Why do so many people passionately defend bad or useless therapists?

[Anonymous]

Not all but a sizeable portion.

USELESS. Like I swear someone can be literally almost close to death and they'll say things like 'we're out of time right now but let me know when you need to book your next appointment.'

It's a business for them at the end of the day and they don't care about their clients. Moreover even when they are billing a lot of the time people get bad quality care that makes them think THEY are the problem.

I think a lot of this has to do with the fact that therapy isn't regulated enough.

And yet people get all defensive when someone points out the obvious. It's bizarre.

[Azaz09223]

I dont do it because of this.

I would like it to become intimate sexual between me and one of you non related 40-60 yr old women no non monogamous. I am heterosexual.

I made a combination by putting my hand up and it only unlocks if I do it and it was to stop terrorism and I picked it over women picking someone over me sexually to get the power over me and this was to stop aging and I have a 50/50 win on the first try as a backup and make me more physically attractive and I don't believe anyone has made a combination to do it that way because you would have to make a combination with numbers at first and then it goes to doing it yourself like putting your hand up and making a combination where only you can unlock it and it is the best one there is because there is a small chance someone can figure out your combination and no one can debunk it out as not being right. I made it like 11 days 16 hrs ago. The men who had women I was sexually attracted to had to keep men out with a combination and they didn't use the best combination and the best combination to use is the one where only you can unlock it no one else. We saw extraterrestrials crafts and we are neuro typicals and including a cop I know told me he saw an extraterrestrial craft. Also long combination do not work well because you will forget them or you have to hang onto it and someone could find it or find out what combination you wrote down. At first I started off with no combination.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

👉 "the fact that therapy isn't regulated enough" 👈

There's going to be a regulation problem in locations where anyone with a 6 months certification can open an office. Meanwhile, the psychologist title I know of requires 5 years of uni.

"It's a business for them at the end of the day and they don't care about their clients"

It's probably a business whenever you hear that patients are called clients lol

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

People defend them because what may be a bad therapist for you is a perfect therapist for someone else. Unless they’re promoting illegal practices or substances, a “bad” therapist is incredibly subjective.

[Asker]

I honestly find with therapists they are just a human being at the end of the day.

They are supposed to be a lot of things - unbiased, compassionate, non-judgmental etc. - but the reality is they are not.

Like human beings in general they're flawed.

So what is the point of having a therapist?

Just like some human beings are good some therapists are good but really it's about who they are as a person not necessarily that they are as therapists somehow good

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

A lot of it depends on the goals of the patient. Therapy is a solution-focused approach to the nth degree to whatever mental problems someone is experiencing. For example, let’s say someone’s going to therapy because their anger can get out of control and while they’ve never hurt anyone physically, they’re driving people away and that loneliness is only making it worse. The point of therapy in their case would be to find the source of the anger by talking it out in a safe environment.

[Asker]

I find that in a situation like that a) rarely is therapy truly a safe environment.

b) The therapist would most likely not get to the root cause of what the issue is. Maybe blame it on something from that person's childhood.

USELESS lol I really really hate them.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Well, yeah. Anger comes from pain as it’s a defense mechanism, meaning it most likely was something in that person’s past that made them believe being angry and lashing out was safer than trusting others. If you’re certain all your internal problems come from external sources, of course therapy won’t work for you

[Asker]

No it's usually not one or the other.

But therapists focus on only one - internal.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Yes, if you want someone to focus on the external, you want a mediator, not a therapist

[Asker]

Do you really think in life there are mediators?

Most of the time what happens is by the time the person realizes they've been in an abusive situation etc. etc. - there is no option of mediation.

It reminds me of a very apt situation I had heard of where someone said that their son married a narcissistic sociopath.

And when he turned to counselling after all the damage she did to him, they said 'it's probably something in your childhood.'

it's a myth that only men can be abusive. It probably took the guy some time to not only realize he was being abused but since he was married to her, to get out of the situation.

And when he is out of the situation to be told it's something in his childhood that's devestating.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I mean, I had a friend who hired a family mediator when it was becoming a situation of kids vs parents with a very real chance that they would all leave and never look back and that improved their relationships massively. Mediation is for repairing relationships, therapy is for repairing the individual.

[Asker]

I doubt an abusive person would agree to mediation

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Okay, I don’t want to keep arguing with you so I’m just gonna leave this here:
Therapy is if you want to take control of your emotions and over your individual life.
Psychiatry is if you want medication for chemical imbalances that are out of your control making your life worse.
Mediation is if you want a third party to help improve any damaged relationships in a way that makes everyone feel heard and listened to.
If you want to hire someone that will help you understand why everyone treats you terribly, why everyone takes you for granted all for no reason because you’re always a good person, see a psychiatrist for a diagnosis of some kind of NPD and specialized treatment.

[Asker]

I never said any of the above that everyone treats me terribly or everyone takes me for granted etc etc.

But what I've observed is usually in situations when that happens it's not because that person is bad it's because that person is underestimated by the world.

I especially see taht when it comes to women.

[Anonymous]

I get a lot of help from my analyst/therapist. Id recommend his services

[indissoluble]

Psychology is a pseudoscience based around spiritualism. It's basically zany new age satanic bullshitery cult. The psychologists are the cult leaders, and the "willing patients" are the cult members. So obviously the cult members will defend their cult leaders and keep bringing them resources.

[indissoluble]

Think about how cults work...

Thought reform is an umbrella term for any number of manipulative techniques used to get people to do something they wouldn't otherwise do. What do psychologists do? They reform the way you think. Cult brainwashing techniques are similar to techniques used in prisoner interrogation intended to change a person's thought processes. In cult recruiting and indoctrination, they use techniques like isolation, deception, induced dependency, and dread to control people. What is the first thing a psychologist does? They isolate you in a room. They interrogate you. They fill your head with bullshit. They come up with a diagnosis to tell you that something is wrong with you, and you need them to fix it. They make you dependent... They set up more appointments... They get you addicted to drugs... You have to keep coming back for your prescriptions... It's a cult.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

There are psychologists prescribing medication in your location?

[indissoluble]

@Maybe_Maybe_not Psychiatrists prescribe medications. Higher level cult leader...

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Hmm okay, since a recruiter also isolate, interrogate and fill your head with stuff, where are they in the organization?

[indissoluble]

@Maybe_Maybe_not You're probably like the door greater at the Scientology building.

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/eg3rEI7Xg5E

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I'm not sure scientology exists around here, I'll take a look

[indissoluble]

@Maybe_Maybe_not Scientology started as "talk therapy "...

[indissoluble]

It literally arose out of Dianetics which was a pseudoscientific psychological treatment in the 1950s

[indissoluble]

They use techniques from hypnosis to create dependency and obedience.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I looked it up, it seems to be a very discreet cult around here because I never heard of it. To add more irony to the current theme, scientology rejects psychiatry and any psychoactive meds altogether lol

[indissoluble]

@Maybe_Maybe_not It literally started in the cult of psychology, but was eventually rejected. So they reject those who rejected them. It's basically a religious schism.

[msc545]

If you really know so much about what is appropriate for a therapist to say and do or not Say and do probably you should just become a therapist yourself. I would invite you to do that so you can find out exactly how easy it is. I think you might be surprised at your misconceptions and ignorance.

[Asker]

I have a career that is way harder than a therapist education-wise.

A psych major would be a joke for me

[Dargil]

I called my doctor because I had diarrhea. He put me on hold.

[Anonymous]

Just because you had a bad experience doesn’t mean they are all bad. Grow up.

[Opinion Owner]

Oops too late. 🤣

[Asker]

A very substantial portion of them are and a it's not just a one-counsellor experience and I have had multiple people say the same thing.

I think it's you who needs to grow up

[Ariesman81Nshiiit]

Therapist... the rapist. Now unsee it.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

You’re a 45 year old man

[Ariesman81Nshiiit]

Excellent observation

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

You’re too old for middle grade humor

[Ariesman81Nshiiit]

I'm old enough to do whatever the hell I want

[Ariesman81Nshiiit]

And young enough to be good at it