Is being pessimistic and easily offended a relationship red flag?

[Anonymous]

I am self aware that I am too passamistic, ego driven and have a low tolerance for some practical insults, specifically teasing.
I also tend to keep people who are too positive at a distance because mostly they are rich enough to sustain some damage, so they don't see the issues which me and friends go through.
On top of that I belong to a minority group to begin with in my own country, and coming to a different country made me a minority of a minority, so I don't mix with a lot of my own country people as I have PTSD flashbacks how they treated me and my equals and things are getting worse in my own country.
And I lose confidence as soon as some questions are along those lines. It's just my weakness

[bobalife]

With context, yes and no…
No, you are validated by your lived experiences and sensitive to certain topics/jokes that doesn’t feel right to you. You’re allow to feel how you feel with the impact of your country, culture, or challenges.
Yes, don’t let it internalize your perspective and feelings that influence how you think, feel, respond, or biases with everyone who may not look like you or may not always be as educated on what’s going on. It’s important to acknowledge how we feel/think and redirect our unhelpful thought patterns that could be distorted thinking and bring negative emotions. Give grace to others while giving yourself grace too.


It’s important to work on this to help you grow as person, innerwork, and be open to others :)

[Abbycado]

It’s something you need to show you can work on.

[NathanDavis]

you're the whole factory... of such red flags

[Asker]

Lol 🤣

[Asker]

It's not easy, when discrimination is happening to you in front of you.

[NathanDavis]

how did that happen?

[Asker]

Due to bullying, any form of insult feels a warning for physical pain.
Due to discrimination any form of rejection for my company or my plan, feels I am just not on their standard or they just don't like me (which is true, I am not like-able)

[Asker]

In my younger age, as soon as I tell them my surname, they would start discrimination.
Not making documents on time, failing me in an exam, and I felt untouchable.

[NathanDavis]

did you ever try therapy

[Asker]

Yes I did, it made things much worse cause I got so tied up in my own sadness that I couldn't get out of bed.
No progress, infact it felt I am going backwards

[NathanDavis]

have you tried... better therapy?

[strateguy632]

Either of those you are doomed. Run.

[In_Trance]

It definitely could be