Is being entitled really better than being fearful and fake?

[Anonymous]

Well I always hated the polar extremes. Both are very unhealthy. I know there is the middle ground.

Someone raised entitled has problems interacting with others and pushes you to your limits so much. Or if they dislike you or something, at least they are upfront about it; that's honesty.

On the other hand, someone raised to be fearful of you doesn't respect you. Who knows if they're even talking behind your back and act all nice in your presence. Who knows what things they would do behind your back and getting caught keeps them from acting?

If hypothetically speaking, those toxic, polar extremes were the only options, I'll take entitlement and bratty over fearful anytime. At least they're honest and they have no hardships nor traumas.

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If those two were the only options and no middle ground existed, then I'd rather spoil them than making them fearful, with fake moral compass. Someone fearful that's only complying to avoid getting caught and overdoing it with the good manners is worse to me.

[exitseven]

I would definitely take being entitiled over being afraid all the time.

[Asker]

Exactly. If I had to select which of those extremes for my son, yeah I would rather spoil him than make him afraid of me. Someone that's afraid has trauma.

[Anonymous]

I don’t like being entitled that’s being spoiled

[Asker]

I know. All extremes in life are toxic. Luckily there exist a middle ground, where it's neither.
I just find it funny when many people demand honesty but sometimes won't like it. At least someone entitled that got spoiled in life will give honesty (even brutal honesty) vs fearful compliance where they are so polite but lie to your face. You won't get honesty from someone fearful.

[Opinion Owner]

Well, what are you gonna do if a girl for example ask you am I pretty and you say no you’re not is that why you’re going to tell her. some girl that feels insecure and has trouble getting dates

[Asker]

I would say you don't need to seek people's approval. You have to work on yourself, your self-esteem and confidence first.

[Opinion Owner]

you sound like Dish Lady do you know that user

[Asker]

I think so. That user sounds very familiar.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes…

[Anonymous]

Both are bad. Worse isn't important.

[Asker]

That's why that's a middle ground. In reality both are very toxic. Neither Is good for anyone.
It's just that if I were in that hypothetically situation of either spoiling or placing fear (and those were the only options)... I'd rather spoil.

[Abbycado]

Nope

[Asker]

It's funny when others keep saying you don't love them if you spoil them. I think the same if you apply fear on them. That's not showing love either.