Should I be mad at my boyfriend for letting his friends give me birthday spankings?

[Anonymous]

I am 22 now as of yesterday and had a nice birthday party that my boyfriend through for me. We had a real good time went swimming and had a cookout. Me and my boyfriend most always get along with each other and never argue. We are both very easy-going people. Yesterday at my party after swimming I put on a nice birthday skirt and cute top. Just being funny like he normally is my boyfriend thought it would be funny to hold me down and let everybody give me birthday spankings. I fought with them for a few minutes just wrestling around trying to get away from them. My boyfriend's friends who I am very close with all lined up to give me birthday spankings. The embarrassing part was while I was trying to get away my skirt had lifted up halfway up my butt and the bottom of my t butt cheeks and thongs were hanging out. we were all laughing and having a good time but the guys were hitting my bare butt. I laughed it off and let them finish, my butt cheeks were bright red when they were done. Even though I was very embarrassed I just brushed it off and went on with my party. is this something I should be mad at over my boyfriend. I am still a little embarrassed to be around the guys because of showing my butt in them smacking it.

[badAngel]

I personally have way too much selfrespect to let ANYONE, treat me like that. But that's just me and people are different. The fact that you just let it all happen and laughed it away doesn't sound good to me honestly. I would never be in a situation like that so I wouldn't really know how I would react either, so I guess I will give you the benefit of doubt. But more importantly the fact that your boyfriend has SO LITTLE respect for you that he would do something like that, is just, well I don't even have any words. I'm sure he likes you and I'm sure he does care for you, but treating you like your some kind of slut? No.



Sometimes having selfrespect and personal boundaries at all times, is what MAKES people respect you. Try it.

[badAngel]

In my world, that's not ANYTHING NEAR acceptable, not realistic, non existing, not possible. But then again, many would say that I live in a tiny world.

[KingsOfleon88]

I like her perspective. Kudos to you.

[katiesmuff]

I'm quite sure it didn't bother any of them. Not much adventure for a guy to see a bare ass these days with the clothes and swimwear girls wear.

If it makes you feel any better a month or so ago the restaurant/bar I work at held a bags tourament sponsered by Red Bull. Had a great turn out with lots of on lookers. One female player little tippsy I would say wearing a short blue skirt with a white thong unknowingly while bent over was showing not only her ass, but the thong had scrunched to one side between leg and the magic lips giving everyone full shot of her! Yes that exactly! lol Imagine that nobody even attempted to tell her of her problem, but a good many phone cams were clicking away!

[Anonymous]

yeah that was kinda jerky but girl you should have stood up for yourself if you didn't like what was going on you can't expect others to do it for you. woman up next time.

[AustinMan]

I think it's up to you. If your knee jerk reaction is not to be angry, then let it go. If you want, in a few days or weeks, just let him know you don't want to be in that position, literally, again. That he can for sure spank you most anytime he wants, including birthdays, but others are not so entitled. Unless you're opposed to him spanking you?

[kholland65]

Your boyfriend isn't funny, he's an a**hole. I would never do this to my Girlfriend because its totally degrading. It be one thing if I went up to my own Girlfriend and gave her a little birthday spanking, but exposing her ass to my entire group of friends and letting them line up to spank her is not my idea of a joke.

[dan123z4]

he was tactless and you should point it out to him in a nice way and try to make him understand how you felt. If he apologizes and you can tell it was just a mistake and he's sorry than that's that. But if he doesn't care and thinks your being stupid than you have a right to be mad at him

[RavVid]

I am puzzled at you now being 22 but under Anonymous it is 36-45. Leaving that aside, I don't detect a great level of offense on your part.

There is no mention of other women at your birthday which seeing you are a girl an all, I would have thought you would have had some female friends there. Was it an equal opportunity spanking where the girls got to spank you to?

I am rather thinking this is a spanking fantasy. Nothing wrong with that I hasten to add.

[Hellfireandcandy]

If that's something you haven't talked about or okayed, then you should be mad. That's not just a casual thing to have a bunch of guys spank you with explicit consent first.

[Anonymous]

speaking strictly as a guy who was abused by a drunk father and had the crap beat out of me as a kid, ...GET OVER IT!

I'll gladly trade one memory of a bloody face and chest for a friendly spanking!

PERSPECTIVE!

[badAngel]

What about "dont let him treat you like sh*t" ?

[Opinion Owner]

what about father being bigger than a 6 year old?

[badAngel]

You were abused as a child and you couldn't do much about it. But she CAN. Just because you were treated like sh*t even tho you deserved better doesn't mean other should let themselfs be treated like sh*t. Shit happens, but avoid it if you can. Common sense isn't it. Get help!

[Anonymous]

For the win:

This is a guy, posing as a girl and projecting his fantasy?

[MylesF]

Your boyfriend is a jerk. He basically allowed multiple people to sexually abuse you.

[KingsOfleon88]

Your boyfriend is a douche.

[Anonymous]

Uh... yeah. Wow.