he's a baby back little bitch

[Julie07]

@Agape93 It’s true, billions of people have a vagina – it’s not that big a deal.

[Agape93]

Yeap and he doesn't get the downsides. Except being in India with a vagina.

[Julie07]

@Agape93

That's true. Haha.

I read that doctors had performed the first uterus transplant on a transgender person and managed to help her have a baby.

Him should have to go through that too...

[Agape93]

Without an epidural.

[Julie07]

@Agape93 Haha of course When I see him crying in this video, it makes me laugh. I feel like telling him, "Darling, crying just proves you're not a man, and anyway, it won't give you your penis back."

[Agape93]

Its a dose of schadenfreude

[Julie07]

@Agape93

Me too – we’re cruel women 🤣

[Agape93]

And I have the diagnosis to prove it.

[Julie07]

@Agape93 The blokes he ripped off must have been pleased to see the consequences he faced

[Agape93]

Agreed

[tessa124]

Oh my God, I hope they haven't given her a uterus transplant as well

[Agape93]

Nah I doubt it.

[tessa124]

Luckily for him. It would be a disaster for him if, on top of everything else, he could get pregnant

[Agape93]

That would be even funnier tbh

[tessa124]

I'm sure that if he has a boyfriend, he'd approve of the idea 🤣