I just need some honest opinions with my situation. I have been in a relationship with my mistress for two and a half years. We are both married. Well her and husband are going through a divorce because they have unhappy with each other for years. My marriage has been falling apart also for about three years also. Me and my wife may be filing once we take care of some very important financial matters. Anyway when me and her started to mess around we both agreed that we will not force each other to leave our spouse if we got closer . She has a couple of kids from her marriage. She has a busy schedule work and taking care of her kids. I commend her for what she does daily. Lately we have been having issues because of her schedule changed. We try to spend time with each other but we have conflicting schedules. We try our best to keep our lines of communication and quality time. But it gets complicated at times. She has to make sure she takes care and spend time with her kids. In which I support her 100%. But now it seems like our quality time has become almost non-existing. So a few weeks ago she told me that she wanted to end our relationship. Due to the fact we hardly see each other. Well she was the one that made things harder. She want's to keep our relationship hiding from her kids. She keeps on flip flopping. She wanted me to come over when her kids were asleep. Then she said she couldn't do that. So we had to meet somewhere else. Then she said she couldn't do that because she had to be there with her kids. So she asked me to come over when they are sleep. Then she decided that she couldn't do that. She said her kids will be waiting up for her @ 1130 pm. She said that we had to do it on her off days but I couldn't do that unless it's around nine. She agreed but changed her mind a few days later. She told me it will have to be 11 pm. I couldn't do that because I had to get up for work @ 530 am. She has been doing this every once in awhile. I believe she is so confused. She told me that she still loves me but it will be too hard to see each other. It's so confusing because she ask me multiple times to never leave her. She also told me she wanted us to be strong and never to give up on our relationship. The most recent was about two weeks ago when we were together. She text me about a week and half ago telling me she truly loves me but her kids come first. I understand and respect that. She also stated that I need to leave my wife. That she needs me with her more often. I. She also knows what the situation is with my wife. After talking it seemed like everything was going well. Then come to find out she was she stressing about us unable to see each other. Then about few days ago she gave me an ultimatum. She wanted me to leave my wife and be with her. If I didn't then she can't be with me. I love her also but I cannot do what she ask me to do. I want to keep what we agreed on. Anyway what should I do since she keeps giving me this ultimatum?
Coffinspire, It's nothing wrong with what you said. My wife has changed a lot. She used to stay in shape now she doesn't want to workout anymore. I'm not attracted to her no more and we don't have sex at all. She knows I'm all into fitness and If I'm staying in shape I expect the same from her. She always knew that I am not attracted to overweight women. I never come at her as a butthole when I try to get her motivated. Me and my mistress just became a lot closer and now it's hard me to go back.
At one time I did want to leave her right now. But I just keep on thinking what if I did and my mistress end up changing on me? That's why I was trying to play it safe and hope my mistress would change her mind. She's known to do that often. This situation is tough but I know it's wrong.