Why do guys suddenly grab your hips a lot harder when you're dancing?

[Anonymous]

this always happens to me! like they will have their hands on my hips as you normally do while dancing and all of a sudden they use a lot more force and some even pull me closer towards them by my hips.

i'm surprised they don't move their hands around. hey keep them on my hips instead, and just suddenly they grab them so hard that I can feel it to my hip bones.

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Is it possible that guys do this when they get turned on?

I just read that girl's answer and remembered that the guy said he loves the dancing and he smiled and told me to watch out and stuff

[coolbreeze]

They do that so that way you don't run away. Some girls run away in between songs or their girlfriends pull them away from guys. So if a guy grip you and hold you tight they don't want to let you go or have you run away after the song is over.

[Asker]

hmm but I didn't make any signs of leaving. I was already almost hugging him, we stood so close already

[coolbreeze]

Yes it is possible guys do this when their turned on. They pull girls closer and grind on them. Since you said you was almost hugging him I'm surprised you and him didn't kiss and make out. Guys like to do this with girls as well.

[Asker]

well he did want to kiss and make out :)

[coolbreeze]

Lol did you kiss and make out with him? :) Some girls like doing stuff like that and other girls don't. If I make out with a girl dancing I at least try to make sure I have gum or fresh breath.Lol

[Asker]

i was turned on by him but I couldn't decide whether I should kiss him or not. I told him that too lol so he started kissing my cheek and neck and slightly pushed me against the wall behind me. but I still couldn't decide so he kissed me on the lips and I gave it a try but after 2 seconds I pulled away lol I'm terrible!

[coolbreeze]

Lol. Your not terrible. :) I think you would of had to feel a very strong connection for you to kiss him all the way. Something held you back . Some guys like a challenge and to be teased a little. Maybe he should had kissed you neck more.I think it's good that he at least turned you on and you did let him at least kiss your cheek and neck. And after you kissed him for 2 seconds did you feel anything?

[Asker]

yea tongue and wetness! lol I've only kissed one guy before him and he wasn't giong that directly into like this guy :S

[Asker]

*into it

[coolbreeze]

Lol. Tongue and wetness cute.So wow you only kissed one guy before him?Yeah kissing can be fun and good depending on if the guy or girl is a good kisser. Maybe the guy dancing was moving to fast. He should had tried to take things slow.

[Asker]

do you think it's OK to tell a guy that I don't have kissing experience? even when he's a stranger I'll never see again? I can't relax until I told them :-/

[coolbreeze]

To be honest I feel it's nobody buisness. It's like only kiss a guy if you want to. I think it was good practice for you. And having no kissing experience isn't nothing to be ashamed of. It's no different then not having experience in dancing and other things.It's a learning process. If it makes you happy then tell a guy. Some guys might be OK with it and others might be turned off.Me personally I would either try to teach a girl to kiss or not pressure her to kiss me.Don't over analyze it.

[Zerokoool]

Maybe they figure that the tighter the lock they have on you, the less likely they'll step on your feet

[Asker]

haha yea maybe

[skibunny]

My boyfriend does that when he gets all hot and bothered but we're in a public situation. :)

Maybe they're a little sexually flustered.