How do you make real life changes when therapy isn’t helping you grow?

[Anonymous]

I tried therapy, but it didn't work, I want to make changes but there are too many restrictions, also being an Indian is a red flag all in itself.
We are burdened with economic and social status, Because some shit head people make others look fucking bad.
I genuinely escaped India but still I didn't escape the responsibility. I need to pay off loans and send money for my parents.
But at the same time I want to build my own new personality which is more suitable over here in the west.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

If you blame external sources for internal problems, you’re not doing it right

[Asker]

Meaning?
How can I not?
Because as soon as I make any progress I am reminded why I was what I was.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Internal issues are usually matters of accountability and recognizing that a lot of the problems you experience are self-imposed. I’m not saying they’re not real problems, but if you want internal issues to be solved, you have to find an internal source. For example, if you believe sending money back home is too great of a burden financially, you can choose to stop. Finances do not equate to actual love and support.

[Asker]

It's just something Indian have correlated to.

[Asker]

There are other issues as well.
Majorly loneliness and struggling to find something I like

[Asker]

If I can solve one thing at a time maybe I can change

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

So you’re saying Indian culture naturally depresses everyone in it?

[Asker]

In a way yes

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

And you’re out of that culture now.

[Asker]

Out of India but not out of the mindsets

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Right, which means it’s now an internal problem with zero external sources around you.

[Asker]

I wish I was born in a developed country in place of developing country.
I know, sometimes racism is shown by not giving opportunities!!
Back in india it was still the same.
In India there I used to get discriminated on my caste, and in someplace they even went out of there way to perform untouchability.
Or spit in front of me showing there disrespect, it happened when I was young and that have left a mark.
When I got a job things changed.
But even then some people did one thing made me feel that I didn't deserve that job.

[Asker]

@cupcake
I am glad that you can at least understand some of the things

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I was more just making my point

[Asker]

I am searching for a way to recover this PTSD kinda thing.

[strateguy632]

Changed are by self training ' build my own new personality' and practice.

[In_Trance]

If you really want it you pull out all the stops and make it happen

[Abbycado]

Try a new therapist?

[msc545]

Try a different therapist.