How do I cope with feeling hated for being a trans girl who wants to be feminine?

[ElizaPam]

my life has been ruined and I have felt so much pain and dehumanizing and fear because I hated being a boy. I hoped puberty would change that and make me happy as a boy but it just made me want to die. so at age 14 I transitioned. in 2008, in East Tennessee, all alone, by myself, with no support. Everyone was so mean, my mom was especially mean. if I was a violent criminal man who harmed women nobody would hate me. people would respect and fear me. but since I want to be beautiful and feminine I’m a monster. this world is twisted the human race is sick I don’t belong here

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

It's hard not to put value in what others think of you when you have body dysmorphia, trust me, I speak from experience.

As for being trans though, I can only say that this country is totally fucked by Christian nationalists who want to force you into hiding or worse. The only thing you can do is fight. I know it's something I am going to have to do too to save my marriage from these same people who want to do the same to those who are gay.

Fight as if you're life depended on it, because it very well may be. I don't just mean protesting, but just being out there in public living your best life. Don't let them win. Force the issue. Show them that you are who you are and there is nothing wrong with that.

I am proud of you for going through with your transition. I honestly am. That takes courage knowing there is going to be hate and personal struggles. Don't let anyone take that away from you.

[Agape93]

Switch it up. Try to start enjoying that you piss off assholes. Enjoy that your very existence upsets them, because you're denying them what they want. Fuck em

[loveslongnails]

You cope with it by not giving a flying fuck what other stupid people think. Explain to me exactly why the opinions of idiots should mean something to you? I understand they affect you because of the legislation they can pass, which leads me to the question below.

Even though the USA has over a million trans people, you face all kinds of backlash and hate in many areas. Have you considered leaving the USA and moving someplace where trans isn't considered a big deal and is much more commonly accepted? Well, you should. There's good living to be found outside the USA, and much, much more affordable too.

[OneViewpoint]

You had unrealistic expectations at 14. Now you're dealing with the reality of your decisions as an adult. Yet you still expect the rest of humanity to change and accept your choices. Good luck with that. You chose to have a very small circle of people around you for life. You are gonna have to find a way to live with your choices.

[Ironco]

I mean no disrespect, but at 31 can't you just dress and be a female. Know one needs to know you are trans.

I get you went through hell in the past, but let it be. Move on and forward.

You be who you want to be.

Good luck and stay safe.

[MrChinaski]

Same as everyone else. Build the life you want.

It's not your fault that some people are evil haters and you can't do anything to fix that.

[strateguy632]

I know my feelings. I don't feel any hate towards you for trans. Just remind yourself people like me don't hate you.

[DonaldDarko]

Stop imitating women. Then people will stop being disgusted.

[jshm2]

You don't.

It's the choice you made.

[slatyb]

Can you see a professional counselor? One helped me in different circumstances.

[msc545]

You sound really impressed and upset. Are you able to get some professional help?

[msc545]

Sorry, I meant to write depressed.

[Kvass]

Stay strong dude.

[Anonymous]

Be the boy you were born as. Simple.

[ElizaPam]

I would rather die than never feel beautiful and enjoy cute clothes and be some boring, hairy man. I would rather die

[jahaims]

By seeking mental help

[fishbone77]

cool story, dude.